How to find the right partner | Tony Verheij | TEDxTwenteU

  • Published: 06 November 2013
  • This man can tell you anything about making big money with less effort, but he also has a very interesting story about true love. And it is this love-story that will inspire you in this talk. Listen to his talk and learn the secrets of how to find the right partner, right now!

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Comments • 765

  • Tim Johnston
    Tim Johnston  4 weeks back

    no, wait. I think I do see what hes saying. This happened to me and a lady friend I met 2 yrs ago.

    • Tim Johnston
      Tim Johnston  4 weeks back

      came for what the title said. still unclear to me. sorry. seems like a nice guy tho

      • Intuitivelogic
        Intuitivelogic  1 months back

        I believe in the potential idea of love at first thought , given that the thought is expressed in a thorough manner that shows many aspects that the person has a compatable personality to mine .

        • Kierkegaard
          Kierkegaard  1 months back

          Lay off the meth fella.

          • Seti Depp
            Seti Depp  2 months back

            The person passing the presentation has 80% of the fault here...

            • Billionrosannae Chhouk
              Billionrosannae Chhouk  2 months back

              Lovely presentation. My only critique is to diversity the images of deception (currently mainly women and old women are used as images of being dishonest or unattractive).

              • Rami Sen
                Rami Sen  2 months back

                Showing ur real face to the one who is worth for showing❤️

                • Notmytoe
                  Notmytoe  2 months back

                  He should write a book or maybe some articles.

                  He seems like he has some wise things to say but speeches aren't the best way for every single person to share their knowledge. And that's okay, but I would really like to know what he can say on a medium he is more comfortable with.

                  • anabellschan
                    anabellschan  2 months back

                    I just want to have an idea about to recover , when you show your truly face, and open your heart and get just desception, I've just see the video, and I don't know how can I trust against, and recover

                    • Fiona Krommenhoek
                      Fiona Krommenhoek  2 months back

                      Hij is Nederlands zo te horen 😂

                      • Kei S
                        Kei S  3 months back

                        This is a very sweet, short yet for me, ground-breaking. True love is based on love and acceptance of who you are which will only happen if you show your true self.
                        Moreover, true love is based on loving the person because you love them as who they are without subconsciously thinking that you will manipulate them to change in the future,

                        • conchita roxas
                          conchita roxas  3 months back

                          Wow I like they love each h other I wish I like that

                          • Héctor Palí Maldonado
                            Héctor Palí Maldonado  3 months back


                            • besiana mani
                              besiana mani  3 months back

                              So refreshing to hear his talk. Great topic and message with such raw authenticity, rare to find.

                              • GERMAN ORDOÑEZ
                                GERMAN ORDOÑEZ  4 months back

                                With big p...p...p...potential, jajajajajaja !

                                • Rosemary Benitez
                                  Rosemary Benitez  4 months back

                                  💛 amazing

                                  • Sara S.
                                    Sara S.  4 months back

                                    To be honest, this is the most interesting presentation i've seen. It was so wrong but it seemed to flow so well, that got me thinking that he maybe wanted it to be like this, ending with "if you open your true self, people will love you" and he opened himself and his stage fright and now our emotions have intensified towards him! Brilliant ! Takes regular presentations to a different level.

                                    • aina may
                                      aina may  4 months back

                                      That is ulfo

                                      • Batool
                                        Batool  4 months back

                                        is this ted talk or fart talk?

                                        • Code: 08:11
                                          Code: 08:11  5 months back

                                          Waste of 4 minutes

                                          • hossein abdolmotalebi
                                            hossein abdolmotalebi  5 months back

                                            It is not so hard to have a note with you , you know

                                            • Dylan De Loe
                                              Dylan De Loe  5 months back

                                              This was a bad presentation. Not for his skills as a speaker, but for how vague and misleading the conclusion is. "If you want to touch a woman, you have to touch her heart. If you want to touch a man's heart, you must touch him," is a massive overgeneralization. Some people don't want to touch or be touched, sometimes they want to be heard, or be helped, or to spend quality time with someone. The conclusion also betrays what came before it, about taking off our masks and showing who you really are. That point is also mostly vague, but not helpful as well. If you're messy by nature(like me), maybe you DO need to clean before your lover gets home. Build habits of personal growth, go beyond your limits, change bad behaviors into good ones. Be honest that you struggle with something, but don't stop working at it.

                                              • Troja Sin
                                                Troja Sin  5 months back

                                                grt msge frm his gesture

                                                • Sanjay Dabholkar
                                                  Sanjay Dabholkar  5 months back

                                                  This was really funny 😅
                                                  I loved his presentation.. felt real

                                                  • Bas •
                                                    Bas •  6 months back

                                                    This reflex very much of myself especially my personality and my presentation that I recall. And I'll tell you now that the thing is I, or we, may not do very well to memorise the whole thing and perform on that basis, but I do much better in expressing myself though, indeed, I'm nervous as much whether if I'd be able to communicate or not. Anyway I agreed on this short and remarkable speech. I now sending my love. God bless.

                                                    • Mansi patel
                                                      Mansi patel  6 months back

                                                      Stop sending hate to him he's trying his best to talk it's his 2nd one chill and he has a good messages

                                                      • chonita bonita
                                                        chonita bonita  7 months back

                                                        A very sincere and touching talk. I enjoyed it.

                                                        • Omansh Kumar
                                                          Omansh Kumar  7 months back

                                                          Bakwaas hai

                                                          • Judit Dirda
                                                            Judit Dirda  7 months back


                                                            • nouran samy
                                                              nouran samy  8 months back

                                                              I got impressed by this man ,his authentic speech deliverd all what he asked for, to be yourself to have enough courage to show your flaws and confess your faults as if this is the last time to talk about yourself, so you need to be wholeheartedly honest about who you are ..the biggest life challenge ever foe all of us to be ourselves .

                                                              • Kostas stv
                                                                Kostas stv  8 months back

                                                                One of the most boring speeches in TEDx.

                                                                • Lana Schott
                                                                  Lana Schott  8 months back

                                                                  He was sincere and genuine I don’t think American men know how to be like this.. it could be a European thing... I opened my heart to someone I fell in love with too quickly I couldn’t contain my emotions and it scared me because I have never been like that But he ran away afraid of his emotions so I guess on the end it wasn’t meant to be. Being a Sagittarius I am emotional but at my age I’ve learned to tamper it but not in this situation which ended in heart break 💜😔

                                                                  • Jon Aedyn King
                                                                    Jon Aedyn King  9 months back

                                                                    might be the most heteronormative tedtalk I've ever come across

                                                                    • Kris S
                                                                      Kris S  9 months back

                                                                      I like the message but I hate that it’s very hetero-focused

                                                                      • cMar Rain
                                                                        cMar Rain  9 months back

                                                                        7 minutes of my life I'll never get back.

                                                                        • Jupiter Astronaut
                                                                          Jupiter Astronaut  9 months back

                                                                          I wish he could get a second chance to make his message clearer

                                                                          • Marwa Radee
                                                                            Marwa Radee  10 months back

                                                                            so sweet

                                                                            • varq j
                                                                              varq j  10 months back

                                                                              I salute ur courage .I do also have stage aint easy to stand in front of people and share what u want to share....thank u for sharin ur wisdom about this talk...

                                                                              • Amira Akmal
                                                                                Amira Akmal  10 months back

                                                                                Thank you so much for the efforts I enjoyed your talk

                                                                                • Mr. Perfact.
                                                                                  Mr. Perfact.  10 months back

                                                                                  Looking partner PM please.!

                                                                                  • Gidda Eliasel
                                                                                    Gidda Eliasel  11 months back


                                                                                    • THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE NURSE

                                                                                      I see both sides, the title is misleading. Yes the man is nervous and trying his best, however there were times my mind blanked out while watching this because, I didn’t know where he was going with his speech. People who probably clicked on the video, maybe are looking for more direct advice. That might be why, there are not so many kind comments. At the end of the day, it’s not his daughter. It’s whoever decided to title this video and post it for all to see.

                                                                                      • Niva-Or Ruvio
                                                                                        Niva-Or Ruvio  11 months back

                                                                                        Thank you

                                                                                        • Yeon-Sil Yi
                                                                                          Yeon-Sil Yi  11 months back

                                                                                          Thank you Tony for sharing wonderful insight! Your message is so simple and no-brainer but we do get along with our daily lives not aware of that powerful message. Thank you for reminding me and presenting me in a clear and concise manner. I really appreciate it!

                                                                                          • Céu Lopes
                                                                                            Céu Lopes  11 months back

                                                                                            Verheij is a Dutch name. He is our Dutch Pride....! Tony's performance is very good! Hugs from Holland!

                                                                                            • Ali ŞEN
                                                                                              Ali ŞEN  12 months back

                                                                                              worst talk ever

                                                                                              • Amanda Jane
                                                                                                Amanda Jane  12 months back

                                                                                                Thank you Mr. Verheij. I suffer from stage frights but you taught me something other than what you're delivering. You've taught me that being myself is the only confidence that i need. Plus, you nailed it! :)

                                                                                                • Binta Bajaha
                                                                                                  Binta Bajaha  12 months back

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