How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity

  • Published: 29 November 2018
  • Is proclaiming your love for someone truly enough? Femi Ogunjinmi brings to light what fully constitutes an enduring, fulfilling relationship through his engaging experiences. Femi Ogunjinmi, mostly known as Gfem is a certified life coach, international relationship coach, award winning motivational speaker, and a radio talk show host who has been improving the lives of singles and couples for over ten years. He has authored two edition books titled, "Revelations of Relationship: What you don't know about finding true love and sustaining relationship." Femi earned his Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from Morgan State University and a Masterโ€™s Degree in Business Administration from Benedictine University with a Certificate in Financial Management. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

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  • Paramitha Talim
    Paramitha Talim  2 hours back

    8:57 passion and sacrifice

    • Priyanka Gupta
      Priyanka Gupta  6 hours back

      No way pal๐Ÿ˜„

      • serine lwla
        serine lwla  11 hours back

        God doesnt have a son nor a women god is not like humans and that what makes him a GOD actually

        • Egle Davidsoniene
          Egle Davidsoniene  12 hours back

          How to tell someone you love topic perfect for all different year people. Grate work made tv show star. 1M likes for your work.

          • Beautiful Vibes
            Beautiful Vibes  18 hours back

            If you truly love would NEVER cheat

            • Maryjane Finklea
              Maryjane Finklea  21 hours back

              He is So yummy ๐Ÿคค ๐Ÿ˜‹ ~ honey dipped chocolate ๐Ÿซ ~ mmmmmmmmm ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹

              • SuperQdaddy
                SuperQdaddy  1 days back

                This is buloney..if you cheat are a phoney

                • maillaarni
                  maillaarni  1 days back

                  If you really love someone, it's impossible to cheat on them. Because if you really love someone, that person is all you have in mind, their happiness, their well-being. It's just impossible to consider others for that kind of relationship.

                  • Sunday Onah
                    Sunday Onah  1 days back

                    I never knew he was talking to a single person until his last word followed by clapping........what a deadly silent from the audience!!

                    • mai
                      mai  2 days back

                      I sacrificed and immensely regret it.

                      • ekta jaiswal
                        ekta jaiswal  2 days back

                        What wrong with the audience ๐Ÿ˜‚ he really is funny and talks clearly what else would you ask for?

                        • Eric
                          Eric  2 days back

                          Most people haven't a clue what true, real love is. After the infatuation phase wears off, one or both partners start putting out feelers for their next "high"..aka.. The high of infatuation. They just monkey branch to the next person.

                          • Josue Robles
                            Josue Robles  2 days back

                            When you give respect for both parties, love comes with it. Respect is the key to all we love. Respect yourself and love yourself in other to love someone else and respect.

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                              • vjhfdtcydshutd
                                vjhfdtcydshutd  3 days back

                                Wow, that sacrifice story! The f? And, what if a man asked a woman to do that kinda sacrifice? I don't see much trust in the relationship from that point on.

                                • Erika Miller
                                  Erika Miller  3 days back

                                  Wow this was 13 minutes of chatter to her sacrafice is what makes true love true. Seems like anyone with a book can get a Ted talk nowadays.

                                  • BLACK ALPHA
                                    BLACK ALPHA  3 days back

                                    Beta male!

                                    • Akarapong Boonrat
                                      Akarapong Boonrat  3 days back

                                      easy.. u knw it already

                                      • Cheerioss -
                                        Cheerioss -  3 days back

                                        Simple for girls he truly loves you If he is willing to kiss you after you top him off. Just saved yโ€™all 14mins

                                        • 2muchhair
                                          2muchhair  4 days back

                                          Cheers to your improvement!!! ๐Ÿฅ‚ ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿฅฐ

                                          • Ismael Ausua
                                            Ismael Ausua  4 days back

                                            He's hitting nerves left & right with this crowd! Lol

                                            • According To Shar
                                              According To Shar  4 days back

                                              The applause was vibrant at the end.

                                              • Do you Dream?
                                                Do you Dream?  4 days back

                                                this video helped me sort out my emotional puzzle that's been around for 5 years now. I was in a relationship for 3years and i broke up with. And i never knew what exactly was wrong with her. She loved me. But i knew for sure that something wasn't the way it should be. I always felt like i was the one who did wrong because apparently she did nothing wrong. But now i know the Sacrifice part. There were certain things that she could've sacrificed if she loved me. It'd have really made me less tense. But she did not. She even refused to recognize the actions that were causing trouble for me.

                                                • Torriana Shorter
                                                  Torriana Shorter  5 days back

                                                  ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ I want to be appreciated.

                                                  • Ama Amzat
                                                    Ama Amzat  5 days back

                                                    The silence ๐Ÿ˜‚Iโ€™m dying

                                                    • B Wilks
                                                      B Wilks  5 days back

                                                      That was excellent!!!

                                                      • Donna King
                                                        Donna King  5 days back

                                                        People love themselves and their genetic offspring and thatโ€™s it. # truth.

                                                        • Anita B.
                                                          Anita B.  2 days back

                                                          thats not always true. parents abuse their children all the time.

                                                      • Matt Williammson
                                                        Matt Williammson  5 days back

                                                        THIS IS AN EMBARRASSMENT. So many assumptions. That's why the audience is quiet. His arrogance exceeds his intelligence...

                                                        • Wolfferoni
                                                          Wolfferoni  6 days back

                                                          What's up with the dislikes? Is it the reference to God?

                                                          • susanna0703
                                                            susanna0703  4 days back

                                                            No, it's because he's stating the obvious and pretending like he's discovered something really profound. Wow, you shouldn't cheat on someone if you love them? Amazing! Why has nobody ever told me that before?

                                                        • Jonas Sami
                                                          Jonas Sami  7 days back

                                                          good speach good appearance, BOOORING BOOOORING guy

                                                          • shockwave 1
                                                            shockwave 1  7 days back

                                                            He's big time simping.

                                                            • Creative Collaborations

                                                              Powerful Message !!!

                                                              • Nkweauseh Reginald Longfor

                                                                This guy should prepare for his presentation. I didn't know I was that patient till I was watched this video.

                                                                • hayuamis
                                                                  hayuamis  1 weeks back

                                                                  this isnt a ted talk... this is a preacher giving a sermon lol

                                                                  • Caren L Zarate
                                                                    Caren L Zarate  1 weeks back

                                                                    He is telling the truth and none is acknowledging his facts , specially when he speaks of the true passionate love and sacrifice of Gods love with Jesus Christ..
                                                                    I guess this Audience is non religious or atheist.
                                                                    They didnt like it because this world is mind controlled by
                                                                    The crazy non sence
                                                                    "Do as thy wilt".
                                                                    Lost in the flesh and lust of this lost world.

                                                                    • YaggaYaggaYa
                                                                      YaggaYaggaYa  1 weeks back

                                                                      I know I shouldn't be objectifying Femi right now but dayum he's fine ๐Ÿ˜ซ

                                                                      • Pernell Moore
                                                                        Pernell Moore  1 weeks back

                                                                        As a man, when I'm with someone I really love I don't even have the desire to be around other women in an intimate setting. But I've only experienced this agape love once. And I think the reason a lot of guys can't stop cheating is because they've never really experienced this agape love, only eros love.

                                                                        • Tuli Franz
                                                                          Tuli Franz  1 weeks back

                                                                          He lost me when he start quoting the Bible.

                                                                          • Ahsharya Malaak
                                                                            Ahsharya Malaak  1 weeks back

                                                                            He tried it tryna sing Mary

                                                                            • Sabrina Gonzalez
                                                                              Sabrina Gonzalez  1 weeks back

                                                                              This was very eye opening

                                                                              • thenewapollo
                                                                                thenewapollo  1 weeks back

                                                                                She doesn't love you.

                                                                                • Her_biggest_fan
                                                                                  Her_biggest_fan  1 weeks back

                                                                                  Heavenly fire (^.^)

                                                                                  • Akintunde Laleye
                                                                                    Akintunde Laleye  1 weeks back

                                                                                    True luv is not compromising to sacrifice your purpose until you get the job done โœ… โœŒ๐Ÿฟ

                                                                                    • Osas Oni
                                                                                      Osas Oni  1 weeks back

                                                                                      Love without passion is like a body without the soul.

                                                                                      • [BantuEmpress] M-Beenzunk monsegue-hecker

                                                                                        cheaters, they may be...

                                                                                        • Erik Nelson
                                                                                          Erik Nelson  1 weeks back

                                                                                          Aaaand then he cites the bible

                                                                                          • Joanie Blackman
                                                                                            Joanie Blackman  1 weeks back

                                                                                            How long you make that decision.1 years 2weeks 3 weaks 1 months 2 months 6 months are 5 days 10 day's๐Ÿ˜‰

                                                                                            • Kako Onikumo Ekun
                                                                                              Kako Onikumo Ekun  1 weeks back

                                                                                              Marrying someone for love is an idiotic decision. Love burns out, the contract remains.