How To Spot A Narcissist | Relationship Advice For Women by Mat Boggs


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  • Dart Hyda
    Dart Hyda  6 days back

    I’ve been with narcissistic person for 2 was horrible..i was down, i felt useless..he always make me think that i dont have value..he always said that i should be grateful as he wanted to be with no one will want me..he curse me everyday, hurt me, call me names (bad one)..i’m glad its i feel happy and alive again..

    • Ayana J
      Ayana J  1 weeks back

      Kindness, Mat, is what I want in my next relationship. My ex was either bipolar or mean...changed on me all of a sudden..started blaming me for everything, never had my back---a very lonely feeling.

      • Sophie Mariff
        Sophie Mariff  2 weeks back

        1. It’s all about him.
        “Sophie, how I hurt you can never compare to how my ex hurt me.”
        2. Lack of reliability.
        “I might just come back for you.”
        *proceeds to break my heart after doing the deed*
        3. Instant gratification.
        “We keep kissing in your car and doing this but never have sex because of your religion. How long do you want to keep doing this?”
        4. Entitlement
        “I don’t need another liar in my life.”
        *proceeds to admit to lying throughout our relationship*
        5. Criticizer
        “If only you’d just listen to me and do your makeup like how I tell you to, you’d actually look like one of those beautiful Instagram models.”

        When you give an ugly guy a chance but he act like you’re the ugly one lmao

        • Carline Paris
          Carline Paris  4 weeks back

          I want a man who is kind, loving, considerate, love me unconditionally, my best friend, we can be open and honest and support each other and we can make each other better individual.

          • Sondra Myles
            Sondra Myles  1 months back

            I wish I would have known this 6 months ago. I finally went no contact in mid March. The first couple of weeks were hard; however, I'm much better.

            • Paula C
              Paula C  1 months back

              We have all dealt with these douche bags. Go by your gut if they are narcissistic or not.. borderline personality is not funny or sociopathic personality so many out there. Mine was a lawyer. Today I can't stand lawyers. I fixed his ass good. He no doubt still doing the same crap.

              • Paula C
                Paula C  1 months back

                Carry a cross and holy water.. your gonna need it. It's the devil bottom line.. so many walk this earth.. the dicks!!

                • Christina Furtuna
                  Christina Furtuna  1 months back

                  I just want to be happy in to be pampered sometimes, laugh a lot and simply enjoy the moment... basicaly I want both of us to enjoy monents together :)

                  • Farah Diba
                    Farah Diba  1 months back

                    Great responsibilities, smart, great decision maker, workhart,

                    • amanda wetsch
                      amanda wetsch  1 months back

                      Do you have any advice for long distance relationships?

                      • Lindsay Finn
                        Lindsay Finn  1 months back

                        My father is a Narcissist and it sucks! And I have not see him or spoke to him like in 5 or 6 years now.

                        • Dee Luu
                          Dee Luu  1 months back

                          I finally realized, I want a fully committed relationship where we spend lots of time together. Great interesting conversations. Im done with men ignoring me until they want sex. Putting everything else before me, always using a good excuse that I can't argue with..thank you for making me realize I'll only get treated with value if I value myself...back to the drawing are a great explainer..thank you

                          • A.C Artist
                            A.C Artist  1 months back

                            Mum feels entitled for no reason and calls herself a nice person doing no wrong to anyone, constantly telling me what my weakness are, what am not capable of doing, gossiping about her daughters live and me to others and saying she is stressed out and can't be happy because her daughters are unhappy,n depressed and sick but will not admit it to themselves and I cannot be happy and stress free when they are sick and my daughter disrespects me by spending alot of time in her room, not hanging out with me doing the activities I like to do and she communicates with me very little and doesn't help me out in the house or pay rent in my house.

                            Mum behaves like a victim on a regular basis and never owns up to her attitude or mindset and her strong habit of interfering with her adult daughter life by completing removing their ability and power and choice to make a decision or to take a certain direction in life and when she does this, she says how good she is and kind she is and how much she is showing that she cares about her daughters. very recently, she told me I need to get my hair cut and that I should stay in my home area because I only go another town every month, which is only two nights so I might as well do stuff around my home town where Mum is and that I must be doing something wrong if I want my privacy with other companions and to be a lone-wolf and because I would rather do it away from my home-town.

                            Mum thinks I want to be in another town because people don't know me. Any county or town or country where there are connections to my mother and relatives, I want to be away from because my privacy would exposed and word spread to my mother and relatives and people who know Mum and then Mum and or others she knows will boss me about, take all the power away from me by lecturing me and dictating how I should live life.

                            At the moment she tells me that she is not allowing my younger sister to stay in a hostel, live in a hostel because my sister is not capable of living in a hostel so she will make sure that my younger sister moves back with Mum. Mum used a ploy to move me back into her house by suggesting and expecting me to have her as my carer so she could get an allowance so she could get more money and all my relatives were trying to encourage me to allow her to get that allowance.

                            • A.C Artist
                              A.C Artist  1 months back

                              could it be a Mother?

                              • Melissa Leinen
                                Melissa Leinen  2 months back

                                Change the way I perceive a person. Know when it's time to give up on the idea.

                                • Bonnita Cazares
                                  Bonnita Cazares  2 months back

                                  I want a man to think I'm cool. :p I just want him to be impressed by me and want to show me off.

                                  • Truth Seeker
                                    Truth Seeker  2 months back

                                    A vulnerable man not afraid to express his feelings, a brave man with principal who stands up & goes after what he wants.

                                    • C Lombardi
                                      C Lombardi  2 months back

                                      Matt you are handsome, smart and funny and I appreciate the knowledge and wisdom that you share here. Thank you! ❤👍🤗

                                      • charleen hopkins
                                        charleen hopkins  2 months back

                                        never work with me , well not that any way.

                                        • Curtistine Miller
                                          Curtistine Miller  2 months back

                                          Narrrccissts are so in Denial the best thing to do with one is to 🏃 they are so self absorbed and full of thier own importance that you just need to go no contact ,,,,,,,,,,

                                          • Kris Ayla Bautista
                                            Kris Ayla Bautista  3 months back

                                            Chouse - a cheating spouse.

                                            • I. Bosquez
                                              I. Bosquez  3 months back

                                              I want a man who wants the same things out of life that I do. Somebody who is honest, funny, true likes to travel and wants to care for me, loves me for me, not for what he can get out of me. I want a noble man do they make Knights anymore? It's like a fairytale. My wish is the wish of millions of women but we all know we won't get our wish, anyway those are my thoughts.

                                              • I. Bosquez
                                                I. Bosquez  3 months back

                                                When I need to feel strong I wear a navy blue shirt, that would be the color of my confidence. With that shirt or that feeling I get from the shirt, I can do anything, talk to anybody, go through any hard time and come out a better person for it, having learned some lesson along the way. I also like to watch Annie Lennox sing Sweet Dreams. She's such a strong woman. She looks like she doesn't take anybody's crap. 👔

                                                • Ginger Tillson
                                                  Ginger Tillson  3 months back

                                                  Commitment, respect for me, don't rush things at all, a man who's caring, kind, considerate, and closer to my age not wanting sex until marriage

                                                  • peacefull eagle
                                                    peacefull eagle  3 months back

                                                    you just need to say no and wait for the reaction

                                                    • Lava Yuki
                                                      Lava Yuki  3 months back

                                                      i had one and left them after a month. I'm very sensitive to even the smallest bit of criticism so im quick to run away from narcissists. They usually don't even get past friend zone with me, if they manage to get beyond acquaintance level. I've also had friends like that and it always ended up in falling out and the friendship ended.

                                                      • Patricia Benavente Alcaide

                                                        The qualities I like in a man are the following: respectful, with good manners, polite, firm but kind, generous, truthful, humble, willing to be of service to others, caring, patient, fun, with a proper concern for personal care, hard-working, responsible, with integrity, responsible and loyal. If possible that he knows to do things as a handy man and knows numbers and technology (computers and phones) --since I'm not very good at this. :)

                                                        • roman mahad20
                                                          roman mahad20  4 months back

                                                          The best thing I did was dumb a narcissist

                                                          • Maya's Channel
                                                            Maya's Channel  4 months back

                                                            I would say in a relationship that I desire, I’m grateful for a man who is content and satisfied with me and our relationship alone. He encompasses monogamy and commitment. He is appreciate and respectful of me and others. I’m grateful for a man who is affectionate, kind, communicative and authentic. He is stable and healthy, mentally emotionally, spiritually and physically. And last our attraction and chemistry is a perfect fit, we are a great match, best friends and have matching values and morals.

                                                            • Lizzi Brown
                                                              Lizzi Brown  4 months back

                                                              This is my ex husband to a tee!!!!!

                                                              • CobaltLobo
                                                                CobaltLobo  4 months back

                                                                I decided to finally break up with my narcissist ex cause I wasn't going to take his abuse and refusal to get help for his alcoholism and with the way he was treating me, it just got worse and worse. I didn't have what he wanted from me anymore so I stopped it all before he discarded me. and now hes been binge drinking, going out to bars and puking his guts out cause he's sad. it's like had your chance and now you want more pity so you can re-up your supply since I decided to leave you

                                                                • CobaltLobo
                                                                  CobaltLobo  4 months back

                                                                  crazy thing is that my ex knew he was a narcissist and acted like it was some sort of gift to have.

                                                                  • CobaltLobo
                                                                    CobaltLobo  4 months back

                                                                    I found out that my ex was pretty much only having sex with me our entire relationship for sexual gratification. like him pleasing me made him feel good about his sexual performance. it wasn't about intimacy and bonding and a deep connection of emotions, it was just about being satisfied the he could sexually please me. AKA I was pretty much his sex toy. he even admitted that he liked having sex with me cause it made him feel powerful and dominant.

                                                                    • LFC 1111 LFC
                                                                      LFC 1111 LFC  5 months back

                                                                      My gut instinct tells me he is a narcissist. Thanks for confirming that.

                                                                      • Kay Hawkins
                                                                        Kay Hawkins  5 months back

                                                                        You don't have to look far to see an example if a classic text book version of a narcissist, Donald Trump. All about him, always a victim, never accepting responsibility, no empathy for others faked when necessary, entitled, demands loyalty but is a serial cheater, bully and overly critical, resorts to name calling. He has low self esteem is evident and jealousy of others accomishments especially Obama. He constantly says how smart he is, how large his crowds are these are examples of him feeling small and insecure. He meets every single criteria of narcissism.

                                                                        • Nakidz
                                                                          Nakidz  5 months back

                                                                          WIIFM hahahahaha!!!

                                                                          • SUKRITI AGRAWAL
                                                                            SUKRITI AGRAWAL  5 months back

                                                                            I know this feeling of dating a narcissist. It's the worst. My ex always tried to put me down by criticising me on everything that I did or how I looked that too in front of other people, he never paid attention when I discussed about my dreams, he also pressured me into having sex although he unsucceded in getting what he wanted, he didn't make me feel special, he flirted with other girls in front of me and praised there figure, all in all a total jerk, finally a friend of mine helped me in realising that this is an unhealthy relationship and I left him after that. He made another girlfriend in just 10 days after me leaving him then again he came back to me thinking that I'll forgive him but I sent him back. Now I'm a happy and confident women like how I was before and I'm in a great relationship with a guy who is my dream man and everything that I ever wanted, he cares about me and loves me alotttttt. I watch your videos so that I can be a better person and make him the happiest man on earth. 😊😊
                                                                            You're doing a great job keep up the good work. ❤️❤️

                                                                            • Liz
                                                                              Liz  6 months back

                                                                              Emotionally available, Thanks Matt

                                                                              • Julieta
                                                                                Julieta  6 months back

                                                                                Is it possible they behave differently with women they really care about? Or it's a uniform behavior across the border?

                                                                                • Haley Heath
                                                                                  Haley Heath  6 months back

                                                                                  I was with a narcissist for 4 years and he left me for an arranged marriage. Even after I moved on he still had it in his mind that I couldn't live without him. Jokes on him, I've never been happier than what I am now.

                                                                                  • Erin Laemmle
                                                                                    Erin Laemmle  6 months back

                                                                                    𝐘𝐞𝐩! 𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞! 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐢𝐧'𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠!

                                                                                    • Ahmed Jaber
                                                                                      Ahmed Jaber  6 months back

                                                                                      holy fuck im a narcissist

                                                                                      • Robin W
                                                                                        Robin W  7 months back

                                                                                        Matt, to answer your question, I would like to meet a “man” who adores and supports me, help me if he thinks I might be making poor judgment on something or someone. Someone who enjoys to cook healthy for us. One who is not afraid to show his love of God, and love to me. Possibly ride a Harley along side of me share his love of animals, volunteer together with something that is significant to the both of us. Love to vacation together. Loves to do outdoor things and at the same time can spend the day inside.
                                                                                        Wants to be my King so I can be his Queen.

                                                                                        • Andrea S.
                                                                                          Andrea S.  8 months back

                                                                                          You have an amazing (& quirky, lol) way at explaining things, Mat!! .. I liked the visualization technique toward the end of this clip ;) very helpful . Just started following your IG too.

                                                                                          • Will’s MM2 Channel
                                                                                            Will’s MM2 Channel  8 months back

                                                                                            American dictionary? Hmmm I don’t think so.

                                                                                            • Brown Eyes
                                                                                              Brown Eyes  9 months back

                                                                                              I WAS married to an ultimate narcissistist!!!
                                                                                              Thank God am out of that hell hole!
                                                                                              His right, listen ladies.

                                                                                              • Della Marie
                                                                                                Della Marie  9 months back

                                                                                                16 years!

                                                                                                • Jean Grey
                                                                                                  Jean Grey  9 months back

                                                                                                  Hi there 👋
                                                                                                  You're doing a great job , I love all you're videos, very beneficial .
                                                                                                  Keep instructing us with great knowledge 👌
                                                                                                  Thank you.