Adventures with Tinder | Jacqueline Hall | TEDxOldham

  • Published: 13 May 2016
  • Jacky walks us through her journey on Tinder in a poignant TEDxOldham talk

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Comments • 134

  • Thomas Byrne
    Thomas Byrne  6 days back

    Fantastic conclusion. Great talk. Thank you

    • Klea Rusnim
      Klea Rusnim  1 weeks back

      MGTOW 4 LIFE (Monk Mode).

      • Sean Holmes
        Sean Holmes  2 weeks back

        The only way to win is not to play.

        • Maniecel Jagonob
          Maniecel Jagonob  4 weeks back

          Does anyone here have a transcript on this talk? Please comment below :<

          • Bryan K. Vaughan
            Bryan K. Vaughan  1 months back

            Be ashamed of being on Tinder....Agreed. However, In case someone discovers and asks why you're on Tinder.....LIE. Interesting. And yet, women want TOTAL HONESTY from men? Again, interesting.

            • Kaptain Kid
              Kaptain Kid  1 months back

              What is Tinder. Tender, I know, it is what a dollar bill is - it says so right on the front of it. It is also a song that Elvis Presley sang . . . Love me Tender.

              Bottom line, is why do people get sucked into Tinder, Facebook, etc . . . . . mindless sheep. You'll all get what you deserve in the end.

              • Major Pane
                Major Pane  4 months back

                2:39 I thought I was the only one who saw it this way though.

                27 years and 8months single...damn. Analogue dating rocks more than you can ever imagine...that way you don't neglect friendships, feel more human and connected with real people. You typically invest your time and effort in sustainable relationships and meaningful friendship.

                However, you can use tinder to meet new people and build your network. I love her closing, life is all about collaboration...we need the effort of both halves to make a whole

                • Annie P.P.
                  Annie P.P.  4 months back


                  • DerTaktiker
                    DerTaktiker  4 months back

                    It is incredible how many comments here are downright derogatory, no matter the reason.

                    • alphamuc1979
                      alphamuc1979  7 months back

                      lovely, she is genuine and honest!

                      • Shawna Kaminski
                        Shawna Kaminski  8 months back

                        Jacky was a bit flat in her presentation but for all those that are leaving scathing remarks, perhaps we could assess your TED talk? It's not easy to get in front of an audience and share anything, let alone a personal story like this. She has a fun sense of humor and good message in the end.

                        • mjhmn
                          mjhmn  8 months back

                          She was good; very raw and real. And she ended it well with talking about mental health issues that are out there. Great job!

                          • csh2155
                            csh2155  8 months back

                            I can appreciate that Tinder would work for some people. Anyone open enough to enjoy relationships generally, esp extraverted types, will use whatever method they can. Tinder must work for many - but I would imagine self-pitying types and those prone to self-deprecation (whatever their reason for being so) will do less well.

                            • Cristina Cernei
                              Cristina Cernei  8 months back

                              Loved her conclusion sentence.

                              • gabriel gagne
                                gabriel gagne  8 months back

                                Helping people find love... how romantic:)

                                • videovedo
                                  videovedo  9 months back

                                  3 minutes into this and apart from the fact that she's reading, and not in a very engaging way (but she doesn't have to be an exceptional talker or reader to potentially say something interesting,although this is, well, a "talk"), I can't stand the fact that nobody apparently told her where to stand on stage. She's so near the front row that cameras can't possibly have a good shot of her, we don't get to see her face properly, light splashes on her uncomfortably, and it all reminds me of how any stage performance desperately need at least a tiny bit of direction to work. It's challenging to the viewer's endurance, but I'll test mine. For solidarity with her evident shyness and effort and hoping she has something clever to deliver.

                                  • xm377Moyocoyatzin
                                    xm377Moyocoyatzin  9 months back

                                    What is she talking about?

                                    • NightHawk
                                      NightHawk  9 months back

                                      This was like watching one of those presentations from school that I see from my lame classmates that don't know how to talk in public and read every word they say with the worst kind of motivation.

                                      • omg hey there
                                        omg hey there  10 months back

                                        this is all so pathetic and sad,

                                        • Brockt87
                                          Brockt87  10 months back

                                          TedTalks, in my opinion, should be for leading experts in specific areas to share their cutting edge knowledge that is unknown even to most of the highly educated public. This talk seems like the woman was picked at random to give a speech the next day, for her I know TedTalks has gone downhill somewhat, but this takes things to a whole new level. This is the longest TT I’ve seen out of literally over a hundred,.9Yet it says very little and the delivery leaves much to be desired.

                                          • laken1804
                                            laken1804  10 months back

                                            Where you even present on those dates? Why are you reading from papers. Was any part of it memorable? Even the most boring date can be told better.

                                            • Alan Pettyjohn
                                              Alan Pettyjohn  10 months back

                                              This was by far the most pathetic, sad, sorry excuse for a so called TED talk... This was simply a pathetic woman blabbing on about her pathetic life...

                                              • Alan Pettyjohn
                                                Alan Pettyjohn  10 months back

                                                Crystal White is adorable...

                                                • I Eligo
                                                  I Eligo  11 months back


                                                  • Alexander Matthews
                                                    Alexander Matthews  11 months back

                                                    You know there's guys out there like me ha ha I joined Tinder again but never get any matches....Oh so I'm not like you but all girls are dickheads just like the guys you met.....Oh until you meet the one good one.......?....I'm old and synicle

                                                    • He, She & Cat
                                                      He, She & Cat  11 months back

                                                      Really like her sense of humour :) She feels like a nice friend

                                                      • Niall McCarthy
                                                        Niall McCarthy  11 months back

                                                        WHY was she not time boxed???? Uggggh.. withered

                                                        • Mister Nit Poker
                                                          Mister Nit Poker  11 months back

                                                          No bobs, no winning

                                                          • Anilithun
                                                            Anilithun  11 months back

                                                            I love ted talks, but this first explanation of a guy whom was so booring, but neither of you two had any idea to spark up an real converastion. Immediatly you blame the other person, this kinda put me off your stories going onwards.

                                                            • delta75 75
                                                              delta75 75  11 months back

                                                              I think she is cute and i am vegetarian too

                                                              • Peter Alvin
                                                                Peter Alvin  11 months back

                                                                This motivates me to do a TED talk about my trip to the grocery store.

                                                              • Vincent FK Yap
                                                                Vincent FK Yap  12 months back

                                                                I really like the talk and the last 5 minutes is the best. Good job!

                                                                • Dean Champion
                                                                  Dean Champion  12 months back

                                                                  Why is the camera from the side, and almost the back of her head? That's so annoying, that along with her reading off of notes, dressing like a spinster librarian, and then lamenting dating options with a nearly imperceptible and monotone drone...

                                                                  • Dean Champion
                                                                    Dean Champion  11 months back

                                                                    I had trouble finding a date, so the men in my country need more mental health resources? Wow. Just, WOW !!!

                                                                • Julian R
                                                                  Julian R  12 months back

                                                                  Hey Jacky,
                                                                  Thank you for sharing your story. It's important to see people for who they are, flaws and all.
                                                                  This was like a genuine look into another persons experience. There are a ton of Ted talks feeding information on how to be "better" but there is so much value in really hearing about how someone thinks, what drives their decisions. It's not about being right or perfect in making choices, whatever perfect may be. Its about broadening perspective and understanding through others. I personally would love suggestions of other videos in a similar vein, if anyone has some to offer.

                                                                  • Dominic Keeley
                                                                    Dominic Keeley  12 months back

                                                                    This isn't a TED talk - it's like a terrible Tinder date...

                                                                    • Mike Colquhoun
                                                                      Mike Colquhoun  12 months back

                                                                      Brilliant - thank for being just you

                                                                      • Tatiana Dubinina
                                                                        Tatiana Dubinina  1 years back

                                                                        I am not a native English speaker, but I usually understend pretty everything, and I can't get if it was my bad that sometimes I lost the sense of the speech or it's her manner of speaking. Seriously. But some parts were quite funny, even though the talk has no actual point

                                                                        • Mary Pac
                                                                          Mary Pac  8 months back

                                                                          It's her manner of speaking. I'm not specialist on pronunciation norms within GB itself but it has something to do with it.

                                                                      • budyn333
                                                                        budyn333  1 years back

                                                                        I'd be friends with her

                                                                        • Violet Rain
                                                                          Violet Rain  1 years back


                                                                          • driftaaa
                                                                            driftaaa  1 years back

                                                                            Has this woman not looked in the mirror? She looks like the girl that crawled out of the Well from The Ring.

                                                                            • Big Hoss
                                                                              Big Hoss  4 months back

                                                                              Lol.. She does.

                                                                            • Mary Pac
                                                                              Mary Pac  8 months back

                                                                              What is the Well from the Ring? :D

                                                                          • Kim Montenegro
                                                                            Kim Montenegro  1 years back

                                                                            Love her ending!! Tinder is a game but life should a collaboration.

                                                                            • Tentacles
                                                                              Tentacles  1 years back

                                                                              So, she throw away 90% of the guys and then complain. Maybe if she accepted she's not between the 10% most good looking women (she said it herself, it's about judge people by appearance when you first choose wich side to switch). Not suprisingle, societies best looking, top performing people are not very lenient towards us mediocre looking majority - next time, look for someone normal if you want normal behaviour.

                                                                              • You Tube Member
                                                                                You Tube Member  1 years back

                                                                                She's fantastic.. love her honestly.. & such a lovely compassionate girl.. just up there winging it! One of the best Ted talks that aren't totally attention seeking & the poor me carryon. She's so funny, real & gives me hope. The ups and downs of Tinder are off the scale.. it does take over your life.
                                                                                Thank you so much for this. Also the unexpected twist at the end.. I love her epathy towards these men.. she truly seems like a lovely human being. xx

                                                                                • Jesse Brodie
                                                                                  Jesse Brodie  1 years back

                                                                                  Women need to learn to communicate directly how they actually feel and take agency for their actions

                                                                                  • pkramerable
                                                                                    pkramerable  1 years back


                                                                                    • Always Himself
                                                                                      Always Himself  1 years back

                                                                                      TED may want to screen their speakers before putting someone on stage. WORST. SPEAKER. EVER.

                                                                                      • Burner Fire
                                                                                        Burner Fire  1 years back

                                                                                        The only thing of value I got from this is Pleco

                                                                                        • Vincent Quill
                                                                                          Vincent Quill  1 years back

                                                                                          I liked the human presentation. The subject matter was interesting and the bravery level immense. Hope you and ur rock climbing man are still enjoying each others company :-)