A Woman Over 50: A Life Unleashed | Connie Schultz | TEDxClevelandStateUniversity

  • Published: 14 December 2016
  • Nationally syndicated journalist Connie Schultz discusses the role of women over 50 in our society.

    Connie Schultz is a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer and journalist. She worked for The Plain Dealer from 1993 to 2011, earning the 2005 Pulitzer for commentary. Schultz currently is a nationally syndicated columnist with Creators Syndicate and the professional in residence at Kent State University’s College of Communication and Information. She is the author of the books Life Happens: And Other Unavoidable Truths as well as …and His Lovely Wife: A Memoir from the Woman Beside the Man. She is working on her first novel, about a working-class family in Ohio.

    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 684

  • Reticula W.
    Reticula W.  3 days back

    I should watch this video every day. I"m 60 this year, and I'm creating my own new reality. Love you, Connie!

    • ubcreative2
      ubcreative2  1 weeks back

      Thank you for this...

      • Linda Cullerton
        Linda Cullerton  1 weeks back

        Thank you. That talk is a great girl friend talk.

        • kk70x7
          kk70x7  1 weeks back

          Ugh, the name thing. What is up with this and men? I changed my name for my ex - then changed it back (both changes were a major pain). Never again for sure!

          • Ra Clarke
            Ra Clarke  1 weeks back

            So jealous of her abundant hair!

            • Jo Marie  Lopez
              Jo Marie Lopez  2 weeks back

              I so needed to hear this....thank you for caring and making me still feel appreciated.

              • Cornwall 59
                Cornwall 59  2 weeks back

                Teaching around the world from 52. Still going at 60. Bahrain, China, Vietnam, Kuwait and now Lagos.

                • Betty Schneider
                  Betty Schneider  2 weeks back

                  Wow! That was great! I love that you can be confident in yourself to keep going even with the nay sayers! You're right it's your life, not their! Iam very proud of you. I have medical problem that keep me from working! But I try to stay positive in life! My daughter is working and going to collage and his two boys & her husband works! I try to lift her up when she is down. I tell her to take her time. And find a few minutes for herself too. I am proud of her too. Anyway I thought your video was going to be advice on how to date at 50 yr. Omg 😲 Lol 😆 I am 62 and I enjoyed your video 📹 thanks💝💒⛪⛪⛪⛪ ✝ ✝ ✝

                  • Carolyn Salvadore
                    Carolyn Salvadore  3 weeks back

                    I'm halfway through listening to you and had to comment. I am 59 years old and my life and career have been like making popcorn too. I received an Associates Degree at 49, Bachelors at 52 and a Masters at 55. I am a software test engineer for the FAA. What I really want to do is just what you are doing. I want to public speak and inspire others to follow and find their joy. That is my joy. A reason I am now in Toastmasters and just did my Icebreaker. Thank you for your presentation! I also, do not want to become invisible. I won't become invisible. Thank you!!

                    • karin wolf
                      karin wolf  4 weeks back

                      iam 58 now,canceled my nursejob and start next month a education as chiropodist, so happy about that!

                      • Random 1
                        Random 1  1 months back

                        you had me right up till the political "joke." To bad i was enjoying your talk...

                        • Mac Smith
                          Mac Smith  1 months back

                          I just turned 50 and I love it. Pressure is off. I quit trying to be fabulous, or normal. I'm neither and I'm okay! (I'm also a lot nicer to people because I know how hard life can be.)

                          • Yvonda Czelusniak
                            Yvonda Czelusniak  1 months back

                            Thank You Connie. I’ll be 50 July 2019 n I needed this..I’m so afraid..I have four Technical Degrees n I’m lost in my mind..I feel as if my life is elevating to another level I just don’t know where..I do know this...It will be something great bc I listened to you speak, there’s no reason to fear I just have to do..I’m a blk women n at 50 I wanna be a Biker Chick w a Gothic Style❤️

                            • aut sept
                              aut sept  1 months back

                              The most important thing I've learned is what you said. Not all at the same time. It is soo important. It allows you, as an actual person, to have it all. Just not at the same time.
                              That is the lie of it (from the perspective of someone born in 1960) that says you CAN have it alll. WE thought IT MEANT All AT THE SAME TIME. It doesn't. And it is true. There are seasons of life. And there is no point at which we whether women OR men should be taken off into the wilderness left alone to die.

                              • Sirena Spades
                                Sirena Spades  1 months back

                                The camera person on this is enough to make a person ill :0

                                • B Rad
                                  B Rad  1 months back

                                  I’m turning 40 in 6 months and feel so lost, so busy comparing myself to everyone around me and their accomplishments, and still no real clue what I want to do. I felt so defeated, until listening to this! I’m crying as I’m writing this! Thank you!!!! And I love all of the comments under this post. I’m not washed up in six months- I’m just starting! 💖💖💖

                                  • JacG Bts
                                    JacG Bts  3 weeks back

                                    WOW ! you're so young!! Don't compare yourself to Anyone else (it's a universal TRAP)- you don't know what they're secretly dealimg with - and YOU have your own unique Life and Value - quite apart from work. Bless. Share your life- we will all be enriched !!

                                • Isabelle Elliot
                                  Isabelle Elliot  1 months back

                                  No longer need society to define us!!

                                  • Anna McNeill
                                    Anna McNeill  1 months back


                                    • L. Ravindran
                                      L. Ravindran  1 months back

                                      Fifty is the new 30. There is scientific evidence to prove it. Researchers say that modern youth goes right up tp 60! It’s not how long you’ve lived, they say, it’s how much longer you can live that defines whether you are old or not. So, what the heck, we’ve got time to do anything we fancy!

                                      • Brenda Springer
                                        Brenda Springer  1 months back

                                        I'm solo and truly loving my life !

                                        • Brenda Springer
                                          Brenda Springer  1 months back

                                          59 ,was married once for 28 yrs ,have had a few other relationships sense but at this time in my life I've been single for almost 3 years ,I've gotten to learn about myself and it's the most satisfying I've been sense I was a child.This is me meeting me and the things I'm learning amaze me .

                                          • Katherine Doornink
                                            Katherine Doornink  1 months back

                                            Love! Sent to all my friends over 45 (ha! They think they are old!). Inspiring. Thank you so much for your talk. We need more and more women to understand; we have only just begun.

                                            • Samantha Mercedes Staff
                                              Samantha Mercedes Staff  1 months back

                                              THANK YOU CONNIE !

                                              • Linda Jackson
                                                Linda Jackson  2 months back

                                                Great talk. Connie's story about people telling her she should change her name when her husband ran for the senate reminded me of something my late husband said. After we married, a relative asked him, in my presence, whether it bothered him that I had kept my name. I was curious as to what his reply would be because, frankly, I'd never asked him if he cared. Without hesitation, my quick witted love replied, "No . . . she was going to change her name but we thought it would be confusing to have two Georges in the family". I laughed in delight and word must have gotten around as no one ever asked again. I came across this video when a friend sent me a link to an unrelated Ted Talk. This popped up right after so I watched it. My husband died 3 years ago and we had no children so I just wanted to go with him. I had always wanted to write a book and had finally seriously embarked on it 3 months before he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The next 6 months were a blur of nursing him to the end, knowing my whole life would collapse when he was gone. By 6 months (to the day) after he died, both of our cats had died also. My little family, all gone. Nothing much interests me and I can't see anything to look forward to. I've just kind of been 'running out the clock'. However I don't believe in coincidence so I paid attention when 3 of the stories she told started with "when she was 62". I am 62. Thank you Connie. Wish me luck. p.s. I just noticed that this talk was published on our wedding anniversary, the year that he died. It would have been our 32nd. Synchronicity.

                                                • Elaine Pollard
                                                  Elaine Pollard  2 months back

                                                  It's so funny I see this today. I decided to look into going back to school--Penn State. Penn State was the school I wanted to go to 33 years ago, but couldn't. Of course, I heard all the voices in my head that I'm 51, it's too late, why spend all that money. But, this was a dream I had forgotten about. I didn't think it was even possible. I don't know if I'll get accepted, but if I don't try I'll never know.

                                                  • L Abell
                                                    L Abell  2 months back

                                                    Connie Schultz for President

                                                    • Celma Silveira
                                                      Celma Silveira  2 months back

                                                      It’s all about who’s chains of commends are💪

                                                      • Penny Richards
                                                        Penny Richards  2 months back

                                                        49 is a couple of months away and I'm still listening to the people that are telling me no :-(

                                                        • Heidi Hanz
                                                          Heidi Hanz  2 months back

                                                          Gosh, 50 is so young. No reason not to do what you want at any age. If you like bold colors, do it. If you like soft or medium colors, do that. I like a more organic look. That is me. Be yourself whether 30, 50,70, or 90!

                                                          • kathryn bender
                                                            kathryn bender  2 months back

                                                            I've been crying your whole speech..😭

                                                            • jc
                                                              jc  2 months back

                                                              You can feel invisible at any point in your life. Hamster-wheel jobs where you must be seen and not heard. The women I have worked for have often been more demeaning and denigrating than the men. It’s not gender - it’s character.

                                                              • phoenix x
                                                                phoenix x  2 months back

                                                                Had to share a comment from below - Youth and beauty benefit only you - temporarily . Wisdom and strength can uplift the entire community for generations to come. You choose which thing has more value

                                                                • Susan L. McGee
                                                                  Susan L. McGee  2 months back

                                                                  I will be 55 this year and just finished my Ph.D. Age is just a number. Most of my friends are my 30 year old pack of mentees. Life is good.

                                                                  • Judi Wrenn
                                                                    Judi Wrenn  2 months back

                                                                    Glad to know I'm not alone! There need to be more women speaking up and letting everyone know life is just beginning at 60 the early years were just us being schooled.

                                                                    • Cornwall 59
                                                                      Cornwall 59  2 months back

                                                                      60, teaching all over the world

                                                                      • Ayesha S
                                                                        Ayesha S  2 months back

                                                                        I enjoyed her talk

                                                                        • jktosh
                                                                          jktosh  2 months back

                                                                          This is perfect, the timing, and not an accident as life and I have learned to work together like this - I'm rolling up on my 49th year in April 2019 and it's been a cause for reflection. I've had no trouble forging new trails while living on my own terms, etc. and never worried about being invisible, but I found myself feeling a little stuck for a while here lately still needed to see this just as much as everyone here, in my own way. You lovely women are so inspiring as you tell your stories - no matter what their content is. We draw strength from one another as we share in our experiences as the women we have been found their way to the women we are now and are still becoming. Thank you for your help out of the little mud patch in my road. :)

                                                                          • Mollie Burd
                                                                            Mollie Burd  2 months back

                                                                            Love this. I will be turning 50 in a few weeks. This made me feel better about it.

                                                                            • Patrice Palmer
                                                                              Patrice Palmer  2 months back

                                                                              I'm 60 in a week and plan to do my PhD!

                                                                              • Vedawattie Ram
                                                                                Vedawattie Ram  2 months back


                                                                                • Susan Reimer
                                                                                  Susan Reimer  2 months back

                                                                                  Left the medical field and low paying corporate jobs 55yo now and in School for Accounting and Finance and my MBA for the next atleast 30 years of my Generation X existence , we are immortal!

                                                                                  • Chrissy Polans
                                                                                    Chrissy Polans  2 months back

                                                                                    Thank you! 47 and in my dream career for four months now. Never thought I could do it before! 💕

                                                                                    • Jennifer Davis
                                                                                      Jennifer Davis  2 months back

                                                                                      I have written a childrens book and I need an illustrator.  Could you give me information of who the person is who is the illustrator?

                                                                                      • Isabella C
                                                                                        Isabella C  2 months back

                                                                                        All I can say is, Thank you!

                                                                                        • sbecktacular
                                                                                          sbecktacular  2 months back

                                                                                          Female snowboarder at 50...started when I was 40..
                                                                                          NEVER had the desire to be married or have kids and I love it! 🥳🥴😉🤩

                                                                                          • Avani Amore
                                                                                            Avani Amore  2 months back

                                                                                            What a great talk Connie. thankyou! its perfect timing. Im 54 and challenged by the No voices in my head. Your talk just gave me the most compassionate nudge in a direction I've wanted to go for awhile. Yep I'm guilty of waiting to be invited, so no waiting any longer.

                                                                                            • Loren Garrigan
                                                                                              Loren Garrigan  2 months back

                                                                                              YOLO good luck. Save your money because because it cheaper to rent companionship. Dime a dozen

                                                                                              • Patty Lopez
                                                                                                Patty Lopez  3 months back

                                                                                                So inspiring!!!