How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps | Christina Wallace

  • Published: 21 August 2018
  • Let's face it, online dating can suck. So many potential people, so much time wasted -- is it even worth it? Podcaster and entrepreneur Christina Wallace thinks so, if you do it right. In a funny, practical talk, Wallace shares how she used her MBA skill set to invent a "zero date" approach and get off swipe-based apps -- and how you can, too.

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Comments • 736

  • eric hayche
    eric hayche  6 days back

    :) 210 messages, there are guys who've been on dating sites for years and haven't gotten that many messages total

    • InChrist
      InChrist  2 weeks back

      Or how about just being an awesome person? From the onset you called yourself an overachiever. It's great to have accolades but it's even greater to be humble about it. You want all of these specific things from one person. Yet, nobody noticed them in you? Your whole list was vain & lazy.

      • Winston Smith
        Winston Smith  3 weeks back

        good review right here:

        • Heather Mcbreen
          Heather Mcbreen  2 months back

          such good advice. i feel like it is first and foremost okay to say you don't like dating apps and that you are not required to engage in order to find fulfillment, happiness or love in the modern era. i liked this article on the subject

          • Vitalii
            Vitalii  2 months back

            So she fucked with 1000 bad guys till 30 and now found some loser and ready to have kids ? :-)

            • steezli
              steezli  2 months back

              Someone tell Chazz to run and run fast!

              • SuperbLegend
                SuperbLegend  2 months back

                You put yourself on a high pedestal for being kinda unattractive. But always got thirsty mofos huh? Chronic sends regards

                • War Is Wrong
                  War Is Wrong  2 months back

                  Undead Chronic sent me from Bitchute which doesn't censor. I disagree with him about Christina's looks, which I find hot and similar to my 21 year old girlfriend. It's just that I'd prefer 21 to 31 even though I'm 61. This just shows there are too many rich men in NY, making it dumb for a man to compete there for hot thirty somethings. Better to find a young version of Christina in a small college town before she goes to the big city.

                  • Anthony Caruso
                    Anthony Caruso  2 months back

                    How many people are here just to read the comments because of undead chronic's video?

                    • Jacek Fieldman
                      Jacek Fieldman  2 months back

                      Really?! Someone wanted this female version of Sid from Ice Age? ;)

                      • Sean Holmes
                        Sean Holmes  2 months back

                        This is why no one respects Ted talks anymore.

                        • Novaks47
                          Novaks47  2 months back

                          Walled out and stalled out, enjoy your apps and cats!

                          • 0bsolete-X
                            0bsolete-X  2 months back

                            Undead Chronic wrecked this broad!

                            • D C
                              D C  2 months back

                              Entitled average looking woman has totally far fetched idea of what her sexual market place value is and demand's a man in the top one percent, you'll thank me later.

                              • connann barbarin
                                connann barbarin  2 months back

                                You deleted Undead Chronics video but you can't stop the Red Pill Army.......GLORY TO LORD COMMANDER

                                • eric hayche
                                  eric hayche  6 days back

                                  lol just got deleted for the 3rd time, waiting for him to pop back up

                                • Anthony Caruso
                                  Anthony Caruso  2 months back

                                  I'm here from his video just to read the comments haha

                              • rich hall
                                rich hall  2 months back

                                Sorry, but a masculine acting woman, an MBA, and a job title doesn't turn my crank. The near term looks favorable for cat litter stocks, boxed wine, and psych meds.

                                • Caliban777
                                  Caliban777  2 months back

                                  rich hall Lots of lesbians would find her very attractive.

                              • Col Rock100
                                Col Rock100  2 months back

                                Helps if you take the massive potato off your shoulder ! 😂

                                • Regula Guy
                                  Regula Guy  2 months back

                                  So from the very beginning she says she filters through her messages because no man, who feminist women consider subhuman is worth reaching out to first. It sets an unrealistic expectation. Poor her! I bet you her man has figured out who she really is by now and has moved on. But not to worry, she gets 200 messages a day. Also, fun fact only about 2 percent of all men are above 6 feet.

                                  • Tappa Tappa
                                    Tappa Tappa  2 months back

                                    She basically saying everyone is beneath her !
                                    She's 6 feet ..... over 30 ........ gross and greasy !

                                    • John Nash
                                      John Nash  2 months back

                                      another example of why I am not attracted to the personalities of American women :(

                                      • Steve Thomas
                                        Steve Thomas  2 months back

                                        Just taking Tinder into account (and excluding all the other dating sites / apps I'm either on or have used in the last 15 years), I must have liked around 5,000 - 6,000 profiles approx in the 10 months I've been on it. Out of those, I have managed to get around 15 matches, some of which were scammers / spam bots, a few others quickly unmatched me as soon as I messaged them (if not sooner), a few others ghosted me and out of the remaining few matches, I went on ONE date. She at least turned out to be as genuine as she sounded / looked but alas, I wasn't for her.

                                        My point is, this is what I as an average man can expect on dating apps and sites. I can also assure you that in 15 years of doing this, my results have been pretty much non-existent.

                                        And quite frankly, it absolutely SUCKS.

                                        I am more than acutely aware that women do have their own problems when it comes to online and mobile app dating. But Jesus tap dancing Christ, it sure isn't a frigging Mardi Gras for a lot of us men either.

                                        You can trust me on that one.

                                        • Klaus Kloss
                                          Klaus Kloss  3 months back

                                          The problem with online dating is that it follows a proven psychological experiment called the “Jam Experiment”. Shoppers were given endless Jam choices in a grocery store. In the end, they were overwhelmed and chose NONE. When the choices were reduced, it was easier. So guess what guys, YOU HAVE NO HOPE ON A DATING APP!

                                          • thanglong pham
                                            thanglong pham  3 months back

                                            I was playing with a scammer on OKC . that scammer is freaking stupid. He did not realize that I already knew he was a scammer. 😂

                                            • LordOfTrash
                                              LordOfTrash  3 months back

                                              Been turned down by a girl in a wheelchair, a girl who was deaf, and a girl that suffered from dwarfism. Women are shallow, and have unrealistic expectations. When you're a man on a dating site, you are nothing but a face on a screen.

                                              • Marcela Frances
                                                Marcela Frances  3 months back

                                                Thank you! We have to know what we want and meet in person quickly. I agree. I tend to make my first dates so long even when I know there isn't chemistry because I'm having fun and like to talk and then it ends up going nowhere on both sides. I see all the male comments on here and it's been the same for me. I message a guy and he responds once or never after we match and then he's vanished....

                                                • Captain
                                                  Captain  3 months back

                                                  Якубеня рассказывает как она уронила сосиску.

                                                  • Schuyler Hanson
                                                    Schuyler Hanson  4 months back

                                                    Spot on. Aimless swiping sucks, meeting people is fun. Interesting statisitics!

                                                    • blakliffy
                                                      blakliffy  4 months back

                                                      *when you hit the wall*

                                                      • Nigel Coleman
                                                        Nigel Coleman  4 months back

                                                        This works for a woman but the game is played entirely differently as a man...

                                                        • Lala
                                                          Lala  4 months back

                                                          Honestly a lot of guys who check that list turn out to be faking their interest the whole time and kept looking for options even when you thought things are going well. Also not all women get 1 reply for every 2 messages they send. Some of us get 1 reply for every 10 messages, but fine, I guess that's still a better percentage than what men get.

                                                          • linkinmetalica
                                                            linkinmetalica  4 months back

                                                            Look if you're going to talk about dating you have to have a statistic from both sexes and a live experiment. There's no way you could make conclusions about online dating with only your personal experience as a woman for both women and men. Take the average unattractive guy, even if he follows exactly what you have listed, he'd be lucky to even get a like online. A lot of it has more to do with building a social profile than it has to do with online dating. It includes going to events, taking pictures at those events, and using the social media outlets for it.

                                                            • Ankur Abichandani
                                                              Ankur Abichandani  4 months back

                                                              why was this talk on Ted? Ted is becoming a filler like most things do.

                                                              • Phlegethon
                                                                Phlegethon  4 months back

                                                                Wow I thought this was TedX, but nope this was a Ted talk. That's gotta take some brand reputation hit with this one.

                                                                • Joshua Israel
                                                                  Joshua Israel  4 months back

                                                                  Always liked the fact I'm tall (6.3) when I was dating, was able to talk to girls way out of my league, including my wife :)

                                                                  • Sergio Aguirre
                                                                    Sergio Aguirre  4 months back

                                                                    Stil not married, no kids, no her 30s lol Bitter cat lady in 5....4.....3....

                                                                    • James Allen
                                                                      James Allen  4 months back

                                                                      Yeah, she's done. She just hasn't realized it yet.

                                                                  • M B
                                                                    M B  4 months back

                                                                    3:57 Those are odds a man would kill for... Jokes aside, angry men in the comments need to chill.

                                                                    • Troy Zhen
                                                                      Troy Zhen  4 months back

                                                                      Who is this pathetic cat lady?

                                                                      • Norman Szczepanski
                                                                        Norman Szczepanski  5 months back

                                                                        All thoses guys claiming no man gets 1 message a week. I'm not that easy on the eyes and if you're out for blood, you will get some.

                                                                        • VideoTzar19
                                                                          VideoTzar19  5 months back

                                                                          The problem with online dating is it is very skewed towards women. Even a half-decent looking one will get tons of requests from several guys. This gives them the option to be very picky about who they want to go out with . When they finally meet someone chances are high they still have a few other guys on hold in their dating apps. They're not really committed to making a connection or making a serious effort in making the relationship work. They have options.
                                                                          I have seen this first hand with many of my female friends who will go out on dates because the guy they met checked all the boxes on their list but when they met them in person "something" about them made them decide that they should probably keep looking.
                                                                          Tried online dating for a couple of years but never got many dates. After I joined a singles group and went back to the old fashioned route of casual encounters it's been better. Plus I find it much more relaxing to focus on a single person and get to know them rather than have this initial impression from their dating profile that paints them as an amazing person that ends up seeming delusional when you meet them.

                                                                          • Maximilianmus is a cunt
                                                                            Maximilianmus is a cunt  5 months back

                                                                            yeah but at the end of the day, chatting someone up by email/text/app requires minimal effort compared to doing it in real life - that takes cahunas, especially sober

                                                                            low investment generally equals low reward

                                                                            • ASDFGHJKL dfghjhgcgyuigfyuij

                                                                              zero matches for me

                                                                              • Bellock_Grithlus
                                                                                Bellock_Grithlus  5 months back

                                                                                complaining about all the messages she gets? complaining despite that none of the messages are coming from men suitable for her? wow that must be depressing....imagine just being ignored for 8 years or better feeling dead inside from all the rejection. granted i have turned down probably 50 fat single moms in there lait 30's

                                                                                • Mateus Figueiredo
                                                                                  Mateus Figueiredo  5 months back

                                                                                  Lots of people in the comments didn't understand the idea behind the video. It's not about her getting 200 messages, it's not about gender, it's not about her type and requirements. It's about the zeroth date, and spending 1 hour with the person to see if you click. You can ignore all the rest if it doesn't make sense to you - each person has a different experience. You don't have to be rude in the comments just because you don't get that many messages.

                                                                                  • Mateus Figueiredo
                                                                                    Mateus Figueiredo  5 months back

                                                                                    It does not matter how many matches you get. The idea is the 0th date. If you get a match, go to a 0th date.

                                                                                  • Heldarion
                                                                                    Heldarion  5 months back

                                                                                    She went to 6 (?) 0th dates with over 200 messages. Most men are lucky to receive 6 matches, much less 6 messages. With numbers like that, they can only dream of even setting up a 0th date. That's why her talk is utterly useless for men.

                                                                                    Her "Don't write anything sexual" advice is also meh. I'd wager I had almost as much success with sexual messages as with non-sexual ones. And I'm as average looking as it gets.

                                                                                • Josh Eskow
                                                                                  Josh Eskow  6 months back

                                                                                  I like how 20 seconds into her talk, she proves that short men are one of the last groups it is OK to openly discriminate against and talk about discriminating against them without having to worry about any consequences. Of course, this talk sucked in general, so I guess that's a consequence she'll have to live with. Man this was garbage. I wish I had swiped left.

                                                                                  • TrueStuff
                                                                                    TrueStuff  6 months back

                                                                                    Cheap human.

                                                                                    • adanmacreates
                                                                                      adanmacreates  7 months back

                                                                                      So many /nice guys/ in the comments! I wonder why they’re single??

                                                                                      • Alan M
                                                                                        Alan M  7 months back

                                                                                        Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

                                                                                        Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

                                                                                        They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

                                                                                        A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

                                                                                        A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.

                                                                                        • Alan M
                                                                                          Alan M  7 months back

                                                                                          You women don't seem to understand. There is a 100 to 1 ratio of men to women on these apps.