What NOT to do on a FIRST DATE (Strange but True)


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  • Joyce Brower
    Joyce Brower  1 days back

    Hi Mat, Great video. Very helpful to me. In a couple of nights I'm going out on a first time date with a guy I have not not met but I've talked with him for about half an hour on the phone. He's a good friend are some friends of mine. He's picking me up and we're going to dinner. My question is do I have to invite him in either when he picks me up if I'm ready to go or when he drops me off? Also we're in our early 70s and active. Thanks for any input you may have.

    • Marshalee Patterson
      Marshalee Patterson  4 days back

      You are so full of energy in your videos and your tips are so helpful. thank you, Matt. You had me laughing so much in this video about the flatline date, but got your point about being grateful which makes a lot of sense.

      • Ayesha S
        Ayesha S  2 weeks back

        Smart man

        • Jordan Sullivan
          Jordan Sullivan  3 weeks back


          • Rachel Lee
            Rachel Lee  3 weeks back

            Who does not like music?!

            • Erin Brown
              Erin Brown  3 weeks back

              I am not turned off to someone excited on a date with me. This "who ever cares less wins" crap is nonsense and not who I am. I am not turned off by someone being into me. It's nice. It doesn't mean I will marry him but it's nicer than many other experiences, that's for sure.

              • kelli gonsalves
                kelli gonsalves  3 weeks back

                I just love your channel , Is it bad that number 1 I'm kinda picky and 2 that I just go with the flow ? Dating is great ,but is the way I approch it strange, because I just love meeting new people and I give everyone a chance ! I have been a bit shy on being excited before a date because I just want to meet them and see how we inter act . I do love the video with the 10 questions to ask that were off the wall I will use some of them . Thanks again your so funny

                • peacelife
                  peacelife  1 months back

                  Nice story

                  • Cecily Jamelia TV
                    Cecily Jamelia TV  1 months back

                    You're very blessed Matthew. Thank you for sharing!

                    • Pearl Bience Unwanted Plant

                      Thank you for the video.. it's a big lesson of life. To cut down our daily fantasim errors on desires of fiction and not the reality facts. This video teaches us to control our thoughts and day dreams. We gonna be persistent and focus when we need to not waste time but make time for ourselves with someone we click and enjoy to.. Not about the person perfect tense but more Natural smart and decent tense..

                      • baby girl
                        baby girl  1 months back

                        Hahaha LMAO😂😂😂

                        • Elaine Duddy
                          Elaine Duddy  1 months back

                          You advise is gold. Thank you. It does wonders to focus on gratitude in all areas of ones life. I do forget this and you have reminded me of the importance.

                          • Crazy Bruja
                            Crazy Bruja  1 months back

                            What an excellent video with great information. Thank you so much.

                            • Samantha Donjuan
                              Samantha Donjuan  1 months back

                              I feel personally attacked by this content.

                              • Monica Utrilla
                                Monica Utrilla  1 months back

                                Dear Matt,
                                I cannot tell you how PAINFULLY ILLUMINATING this video was. I am understanding how high expectations kill possibilities. But I am really grateful to you though, because now I know what kind of energy I should nurture. Thanks so much!

                                • No Name
                                  No Name  1 months back

                                  What happens when you had 0 expectations going into date 1 and it ended up amazing so you develop expectations that just get crushed?

                                  • Ji Li
                                    Ji Li  1 months back

                                    Thank you! Don't futurize things, stay in the presence and see the person reveal themselves rather than focus on what you want

                                    • Chris A
                                      Chris A  2 months back

                                      I want to express my gratitude 4 this video it was very insightful and I've learned so much from it. I began doing that after I met this person that I was really interested in and now I'm not going to do that I am going to be focused and stay in the present I'm so glad I found this video amazing I'm so grateful

                                      • Natalie Hilton
                                        Natalie Hilton  2 months back

                                        Your take on relationships are amazing. Thank you!

                                        • may day
                                          may day  2 months back

                                          don't start talking about stupid shit.

                                          • Nicole Jennings
                                            Nicole Jennings  2 months back

                                            No I don't really get upset often. I just get my free movie or dinner and if he doesn't have good conversation or communication in general, I pretty much forget about him as a serious candidate.

                                            • Saliena Tinson
                                              Saliena Tinson  2 months back

                                              I like this.

                                              • Shell Puck
                                                Shell Puck  2 months back

                                                Wow amazing video this just happened to me so lesson learnt no more getting excited about the date to crash back down again. I'm so GRATEFUL for Matt's videos thank you.

                                                • Fun Videos
                                                  Fun Videos  2 months back

                                                  I like to see a girl excited by me, if she's not excited by me then it feels like a bad vibe and that she is being deceitful or there's just no attraction.

                                                  • Elizabeth Sharp
                                                    Elizabeth Sharp  2 months back

                                                    I wish you had more long distant relationship videos I've never been on a date I've never held hands kissed or anything he lives 1000 miles from me we've been dating so far for four months April 25th after we finish school and get enough money and decide where we're going we'll go on a date week we'll stay at a hotel and stuff and we're very open we know alot of each other we're talk about are feelings and if there's something we don't understand we help each other so we're on the same page we have a great connection he's already told me he loves me since a month in and it's frequent now and we text practically every day all day except when he's fishing we know each other's hobbies wants and dreams I just want to be prepared for the date I mean I've never been on a single date ever so I'm alittle scared but I'm confident whatever happens by the end of the night we'll be together I just want him to have a good time and what happens when we have to part I just don't know all the answers I wish I did but I don't and that's ok but if I can find some answers for some of my questions I can make this work

                                                    • Rachana Visawadia
                                                      Rachana Visawadia  2 months back

                                                      Mat..I have recently started watching your videos..from the many coaches I have seen online you are one of the best and different from others in guiding and giving correct ways in approaching relationship.. simply loving your videos as you also help in giving clear understanding of phycological behaviour of a man..loads of love keep the good work going..👍👌😊

                                                      • Enrico Martinelli
                                                        Enrico Martinelli  3 months back

                                                        This was actually really helpful. I have a date tomorrow and I've been overthinking non stop!

                                                        • maria mistretta
                                                          maria mistretta  3 months back

                                                          Matt the dating coach is so right and so agree with him with how he talk about.
                                                          Be patient postive embrace lifestyle be yourself confident brave honest value self worth self respect self help.
                                                          Women can always tell when a man is faking it not being real.

                                                          So agree women shouldn't excited about it because it show you have other options ladies.
                                                          Avoid negative.
                                                          Don't be in your head.
                                                          Avoid Day dream be in the room be in conversation.
                                                          A man should avoid sexual questions on a Frist conversation because that rushing things and listen to him or her not what his friends says.
                                                          Don't assume things either.
                                                          calm down stay stressless with the person.
                                                          A man that plans things is a good man. Find things to talk about Basically.
                                                          Don't force on day dreams. Don't be in your head.
                                                          listen to each in a other conversation respond to each other. Gratitude is important friends and find the time harmony positive and l.o.v.e. compassion merciful and the right guy will enhance a relationship.
                                                          Stay present in room, pay attention to the person to the person and conversation. Be a gentleman.

                                                          • Mayela Tmr
                                                            Mayela Tmr  3 months back

                                                            Loved it !!! ✨✨🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

                                                            • LES GO GIRL
                                                              LES GO GIRL  3 months back

                                                              OMG! Funniest video ever! Great story!

                                                              • Adela Radichetti
                                                                Adela Radichetti  3 months back

                                                                Like your examples

                                                                • Chapinilla1
                                                                  Chapinilla1  3 months back

                                                                  I don’t know why I’m commenting in here, maybe I just want to talk with somebody 🤣 but my story started with getting married when I was 25. He never loved me, he only used me to get his green card plus I suffered from domestic violence. Finally, I opened my eyes three years ago and divorced the narcissist. Two years and half I started dating (mostly from dating apps) but so far I can’t tell you I ended with a broken heart again. I dated this guy for seven months just to found out I was only a rebound to him while I fall in love 😂
                                                                  I been dating A LOT of guys this time and I only can say that it’s been a waste of time, money and energy. Am I deserve all this painful years (almost 16 years) nope, no human being deserves to be abused but I’m tired of trying dating 🤷🏽‍♀️

                                                                  And yes, when I had a date with a guy I had chemistry with. I was planning a future with him, thinking about how many kids we were gonna have 🤣😂🙃 CRAZY 😜

                                                                  • minh119
                                                                    minh119  3 months back

                                                                    Thanks coach !!!

                                                                    • Kitten Bonniebonbons
                                                                      Kitten Bonniebonbons  4 months back

                                                                      This is exactly why first dates should be casual coffee dates lol that way nobody spends a fortune on a bad match

                                                                      • Carmen Michaelian
                                                                        Carmen Michaelian  4 months back

                                                                        Great advice Matt. I have done this before but now I will be grateful and be more present on my next date. Thanks so much for all you do for the clueless people out there in dating land.

                                                                        • Angela Young
                                                                          Angela Young  4 months back

                                                                          I think it's your LEVEL of excitement that could easily lead to disappointment. You need to tone it down..A LOT. A little bit of you can go a long long ....long way. For you, gratitude = maturity, which is something I think you were missing in the past.

                                                                          • A Taylor
                                                                            A Taylor  4 months back

                                                                            Thank you so much for this video. I found it very informative both from a man's and a woman's perspective. GREAT JOB!

                                                                            • Jamie S.
                                                                              Jamie S.  4 months back

                                                                              So women are supposed to be acting like Yeah, whatever, ok, on a first date? NO excitement whatsoever, huh? See how far that gets you!

                                                                              • Kate Kate
                                                                                Kate Kate  4 months back

                                                                                Meet for coffee instead of dinner. It is less pressure and much cheaper. The second date can be a bit more elaborate if you really like each other. Gives you room to raise your game

                                                                                • AMANDAbolic
                                                                                  AMANDAbolic  4 months back

                                                                                  Really enjoyed these tips! Thanks!

                                                                                  • Alejandra Ogaz
                                                                                    Alejandra Ogaz  4 months back

                                                                                    hahaha you explained it so good, so real, so fun to listen to the story.. I'd just literally remember the experience that I had made on a first date.. not even going out and start planning the following ones. Thanks a lot for these tips!.

                                                                                    • Rosemary Klass
                                                                                      Rosemary Klass  4 months back

                                                                                      GREAT advice, Mat!!!

                                                                                      • Carole Cote
                                                                                        Carole Cote  4 months back

                                                                                        I absolutely loved this video and I really needed to hear this ! I totally agree about the difference in our energy level with excitement vs gratitude !! I’m sure this will help me on my next first date!! Thanks Mat !
                                                                                        I like your open conscience and spiritual level of coaching !

                                                                                        • Nichola Kabaganja
                                                                                          Nichola Kabaganja  5 months back

                                                                                          Thanks for advise

                                                                                          • Alice Mello
                                                                                            Alice Mello  5 months back

                                                                                            Haha am I the only one now imagining what if the girl he mentioned on the video was actually watching it right now😂
                                                                                            Like "oh my god that's why he never called back again! Now I get it!"

                                                                                            • Nick NameZ
                                                                                              Nick NameZ  5 months back

                                                                                              Here opposite. I went on the first date with this guy from tinder and he was muuuuch more then the pictures and the profile. And was the same for him. We had an Amazing chat at the bar, playful, fun and with lot of things in common. I haven't heard from him so far (11 days now) because he wanted to have sex with me but I said no. I texted him 8 days ago and I didn't even get a reply. How idiotic. Giving up an amazing connection just because you didn't get sex on first date. Wtf. He is gonna be down with dramatic relationships if his judgement ground is only based on sex timing. I never get a joy.. if we are compatible they go. If we are not compatible they chase me...

                                                                                              • susan marozik
                                                                                                susan marozik  5 months back

                                                                                                #scoducks!! My daughter is a Duck! You are amazing!! I LOVE all of your videos. I am the queen of getting excited before a date and this just changed everything! :)

                                                                                                • elfa
                                                                                                  elfa  6 months back

                                                                                                  YOU ARE GREAT !!!