The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen

  • Published: 07 February 2014
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    Tracy McMillan is a television writer (Mad Men, United States of Tara) and relationship author who wrote the book Why You're Not Married...Yet, based on her viral 2011 Huffington Post blog. She also appeared as a dating coach on the NBC reality show Ready For Love. She lives in Los Angeles and is the mother of a 16-year-old guy.

    In her TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen talk, McMillan answers the question: "Who is the one person you need to marry in order to have a successful relationship? (Yourself)"

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Comments • 7 533

  • Jin churiiki
    Jin churiiki  8 hours back

    Just don’t get married period! You’ll be the happiest person ever!

    I’m never getting married again.

    • Garry Kennedy
      Garry Kennedy  15 hours back

      I don't need you to ask me to marry you. I already married myself so your just not all that important to me that way. It's great though that your insecure enough to be OK with that. That's what I like most about you. HAHAHAHA... She don't realize, at this point, that it's OK to need someone. Just not the wrong way. Not to make you happy, but to enhance your happiness. Her growth, although stunted, is still on the right track though. Mine as well. I've been celibate for 15 years now and love most of me. But other parts not so much. Life is never figured out. Only practiced. Find someone to practice it with that realizes that. Disappointments rely on high expectations to manifest. The best you can do is know your level of acceptable expectations and choose those that meet them. After all, you can't change much about a person. At any age.

      • muskaan gupta
        muskaan gupta  24 hours back

        But what if I don't want to marry me? What if I don't want that commitment because I have zero self worth?

        • Kyle Wathen
          Kyle Wathen  1 days back

          First comes child support then comes alimony then comes jail when you can't pay any of it I don't need to get married specially when The Law are discriminating towards men

          • Laughter Addict
            Laughter Addict  2 days back


            • Bernese Muir
              Bernese Muir  2 days back

              Thank you for sharing, so good💞

              • kelly hunziker
                kelly hunziker  3 days back

                I just left my husband for once again cheating on me. I have gone through it just way too many times and I don't think I can take him back again. This was helpful to hear.

              • philboytano
                philboytano  3 days back

                its me, myself and my vibrators.

                • K De Luna
                  K De Luna  3 days back

                  I really need to love myself 💖

                  • FURIOUS
                    FURIOUS  4 days back

                    You cried about it.

                    • qb
                      qb  4 days back

                      After watching this show...

                      Me: I DO!!!

                      • Chad Keller
                        Chad Keller  5 days back

                        The search for unconditional love.....the search for unconditional acceptance........the search for identity. We are search of completeness.

                        • Ron H
                          Ron H  6 days back

                          What many people need but haven't heard you talk, and would find it very difficult. I can't do it without difficulty.

                          • revathi naicker
                            revathi naicker  6 days back

                            Omg this is ❤️

                            • Silver miner
                              Silver miner  1 weeks back

                              Social tools are making the difference when it comes to news and elections,that's why there trying to shut down any opposing views.

                              • clarice cherry
                                clarice cherry  1 weeks back

                                When u don't love yourself you will settle for anything. Love yourself to radiate the energy of love, so that you can recieve it. Fools gold looks good when the glitter and shine wear away what are you left with?

                                • Sergio Aguirre
                                  Sergio Aguirre  1 weeks back

                                  MGTOW saves lives
                                  Cat ladies marrying themselves lol

                                  • Cameron Viehman
                                    Cameron Viehman  1 weeks back

                                    Rumor has it she is on marriage 6.... she divorced herself 2 weeks after this talk...

                                    • Intesar
                                      Intesar  1 weeks back


                                      • Tracey Starr
                                        Tracey Starr  2 weeks back

                                        Absolutely beautiful Tracy, Thank you x

                                        • Nico Kadel-Garcia
                                          Nico Kadel-Garcia  2 weeks back

                                          Marry the one you care about most. Got it.

                                          • scott sanger
                                            scott sanger  2 weeks back

                                            you should try it ............she cant understand HER own biology. MEN dont care about you ........sorry.

                                            • Sofia Hassan
                                              Sofia Hassan  2 weeks back

                                              I agree with you 100% Thank you for enlightening me

                                              • Charles Long
                                                Charles Long  2 weeks back

                                                This is an ad campaign for parent-arraigned marriage, at age 14 or 15, and live in a society that forces you to stay married or you are excommunicated from your community, cut off from friends, and relatives.

                                                • Karoline McDermott
                                                  Karoline McDermott  2 weeks back

                                                  Omg I always felt this personal stigma about myself because because I had a child with the wrong person and felt like this pretty much sealed my fate to die alone. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who took a slightly different path.

                                                  • Isaac Ragland
                                                    Isaac Ragland  2 weeks back

                                                    This chick is a perpetual victim.

                                                    • Tony Barried
                                                      Tony Barried  2 weeks back

                                                      • Jeremy Duke
                                                        Jeremy Duke  2 weeks back

                                                        I wonder if people are laughing at her and not at her jokes?

                                                        • Lizzy A
                                                          Lizzy A  2 weeks back

                                                          Wow! I knew the answer to this before I started the video..... but to hear the rest from her was quite interesting 👌.

                                                          • Cassie Cee
                                                            Cassie Cee  2 weeks back


                                                            • Discovery Planet
                                                              Discovery Planet  2 weeks back

                                                              truly amaaaaaaaaaaaaazing speech and greaaaaaaaaaat personality

                                                              • kelly birg
                                                                kelly birg  2 weeks back

                                                                Tracy, you’re a badass! Thank you for this!!!! It’s such an amazing reminder!

                                                                • Rabia Shahid
                                                                  Rabia Shahid  2 weeks back

                                                                  This made me cry

                                                                  • Irene Madrid
                                                                    Irene Madrid  2 weeks back

                                                                    I never dreamed of a wedding. I never wanted to get married. I wanted kids--by myself--and finally after a disaterious 42 yr marriage, I have myself and 11 grandchildren ( also TWO Std Poodle puppies )

                                                                    • Irene Madrid
                                                                      Irene Madrid  2 weeks back

                                                                      After a narcissistic father and husband of 42 yrs I am strong and respect myself greatly. I think I am very attractive but I believe there is NO man for me because I ask for a lot from a man---something I have asked of myself my entire life. As much as I would love a wonderful man, I don't think he is alive and available .

                                                                      • Felicity Joy
                                                                        Felicity Joy  2 weeks back

                                                                        Moved to tears. 💜

                                                                        • Ani Pelaez
                                                                          Ani Pelaez  3 weeks back

                                                                          Omg how did she make me cry on the last second?! 😮 P. S: I loved her hair TOO!

                                                                          • mybebe2005
                                                                            mybebe2005  3 weeks back

                                                                            You sure gave yourself a good therapy!

                                                                            • Atitaya Sinthupong
                                                                              Atitaya Sinthupong  3 weeks back

                                                                              thank you

                                                                              • Rich Briscoe
                                                                                Rich Briscoe  3 weeks back

                                                                                Would you say this applies to men as well as women?

                                                                                • MsBethanHolly
                                                                                  MsBethanHolly  3 weeks back

                                                                                  It is so hard to watch something so true...I could barely get through it i was crying so hard.

                                                                                  • Maryam
                                                                                    Maryam  3 weeks back

                                                                                    13:17 😭💖💜💜

                                                                                    • D'Marcus Liebowitz
                                                                                      D'Marcus Liebowitz  3 weeks back

                                                                                      Is that a dude?

                                                                                      • ELIZABETH MORALES
                                                                                        ELIZABETH MORALES  3 weeks back

                                                                                        For me took me 17 years of my life to realize that it’s me the most important person to ❤️LOVE. 😁

                                                                                        • Geeta Sheogobind
                                                                                          Geeta Sheogobind  3 weeks back

                                                                                          My goodness what a wonderful concept. Thank you Tracy. I was wondering where this was going but you come full circle and show us that to marry ourselves is the best and most important commitment any of us can make....thank you

                                                                                          • Anastasiya Havryltso
                                                                                            Anastasiya Havryltso  3 weeks back

                                                                                            Once you find yourself!!You find the real love and not the half, cause you are not the half!!Loved the video

                                                                                            • ABIJITH SHYAM
                                                                                              ABIJITH SHYAM  3 weeks back

                                                                                              That was awesome

                                                                                              • Shaina Colon
                                                                                                Shaina Colon  3 weeks back

                                                                                                “I’ll never leave you.”

                                                                                                /cries a lot/