1 BIG Reason You're Single | Dating Advice For Women By Mat Boggs


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  • PhuongThao
    PhuongThao  4 days back

    For those who are interested in shame, please check out Dr. Brene Brown's great book: Daring Greatly

    • Melody D. Casimero
      Melody D. Casimero  5 days back

      This is soooooo deep.... ❤❤❤

      • Gogo Shagara
        Gogo Shagara  3 weeks back

        What we block please tell me men are not responsible, they think it is essay or right for girls to hangout with them and have a good time.. No..
        Love means to be responsible for a woman you might be a father and she has the right to make her relationship with her man legal by married and walk with him in front of all people around them..
        Many many men will make a move or try to get the lady but what is right is right ..
        Why you people want the girls to choose the wrong direction in relationship ?

        • kay bee
          kay bee  4 weeks back

          What if we have absolutely no one in our lives that is safe enough to tell our shame too?

          • Zari Kaz
            Zari Kaz  1 months back

            Your video was great as always😍

            • Adela Radichetti
              Adela Radichetti  3 months back

              Thank you

              • Rebecca Murphy
                Rebecca Murphy  4 months back

                I know it...
                Im 12, ginger, have hella freckles and like guys that are a little older like 15 or 14🙂

                • Sarika Verma
                  Sarika Verma  5 months back

                  Good day Matt and fellow subscribers. Matt, I have to say, in my healing process (just over 2 years, single) I have watched a slew of videos. Videos from many dating "experts". You are one of the FEW who actually are sincere. You show that you truly care and have an invested interest in women / men finding true love through the depth of your words. I have dated and I strictly go by my instinct. Women, listen to your instinct. Like most women, I come across men who want their ego stroked and sex. Period. They too have insecurities and they mask them with big talk and over confidence, etc. Matt, you do good. You give women wisdom and courage and motivation to love themselves. I have shame with my body. In this IG world full of women who wear nothing and parade around naked (or close to) with these almost perfect bodies, lips, eyes, etc etc. *(although make'uped, botoxed, plastic surgery etc.) , it has set the standard for what men seek. Men seek eye candy; very unrealistic eye candy. This epidemic of Kardashian look alikes has brought me and most women I know shame. we feel shameful for our back fat , our unperky boobs, our thin lips, our unpolished nails, or unrooly hair after days trying to attain perfection at the gym. I've realized that loving myself is the best kind of love I am going to find in today's pretentious society. Loving myself with all my un-perfect parts is the only love that I need to sustain me. I don't trust anyone with my heart anymore. Men who want substance, intelligence, well-roundedness, balance don't exist, they are going extinct. I wish men watched videos to UNDERSTAND how detrimental to sustaining real connections , this hook-up culture and sex driven behaviour is. The block can be removed if men wouldn't do us wrong. Their selfishess and ill desires add to our shame.
                  It's a cycle of women who feel shame for their flaws, sought out by men playing on female insecurities, manipulating us with all the right words but ill intentions, using us/abusing us, and never committing, in turn making us feel shameful for 'giving in, or not feeling good enough, or being used'. I don't see this cycle ending anytime soon. Working towards our BEST SELF is the only way to feel complete and fulfilled. Side note; Matt, you created a video speaking about dating online and the plethora of options and you give a 'benching potentials' anology. Can you please reply with a link to that video?
                  God Bless you Matt. Keep the videos - words of wisdom and sincerity coming!

                  • Raquel French-Goetzke
                    Raquel French-Goetzke  5 months back

                    I have a block because I don’t feel like I am good enough for anyone. I have anxiety when I try to meet guys in person but text message I can be my self. I feel that I am not pretty enough or I am not skinny enough. I am over weight and I don’t feel pretty. I have a fear of rejection and I am not worthiness

                    • Samantha Tooley
                      Samantha Tooley  8 months back

                      I fear if I tell a guy. That I have depression and anxiety. He will ignorant to what it means to feel this way. Wouldnt know how to support me. Thus run away. I'm fighting every day to feel good.

                      • Samantha Tooley
                        Samantha Tooley  8 months back

                        Do you know the song Tears of a clown by smokey Robinson. Listen to the lyrics that describes life for me.

                    • Catherine Reinhardt
                      Catherine Reinhardt  9 months back

                      Matt, everything said in this video is so true. Ashamed of the fact that I am partially sighted and have been all my life. Don't have drivers license regular job receive disability. Also struggle w/ mental health and chronic pain.feel like I'm not good enough and never have been for anyone. Finally learning/believing it's BS story been telling myself for yrs. seeing so many people consistently in/out of relationships for yrs. is devastating. And, despite the work I've done on myself over last few years, not much has really changed. Will it ever be me ? It's suppose to be me. Instead of everyone around me. Deserve someone who commits shortly after meeting and so on. Deserve an amazing relationship more than everyone in my life because of the amount to which I have struggled in life.s d

                      • O Overlyloved
                        O Overlyloved  9 months back

                        This video brought tears to my eyes

                        • Miss B
                          Miss B  9 months back

                          Right on Mat

                          • dilo dilo
                            dilo dilo  10 months back

                            Very good point! 👍

                            • Cutie Pie!
                              Cutie Pie!  10 months back

                              I got three friend married one in a serious years in relationship and one I think she still single she likes to cearal date. Honestly I know I'm single because I haven't tried in a while I haven't found someone I'm interested in!

                              • Janice P Ellis
                                Janice P Ellis  11 months back

                                My shame is my weight problem. Society is SO unkind to fat people that, over time, I've come to believe that no man would want me because I'm overweight. It doesn't help that every now and then, people who are supposed to care about me "remind" me that men don't like overweight women. Buying into those beliefs makes me eat to comfort myself, which results in a deeper sense of shame. Recently, a very physically fit man, who I get had been admiring me from afar for months, approached me. But, I seem to have pushed him away because I thought why would Mr.Fit be interested in Ms Fat? Now, he ignores me and I feel hurt and like the whole thing was some bs move on his part.

                                • Chinchin Chokhlei
                                  Chinchin Chokhlei  11 months back

                                  So powerful

                                  • Ms. Chris Cole
                                    Ms. Chris Cole  11 months back

                                    I LOVE that I watched my very first Brené Brown talk, earlier today— and then watch a video of yours that mentioned her! I began crying, so hard, while watching her Ted Talk on critics— as I know I was divinely guided to watch it, to support me in my journey of achieving self-mastery while working through mental health issues from life-long narcissistic abuse syndrome and the physical and mental health issues that arose from long-term exposure to stress (cortisol) and trauma— all while currently living with my covertly narcissistic mother, because she wanted to be my “caretaker” (it took getting sick to realize what she was and why I was so

                                    I also absolutely LOVE your videos, Matt! I pray that our works will cross paths, and we’ll get the opportunity to work together.. 🤞🏻 Until then, be well and blessed be! 🙏🏻💛☺️

                                    • londeka nokota
                                      londeka nokota  12 months back

                                      thanks for sharing....I can't download your videos I've been trying ...help

                                      • Mikoto Chenmai
                                        Mikoto Chenmai  12 months back

                                        Mat! What if I'm super confident about myself and still can't find quality men?? whenever I go on a date with a guy, I find most of them NOT my type! and when I do find someone I can see myself with, he ghosts on me...

                                        • Does it Matter
                                          Does it Matter  1 years back

                                          I do have something blocking me. I have fallen victim to a fuckboy. I for some reason can't get over him. I guess its because i actually felt special that he shared and talked about his family with me and told me a lot about them. He hasn't done it with anyone else apparently, and sometimes he goes through the halls i go through even if his class is on the opposite side of the building. I would only glance at him, but he'd stare at me. He's known to lure girls by making it seem likes he's interested when he really isnt. I know this, yet i can't break free. I have so many people i could date that actually are interested in me but i just can't! Help meee ;-;

                                          • D. Zaster
                                            D. Zaster  1 years back

                                            Interesting point!

                                            • Rosé Noire Rodriguez
                                              Rosé Noire Rodriguez  1 years back

                                              I don't understand this one.... I have things i'm embarrassed about. Like parts of my body, or personality, facial features, etc. But I don't have "shame" or even guilt. I've cheated on partners but, I don't feel bad about it. That would be the only thing I could think of. Can someone explain this to me?

                                              • Angela Woods
                                                Angela Woods  1 years back

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                                                • Katherine H.
                                                  Katherine H.  1 years back

                                                  Hi Matt, you're amazing. Can you make video about how to talk with man who have to talk with you, because it is his job, like barmans? How to separate yourself from crowd? Thanks love you.

                                                  • Audra Bryant Booking
                                                    Audra Bryant Booking  1 years back

                                                    This is a great video Matt!! For years my shame were my scars! I hid myself from men and especially myself. I finally got a place where I was able to accept myself and I used it in my art : https://youtu.be/9omSfX-IMkE

                                                    • Eveline Pol
                                                      Eveline Pol  1 years back

                                                      I agree so much with Cher Monroe, especially when the ogre comes out, usually when you're sharing a roof together. Simple choice is living alone, or joining the demons. Only real love is from Mum and Dad, and other close relatives, a conclusion which is often made with many tears. Mat is really right with the automatical blocks, but they are there to protect you from wrong people, it is your intuition which tells you. I was not blocked at all when I met my husband, because he was normal. Wish you so much luck ladies, and keep watching Mat for expert advice, super to give us a clue into male behaviour.

                                                      • Kerrie Mills
                                                        Kerrie Mills  1 years back

                                                        Thank you, Matt well explained.

                                                        • Elizabeth Maillet
                                                          Elizabeth Maillet  1 years back

                                                          I love Matt but this video makes no sense. I live in small town Canada. The only men who want me are either married or men that I'm not attracted to at all physically or mentally. I've been alone for almost 3 years now. I feel this video was just words. I love myself as I don't settle out of fear of being alone. There is just NO quality men around. Online dating is a joke. There are no clubs to join that fit my work schedule or interesting and in the dead of winter here in Canada there isn't much to do. I'm sorry but this video was just not helpful.

                                                          • Grazz
                                                            Grazz  1 years back

                                                            I love your dual book cases that don't have enough books to fill either of them....

                                                            • Tigger
                                                              Tigger  1 years back

                                                              I had never thought about it like that before. I suppose I am ashamed of my appearance; I am ashamed that no one wants to date me; I am ashamed that I have got so far in life and no one has ever liked me enough to want to marry me. And I am ashamed of my feelings if I meet someone I like. I recently met a man through work that I felt very attracted to: he's tall, handsome, masculine, intelligent, charming and very easy to talk to. The instant I realized I liked him my barriers went up, the shutters came down and I was very off hand with him, probably almost bordering on being a little bit rude. And the reason: I was terrified he would realise I liked him and be repulsed by me. All I could think as i sat with him was: "Poor guy, fancy having an old troll like me attracted to you. Don't worry, I won't embarrass you by making it publicly known, and I will make sure I stay away from you. I expect he's sitting there thinking 'Why did it have to be you that processed me. Why couldn't it have been a woman who was: prettier/younger/blonde/slimmer - anybody but you' ". And ever since I have made a point of making sure I am not in the vicinity, if I know he may visit our building.

                                                              • Rim Ime
                                                                Rim Ime  1 years back

                                                                Big shame is having streaching marks on my body make me feel discusting feel like monster i don't know if man gonna accept me with this and i am kind of shy personnne i don't i think i don't like everything about me

                                                                • charleen hopkins
                                                                  charleen hopkins  1 years back

                                                                  yea the past is gone

                                                                  • charleen hopkins
                                                                    charleen hopkins  1 years back

                                                                    thank your for the reminder

                                                                    • charleen hopkins
                                                                      charleen hopkins  1 years back

                                                                      no i have been lazzy in almost every sense

                                                                      • Wong Lu
                                                                        Wong Lu  1 years back

                                                                        Love your videos Matt!

                                                                        • Melanie S
                                                                          Melanie S  1 years back

                                                                          Wow amazing thank you Matt

                                                                          • Felicia Frempong
                                                                            Felicia Frempong  1 years back

                                                                            pls can I get email or any contact media?thanks

                                                                            • Sharon Thomas
                                                                              Sharon Thomas  1 years back

                                                                              Right on time, never heard it this way... But this is that one truth

                                                                              • Kylie Wali
                                                                                Kylie Wali  1 years back

                                                                                Wow the shelves behind are gorgeous!

                                                                                • Chryss Par
                                                                                  Chryss Par  1 years back

                                                                                  the most amazing and profound advice I had the chance to hear in my life!! thank you!

                                                                                  • SoftAndWarm
                                                                                    SoftAndWarm  1 years back

                                                                                    Thanks for this video, Mat! Spot on. I feel restrained and shameful for family reasons and I have this strange pervasive feeling of being absent in my own life. I guess things will improve if I can share these feelings with close people but so far not many people around to talk about it...

                                                                                    • Chiara Simeoni
                                                                                      Chiara Simeoni  1 years back

                                                                                      My personaly esperience was when I was in relationship with a boy and I notice only lately that his life couldn't be setle down with me has he made me think and built a future togheter. I felt shame to share a part of my precious years with a wrong person. When he new we wouldn't be together. It's shame to trust folish silly person like him. But we all know experience in life teachs us to open our eyes !

                                                                                    • Janet L
                                                                                      Janet L  1 years back

                                                                                      Excellent video, thanks Mat for delving into this topic. Our inner beliefs manifest in our physical reality outside and yes, clearing that shame will clear the blocks to that love we're seeking. Thank you for this reminder.

                                                                                      • Patti Lacey
                                                                                        Patti Lacey  1 years back

                                                                                        Shame is me being on disability and financially having to live with my parents at my age when I have had this disability since I was a teenager and lived without my parents right after graduation. If someone wants to date me I want to have a talk together with a doctor before a first date together. (Having heat stroke means I need a permanent relationship where I am not left alone and need proper housing with proper working air conditioner at 70 degrees or relocating to a year-round temperature of 70's). Medicaid is already on cuts so who knows what would happen in the future and having a family. It makes me feel like I will never have a future.

                                                                                        • Kesha Kellogg
                                                                                          Kesha Kellogg  1 years back

                                                                                          Patti Lacey Much love to you, Patti. <3 That is a tough situation.

                                                                                      • isabel ramos
                                                                                        isabel ramos  1 years back

                                                                                        Attracting men physically and maybe mentally to me is not hard, the hard part is keeping them interested. They usually stick around but just because of my body. I guess I'm just considered a sexual object. Sometimes I feel like my personality is not enough to keep someone. I guess dating is not for me. Well I don't know what my block is but whatever I'm just gonna use that block to protect me from distracting me of what is important right now.

                                                                                        • Cheree M
                                                                                          Cheree M  1 years back

                                                                                          isabel ramos thanks but I'm not looking or hoping to meet anyone.

                                                                                        • isabel ramos
                                                                                          isabel ramos  1 years back

                                                                                          Cher Monroe I really hope you can heal your heart, find someone who loves you and doesn't want to take advantage from you. Wish you all the best!

                                                                                        • Cheree M
                                                                                          Cheree M  1 years back

                                                                                          I always meet the ones that just want pussy and my paycheck. There are no decent men, they're all sex hungry lazy bums looking for a woman to cater to them.

                                                                                        • Monica Sancio
                                                                                          Monica Sancio  1 years back

                                                                                          Good advice, Kesha, thank you! I'm in the process of attracting a conscious guy, too : )

                                                                                        • Kesha Kellogg
                                                                                          Kesha Kellogg  1 years back

                                                                                          There are lots of good men out there; the trick is knowing where to find them. What about looking for a man who is on the same spiritual path as you? I've found men are less likely to be shallow or use you if you connect spiritually. Feed yourself spiritually (whatever that means for you) and you'll be in the right crowd. ;-)

                                                                                      • Misha Lezhava
                                                                                        Misha Lezhava  1 years back

                                                                                        Mat, YOU, YOURSELVES, are the gift for us dear!!!
                                                                                        Love, trust and relationships are the things brought from two sides!
                                                                                        If any from two humans, close friends or partners are not at the very level, don’t have strength enough to feel or own the love, trust or the high sense of equal relationships and do not carry on the devotional respect of sincere, reciprocal relationships, tender values to each other, love is not being built!!!
                                                                                        Love is the huge affectionate feeling, inner sense and obligation created by the UNIVERCE!!!

                                                                                        • Milan Nikolic
                                                                                          Milan Nikolic  1 years back

                                                                                          OMG!!! I meet a woman of my life last week!!!