How Modern Dating Culture Stops Him from Taking You Seriously (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)


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  • Claudia Ocampo
    Claudia Ocampo  7 hours back

    Im ready and prepared to find a real relationship and i have sacrificed the bull shit. Thanks mathew for encourage me to keep going with that purpose

    • credenza1
      credenza1  18 hours back

      Women might be advised to expunge any catch phrases of the feminist movement from their vocabulary. They raise a red flag and men are alerted to the negative outcomes that the feminist movement has created for them in relationships. This is not to say women should not support the modern feminist movement if that is their thing, but rather to explain that feminism is a potential date killer.

      • Spiritual Intuitive
        Spiritual Intuitive  2 days back

        I appreciate that he's talking about this because this does go along with what I'm hearing in the work that I do with men and women in the spiritual intuitive relationship coaching that I do both online and in person!! A lot of women and men talk to me about these concerns and it does seem to be hitting a peek or a breaking point and it's good to start to look at dating 'consciously' and that's a frame of mind also as he's talking about here in some examples. Many blessings everyone!! 🙏💖🙏

        • Tony Williams
          Tony Williams  3 days back

          Cecilia, no you hit the wall so they look for something younger and hotter.

          • Tony Williams
            Tony Williams  3 days back

            What's up with the hair?

            • Donald Henhawke
              Donald Henhawke  3 days back

              perhaps they should have filmed this in the family courts... this is why you cant find dates...

              • tailgunner2
                tailgunner2  4 days back

                I noticed the women in that seminar that REALLY needed to pay attention were the ones looking down at their phones.
                You can invite them, pay them to be there, make them as comfortable as humanly possible, but like that horse to water, you will NEVER get them to drink from the fountain of knowledge. THAT is why the dating scene is the train wreck it is today!

                • Hijabi TV
                  Hijabi TV  4 days back

                  You was really aggressive towards the woman of colour felt like you were bullying her.

                  • Cloud Geeky
                    Cloud Geeky  4 days back

                    Considering how every person has a different perspective on the matter let's not forget the individual has control over these matters. Take responsibility for yourself and be a selfless individual that stands up for something and someone rather than expecting yourself be rewarded and entitled to something. Everyone wants but what do you truly need? You cannot keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. Change as the person in the mirror and accept that maybe it's just not for you. It's not for everybody. That's perfectly fine. At the end of the day you'll never be able to truly know a person like they know themselves. You dont have to like there choices but at least try understand them.

                    • Bill Williams
                      Bill Williams  5 days back

                      Just maintain frame, wash with tactical soap and rub Richard Cooper's beard balm on your nut sack. Boom! Thots will fall out of the sky

                      • LordDragul Smitty
                        LordDragul Smitty  5 days back

                        Men aren't intimidated by smart women. We are intimidated by their hypergamous nature. If women didn't have the "I must find a higher status wealth male" men would have no issue giving everything in order to find the one we want to invest in

                        • Maria C84
                          Maria C84  5 days back

                          Dating these days does suck. But what if you can't even get one date even when you do try and socialize?

                          • j juniper
                            j juniper  5 days back

                            This is so true! I'm sooooo glad I have found a decent guy finally!!! ❤️❤️

                            • LavishPatchKid
                              LavishPatchKid  4 days back

                              +j juniper I don't expect you to grasp anything I'm saying.

                              Nor do I intend to respond to all the "bitter", "projection" - yadda yadda yadda - tripe you've been programmed with, to masquerade as if you can think.

                              I'm just doing this to teach men women can't grasp logic, and will say anything they "feel" will currently get them what they want - to the point it doesn't even line up with comments they posted 5 minutes beforehand.

                              Well, and hopefully give said men a chuckle along the way.

                              You been a great sport about it all!
                              I appreciate.

                            • j juniper
                              j juniper  4 days back

                              +LavishPatchKid Are you an man or a woman. It's hard to tell. But clearly you've not lived as long as I have. Again, I'll just pray that someday your projection of reality has a paradigm shift. So sorry you feel this way. Peace

                            • LavishPatchKid
                              LavishPatchKid  4 days back

                              +j juniper
                              "I'm sooooo glad I have found a decent guy finally!!!"

                              "I've been loved all my life."

                              "I don't sleep around and I most certainly do not settle for less than what I desire."

                              Annnnd our survey says, you're full of shit!

                              Thank you for watching, folks!
                              Remember to have your pets spayed or neutered.

                              See you next week!

                            • j juniper
                              j juniper  4 days back

                              I'm so sorry for you. 😢 You are an incredibly bitter person, who may not have ever found love or been loved. I've been loved all my life. I don't sleep around and I most certainly do not settle for less than what I desire.

                              Get a therapist.

                            • LavishPatchKid
                              LavishPatchKid  4 days back

                              So... is he the normal loser to whom you're currently kidding yourself with?
                              Or an actual nice guy you're using, that you know you lied to when he ask, "how many guys have you been with"?

                          • Magepunk 77
                            Magepunk 77  5 days back

                            The one thing that women could change that would make all the difference in the world?

                            Get to know a guy, rather than expecting him to get to know you.

                            I have met so many self-centered women out there it's crazy. They wait for a man to throw out some line, act a certain way, or be a certain "type" and never get to know a man for who he is.

                            Good men are not hard to come by, but we have been burned too. So get over yourselves, take off your judgement hat, and start really asking them questions about who they are, rather than hoping they are what you want them to be.

                            • Suzy
                              Suzy  5 days back

                              After reading these comments, who knew men were so frustrated? I’ve heard about today’s women from the viewpoint of men and there’s a problem. We became the men we hated.

                              • 100%Che
                                100%Che  5 days back

                                Feminism: A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle…….................Ok, no problem. MGTOW

                                • Welcome To hell
                                  Welcome To hell  5 days back

                                  Notice that the audience is all women lol

                                  • JESS
                                    JESS  5 days back

                                    When are you going to Philippines?

                                    • MysticStrike ForceSSJ3

                                      Its weird how now we are going back to the classic dating of just being with one person instead of being a slut and it can be either man and women. For me i'm a classic guy and just have one goal and that is to find the right one and marry her and that's it because dating other people will cause problem and i have full knowledge of that.

                                      • MysticStrike ForceSSJ3
                                        MysticStrike ForceSSJ3  6 days back

                                        Because i know the key factor for a good relationship is communication and everyone says that but in the end they never follow it through and that's why we are still failing to see the big picture. Like a good turn off for me is when girls ask to much out of me instead of just simple questions.

                                    • Brandon Moore
                                      Brandon Moore  6 days back

                                      I'm not intimidated by intelligent females i just dont like it if they make it clear they think im stupid, which usually is them thinking they are alot smarter than they really are.

                                      I am not intimidated by a woman that makes more money, but it does feel like as a man If I dont seem like a good enough provider because of the money I make, she will eventually look elsewhere. Studies show women expect their male partner to make significantly more than they do on average. This typicaly goes higher the more she makes. So if she makes 12000 a year she will expect her man to make 18000 but a girl who makes 60000 will expect him to make 100000. women who make 120000 will expect his to make 250000.

                                      I am not intimidated by an attractive woman, but a woman will never date below her unless her self esteem is seriously low. Like if she just got out of a breakup. This happens because humans are not monogamous by nature they have to be conditioned by social and religious pressures to be monogamous. Now that society and religion do not push women to be monogamous they will use a tournment style reproducive strategy instead of a pair bonding one. So the womens hypergamy will cause her to monkey branch up to better males.

                                      I am intimidated by divorce court, common law marriage, uncontrolled negative female behaviour like false rape allegations, false molesting allegations, and convincing other you are a bad partner which usually isnt the case.

                                      In the 80s, 90% of marriage issues marriage counselers incounter was men abusing women, but now women are so privledged socially and legally that now most agree its 90% of the time the womans fault in 2019.

                                      Im intimidated by the fact that half of marriages end in divorce, and most that are left are unhappy.

                                      I am intimidated by facts like lesbian divorce rates being about 96% and lesbians relationships are significantly more likely to experience physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.

                                      I'm intimidated by modern day women because they are not women anymore. This creates groups of men to "go john galt," or "go MGTOW," (Men going their own way.)

                                      Fix those problems and you'll get better relationships and good men will come back to the table. The first step in solving an issue is admiting their is one, and having that group of people collectively change their behaviour.

                                      • Meagan Hammer
                                        Meagan Hammer  6 days back

                                        Matt, this comment section is a clear indicator you are doing something right. Even though I'm in a loving relationship I'll occasionally watch your videos because I love your philosophy on life and I want people like you in my circle. I was extremely surprised to see a majority of comments made by men who have some petty, sad, bitter, victim-mentality beliefs about life. I used to see mostly hopeful women comment on your videos. At first it made me sad but it reminds me that you only get hate if you put yourself out there. Thank you for your work in the world!

                                        • Ajiah Ci
                                          Ajiah Ci  6 days back

                                          ***UNPOPULAR OPINION***
                                          You think successful women have a hard time!? Try being African- American female in a White society and dating!

                                          The men outside my ethnic group that find me attractive I do not find them attractive! On a scale I attract mostly are Hispanic, older White Males, and Black American gentleman. Yet, my preference is India, and Asian men! I am literally working against the grain here!

                                          I attract guys who don't take care of themselves physically. I am a very clean female, 5'3, slim, brown hair, brown tone, and Bob haircut, ( for those curious about my appearance, Google Jasmine Tookes) I look similar in skin tone and face! Why can't I find men equally attractive as me that are clean, healthy, kind, educated and open 👩🏾???

                                          It is not asking for the world!!!

                                          • RegencyLady1797
                                            RegencyLady1797  6 days back

                                            I'm a 21 year old woman who has always had old fashioned relationship values, I believed it would be like that when I got old enough to date and was stuck a hard blow. I want to find the man I will marry and grow old with, I want to go into a relationship where that's the intention. Old fashioned values are looked down on. I don't enjoy clubs, the idea of hookups and casual scare me. I mean I prefer waltzes and old fashioned balls. I don't want to do online dating because that's so based on lust. I am envious of my grandparents generation, their values are far more fitting to my own values than the generation I live in.
                                            It's better to be alone than to conform to a culture I don't like, but I am living in a world that no longer exists. The world I want to live in is long gone .

                                            • Mofo 303
                                              Mofo 303  6 days back

                                              So many have paid to play for the love you're feeling today
                                              I wouldn't if I were you, I know what she can do
                                              Ooh, the beauty is there, but she has a spider for a heart
                                              Watch out boy, she could really rip your world apart
                                              Here she comes to chew you up, she's a man eater

                                              • Mic Well
                                                Mic Well  6 days back

                                                this dude needs to get married and than divorced ...after he's raked through the courts and that system...then post your idealism

                                                • Reabetsoe Motjolopane
                                                  Reabetsoe Motjolopane  7 days back

                                                  what's strange about this channel is that a few years ago this comment section was full of women now as I'm reading I mostly find mgtow lmao. y'all hurting my man's pockets stop it lol

                                                  • Bubba O
                                                    Bubba O  7 days back

                                                    Most women WILL NOT DATE DOWN to men perceived to have lower status or even the same status as them. It's not men being intimidated by successful women. Plus on the dating game, men are more at a disadvantage than women (if you compare average men vs average women.) The game for most men, just isn't worth playing especially when a number of women I've seen require dates to be 6'3" or taller haha.

                                                    • Shaun Hensley
                                                      Shaun Hensley  7 days back

                                                      Women constantly try to emasculate men and wonder why no men are lining up

                                                      • Rudyspective 1
                                                        Rudyspective 1  7 days back

                                                        OMG THIS is so right on! I’m going through this situation right now, so hearing this is the eye opening advice I needed.
                                                        Thanks Matt!

                                                        • Experiance ForEver
                                                          Experiance ForEver  7 days back

                                                          What a STUPID EXCUSE! Nothing stops NO one!

                                                          • Mama Kin
                                                            Mama Kin  1 weeks back

                                                            I appreciate that he’s trying to sell the positive mindset; however, he seems to think that people won’t stop dating. They do and they will. There are plenty of people who associate dating with having a root canal. He is speaking from the rarified air of a successful, young-ish, attractive white male. Of course dating is fun...for those types. When you get old-ish, less attractive, and just plain tired, you’re better off pushing away from the table and cashing in your chips. Probably why MGTOW movement exists. Hussey would do a better service if he’d prepare women to become Spinster Sisters - no, not the sad versions, but embrace the fact a woman may never meet a quality guy, and perhaps that is how evolution is intended. Better not to mate at all than to pair with someone that you really don’t want.

                                                            • Eleven : Eleven
                                                              Eleven : Eleven  1 weeks back

                                                              Two mins in and we get a stereotype "smart black woman" who wonders why she can't get a relationship going.

                                                              Fact is......not attractive and not as clever as she thinks because she interprets her domineering, argumentative and entitled attitude as intelligence, it's not.

                                                              • Alistair Stewart
                                                                Alistair Stewart  1 weeks back

                                                                this makes 100% sense

                                                                • A3Landscape yep
                                                                  A3Landscape yep  1 weeks back

                                                                  The modern man is no great catch anyway. Smart women need to be sure they've vetted a man properly before he becomes a tumour on her life. Just hope that the inevitable porn, meth, gambling, alcohol, sex addiction comes to light before he starts parking his stinking boots under your bed, because Lord knows how many women have met a grisly violent end at the hands of the spurned, 'alpha', narcissist man-child.

                                                                  • Water Man
                                                                    Water Man  1 weeks back

                                                                    I gave up went MGTOW, these broads all my life been trash ego all ways. Fuck her

                                                                    • paul cooper
                                                                      paul cooper  1 weeks back

                                                                      First woman embrace strong women in other words shes bossy.

                                                                      • skulay
                                                                        skulay  1 weeks back

                                                                        LOL. Go MGTOW. Problem solved!

                                                                        • DonJuanplagueis Zero
                                                                          DonJuanplagueis Zero  1 weeks back

                                                                          Lol, have you told women to lose weight and stop being hypergamous? Just saying...and honestly, just teach them to be more feminine...

                                                                          • CaptainPwnet
                                                                            CaptainPwnet  1 weeks back

                                                                            Men don't find smart women intimidating, stop this ridiculous line of bullshit. Men find "smart" women annoying, especially if they believe they are smart when any logical person can plainly see they are just misguided, delusional or entitled. To clarify, having a degree or any kind of academic education does not automatically make a person intelligent. Self awareness > intelligence in a relationship any day of the week. If a women is truly smart and is also self aware and humble you better believe men will be lining up for her assuming she's also at least somewhat attractive. Its not intelligence that turns off men, it's entitlement and delusion.

                                                                            • yeaxjustsmile20
                                                                              yeaxjustsmile20  1 weeks back

                                                                              The arguing in the comments 😂

                                                                              • Methoxypropan
                                                                                Methoxypropan  1 weeks back

                                                                                Do you hear that? The sweet sound of dieing eggs.

                                                                                • James Louis
                                                                                  James Louis  1 weeks back

                                                                                  It is biologically all the same ! Two people of the opposite sex take a chance of combining their energy they use sex to bond physically .After the golden period,Love bombing, Honeymoon period is over(the love chemicals and hormones stop flowing) the lusting stops like at first and it is over and it does not matter who's infatuation wears off first because it take two to tango. It's that simple and we all know this. Matt is just taking y'alls money with is impartial placating games. LMAO

                                                                                  • James Louis
                                                                                    James Louis  1 weeks back

                                                                                    A great education or great job does not make a good woman.The superficial egotistical attitude and diva feminist bullshit means nothing to the average guy because all he wants is his dick sucked and some pussy the rest of that shit you can save. Really it's that simple. Matt is just playing both sides to get that money from y'all !LMAO

                                                                                    • fliptoynk
                                                                                      fliptoynk  1 weeks back

                                                                                      D'oh just tell that "intimidating" woman that men usually don't want a combative, and likely, a remote control. Even a simp would rather refer one of his soyfriends instead.

                                                                                      • NihilisticEntropy
                                                                                        NihilisticEntropy  1 weeks back

                                                                                        This guy is blowing smoke up your asses.

                                                                                        • AtoZ0to9123456
                                                                                          AtoZ0to9123456  1 weeks back

                                                                                          Funny how you look into the audience and it is filled with late 20s mid 30s women who are rapidly approaching the wall if not hitting the wall already. You know those who are at the "I've had my fun but now I'm looking to settle down" phase.

                                                                                          There is no help for these people, the time where they could've built a lasting relationship with meaning (Late teens and early twenties) they were riding as much dick as they could fit into themselves.

                                                                                          Then they get so entitled that the attention they received suddenly goes away and they are looking for advice.

                                                                                          If you have realised this, and are taking advantage, which I'm guessing you most likely have, props to you for a very smart move.

                                                                                          • K. Ad
                                                                                            K. Ad  1 weeks back

                                                                                            Statistics don't matter to the individual.
                                                                                            this is a thought I always had but I forgot . Thank you for reminding me of it.
                                                                                            It's a phrase I used to talk to my patients when breaking bad news to them about their cancers.

                                                                                            • Mark Jacob
                                                                                              Mark Jacob  1 weeks back

                                                                                              I gave up on on-line dating..I'm going back to old fashion face to face getting to know girls