How Modern Dating Culture Stops Him from Taking You Seriously (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)


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  • Ruby Dust
    Ruby Dust  12 hours back

    What is this guys story? Does he have any credentials? His advice is so basic and mostly ridiculous. He totally minimizes her concerns and questions. It is hard to keep doing the same bullshit over and over and it takes a lot to be resilient in the face of all the stupid bullshit , and I do get more from staying home and focusing on myself and being a hermit.

    • Cher Xu
      Cher Xu  17 hours back

      Thank you

      • April Herrera
        April Herrera  1 days back

        B all the way.

        • Candice Iannaco
          Candice Iannaco  1 days back

          Definitely guilty of allowing myself to be walked on.

          • Sherri LYN Schwebel Compton

            I can't even find anyone im interested in dating. All I really want is someone too give me a foot and back massage haha

            • Flann sixtyseven
              Flann sixtyseven  3 days back

              funny that this seems to have more men commenting that they give up
              btw. what he explains from 14 min just happened to me (as a man), i took the bullshit because she was the woman i wanted to meet all my life. Still think she is.

              • Flann sixtyseven
                Flann sixtyseven  3 days back

                9:20 thats easy to answer. I would stop socializing and stay at home reading, listening to music, playing guitar, walking or mountainbiking in nature. alone. As a very introverted guy i hate to socialize without a reason. So yes, if i give up finding a woman, i would definitely give up socializing. In fact i have forced myself to learn to communicate and socialize with all kind of coaching during these last single years, just with the reason i want to find a girlfriend, got somewhat better than in my younger years when i was so shy i never talked do anybody through my wohle teenage years, yea, getting better but i have to force myself to do it, doesnt come naturally and i dont like it and the only purpose is to keep up my mood to find a female companian.

                • Flann sixtyseven
                  Flann sixtyseven  3 days back

                  i did not get that age thing, really, as a guy at early 50s i just feel like at 20, want to meet somebody to love, have a good time, would love to get old together, but i dont have any of this projects, requirements, its just like "i like you" we have chemistry in talking, love to touch you (so rare that somebody feels "right" in my embrace) - so lets go together. Worked when i was 20, then when a girl didnt have a boyfriend she seemed to want one. Not so today.

                  • Chicken Speed
                    Chicken Speed  3 days back

                    you dont deserve love, you earn it

                    • leticia vallejo
                      leticia vallejo  3 days back

                      Respect a man as much as you want to be respected. There are a lot of good men out there. Whatever happened to eye contact and a smile. Just strike up a conversation with people. I'm so happy most of my dating was in the good old days! Leave it to the Lord and do not resort to desperation!

                      • Catherine
                        Catherine  3 days back

                        MIXED, CONFUSING-ASS SIGNALS.

                        Dude, this guy is good. 😂

                        • Adrian Wright
                          Adrian Wright  4 days back

                          I found this gem. Such a good comment on how it all works! XD


                          • Elias
                            Elias  4 days back

                            lol all dudes in the comments wtf. Women dont have a problem finding a guy today...problem is they all want a 10, while a guy is willing to settle for someone on their level. Thats why they'll never be happy.

                            • W0lfbane Shika
                              W0lfbane Shika  5 days back

                              The problem here isn't she has really high standards: the problem is, she's not challenging that boundary, she needs to go out there and take risks - find that man that makes her feel different, speed date, go to places that she wouldn't normally go, be different. Because as soon as she says, oh I don't think these guys are for me only then does she become her worst enemy: because the guy isn't setting her standard, she is and it's only when she can compromise on the small stuff that she'll be able to go after men she wants to date.

                              • Zach Schoenberger
                                Zach Schoenberger  6 days back

                                Matt’s the best man.... helping girls understand what good dudes are thinking 💭 keep it up man and thanks again

                                • Nastya Garochina
                                  Nastya Garochina  1 weeks back

                                  Register ❤️

                                  • Wendy Drummond
                                    Wendy Drummond  1 weeks back

                                    Yes I have and yes I am definitely done with that

                                    • Nathalie dp
                                      Nathalie dp  1 weeks back

                                      This is the paradox of choice!!! There is so much access to options through dating apps, everybody (or almost) is wondering if there is still a better option out there!! One click and you have access to 1000’s people. So 1 little thing feels off, and hop here we go swiping 🙄

                                      • Bow Hunter
                                        Bow Hunter  1 weeks back

                                        Guys aren't intimidated by your 'strength'. Chances are you are an egotistical bitch.....I know that sounds harsh but I am also guessing its true.

                                        • Bam
                                          Bam  2 weeks back

                                          Yes. Exactly my scenario. Someone stringing me along with no serious intentions and me having the scarcity mentality allowing bad behavior. The situation got worse for me, still trying to leave this situation at the moment. Pray for me.

                                          • Claudia Elena Sanchez Quintero

                                            Great video 😀👍🏼

                                            • Jennifer Arbuckle
                                              Jennifer Arbuckle  2 weeks back

                                              yes! I'm in that right now - i want to change the dynamic.

                                              • Greenjewelrysparkle
                                                Greenjewelrysparkle  2 weeks back

                                                You should not say murder!!!!

                                                • Juliana Ventura
                                                  Juliana Ventura  2 weeks back

                                                  In the audience there is just women. Men are not interested to know how to get commitment. If you are heterosexual, like me, just accept that men doesn't want to take anything serious and life goes on. If you are bi or homossexual, I think the scenario is better, but I don't know...

                                                  • Amy Beard
                                                    Amy Beard  2 weeks back

                                                    It is as you described very frustrating. After a long distance relationship of just over a year ended last March, I have tried online dating. Never make it more than a week before I throw in the towel. No one seems genuine and if they do they vanish which reinforces the notion that they were never genuine to begin with. I’m not giving up. I know the person I’m meant to be with is out there. I will just go on about my life until the time is right and we meet.

                                                    • Erika Bronwell
                                                      Erika Bronwell  2 weeks back

                                                      Sorry, since when is having a positive mindset selling to egos? Gosh some of these comment on this youtube video are so cruel. Settling is never worth it, whether you are male or female. “Sexual market value” or “red pill” is typical scarcity bs intended to fear monger and make people lower their standards. Being realistic is choosing romantic partners we are attracted to and are connected to on a deeper level and it feels right. Anything less is settling. Lets trust the process and leave our house and enjoy our lives. Be warm and open and receptive. Lets take care of ourselves inside and out. Lets be the kind of person we want to attract.

                                                      • Timothy N
                                                        Timothy N  2 weeks back

                                                        In my experience most women don't give men the time of day. Nowadays women wait and focus on their career, but by the time they're ready it's a bit too late. They're either approaching 'the wall' or their competition is just harder because they have to now compete with younger women since they waited so long. I try communicating and texting and inviting girls to hangout, I create social events, but it seems most women put little to zero effort into it. Can't build a lasting relationship if the girl can't even communicate or won't show up, so I can't take her seriously or begin to consider her to be a potential life mate because I haven't been able to determine compatibility, because she didn't give me a fair shot or chance to do so. It's not really rocket science, women are either too picky and/or don't invest any in social/relationships or in meeting new people. At least that's like the bare minimum starting point. From there, once you actually start to get to know someone, you can start making a somewhat accurate determination whether or not you'd be good for each other in the long term.

                                                        • Bart Brannigan
                                                          Bart Brannigan  2 weeks back

                                                          He's so good at subtley.

                                                          • jane koulianos
                                                            jane koulianos  2 weeks back

                                                            I heard he just went through a big break up, Camilla. She's a super star and is going on tours. That might have been the contributing factor. Anybody notice his bracelet? Is that a momento of hers, that's sweet to put that on his video... if... that's what it is. I've first watched his videos about 7 years ago. I continue to keep myself as a high value woman and stay my true authentic self. Best of luck to him on his journey.

                                                            • Heather Grahame
                                                              Heather Grahame  3 weeks back

                                                              Dating and relationships are crap because people have no idea what they really value. Their values are largely based on what they've been told to value by media, advertising and the habits of their family or culture. Ask yourself what you really value in life and suddenly it becomes very clear who are the people you want to spend time around. It clears all the confusion and bullshit very quickly. Good luck

                                                              • Kaleb Dc
                                                                Kaleb Dc  3 weeks back

                                                                It's crazy, but basically within a week of me deciding I was going to live for myself and not base my life around trying to attract women, I hooked up with a woman at a social gathering and she's now my longterm girlfriend. I'm also 6"2, reasonably muscular, have a decent face and tend towards a the more extroverted side of the personality spectrum, can't discount those factors LOL

                                                                • CHRISSY'S NAKED WISDOM
                                                                  CHRISSY'S NAKED WISDOM  3 weeks back

                                                                  I am four and a half years out of a very long marriage. My husband was narcissistic, and just never loved me for the person I was, but only for what I could provide usefully in his life, which was mainly sex. After the marriage ended, I had an 18 month nightmare relationship with an out and out sociopath. I came out of that pretty emotionally broken. I have done masses of work, understanding firstly what happened to me and why, and rediscovering and learning to love myself. I have trust issues due to constantly being made to feel other women were always going to be a better choice (my husband made sure of this) and also from the cheating by the second man (the sociopath). I've gradually, slowly but steadily been regaining my self worth and understanding my over-giving etc. I recently had a two month relationship with a man who was a decent guy, but some of my insecurities came up and scared him. I allowed him to push me along too fast then I trusted him too much. I still felt insecure around all the women he had as friends, but I was AWARE of this as an issue. I worked hard not to have emotional over-reactions, and to try and stay calm. The post traumatic emotional stress shocked him, and he got scared and dumped me. He didn't communicate well. I'm turning 59 this year. I'm quite scared of mucking up future relationships, I need a person who sees the deeper me, the one who is working actively on her healing, and is coming into the relationship to give as well as get. My love life seems like groundhog day. It's hard work.

                                                                  • Stephanie Vulcheva
                                                                    Stephanie Vulcheva  3 weeks back

                                                                    Maat I LOVE you 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

                                                                    • Elyce Hues
                                                                      Elyce Hues  3 weeks back

                                                                      To answer the question he poses of viewers, yes, I have and I’m just now putting an end to giving (so much) more than I was getting. I fell into the exact trap he describes; not planning on doing that again!

                                                                      • Oanh Nguyen
                                                                        Oanh Nguyen  3 weeks back

                                                                        Yup!! I have fallen into the scarcity mindset.

                                                                        • Adrianna G
                                                                          Adrianna G  3 weeks back

                                                                          If women are getting this message and men have no desire to learn relationship tools then how does this help? Women are left trying to fix this alone. It’s one sided.

                                                                          • Terra_ Keturah_
                                                                            Terra_ Keturah_  3 weeks back

                                                                            When I began studying full time and working full time 6 years ago. That made me give up dating. ... But I also gave up many hours of sleep. 😂

                                                                            • citogal
                                                                              citogal  3 weeks back

                                                                              That guy who told her she was too smart, he was gaslighting her. Trying to change reality to control her.

                                                                              • Chris Kirkpatrick
                                                                                Chris Kirkpatrick  3 weeks back

                                                                                Mostly women there. Men are going MGTOW because women chose to reward bad behaviored men and then want nice guys to pick up what's left. Men are waking up to the bar deal that is marriage....

                                                                                • Lightbringer
                                                                                  Lightbringer  3 weeks back

                                                                                  What this con man isnt telling those women is that feminism has ruined their lives, they have taken the male role and go riding cocks in their 20s and think they can settle down in their 30s, it doesnt work that way.

                                                                                  • Lightbringer
                                                                                    Lightbringer  3 weeks back

                                                                                    This guy is full of shit and a blue pill con man

                                                                                    • Lightbringer
                                                                                      Lightbringer  3 weeks back

                                                                                      That black women is delusional, they arent intimidated by your "intelligence" lol, you are old and worn out and hit the wall, your SMV is very low, thats why you cant find someone duh.

                                                                                      • Sophie
                                                                                        Sophie  3 weeks back

                                                                                        Well... I was one of them for 3 and a half years... but now I am trying but I get frustrated in men on dating Apps. They have a low attantion span lol not really into having great conversations to then get to the next level of making a date.. or getting me interested to get any further because I can only imagine then how the real conversation can go (boring). But also there are those who text forever and then I stop....or those who ghost me lol. I don't know but I will keep on trying 😅

                                                                                        • Lightbringer
                                                                                          Lightbringer  3 weeks back

                                                                                          face it, they just want your pussy cause they know women cant be taken seriously.

                                                                                      • Steve Zali
                                                                                        Steve Zali  3 weeks back

                                                                                        I've been helped with great dating advice through this website: Super helpful

                                                                                        • brian mclaughlin
                                                                                          brian mclaughlin  4 weeks back

                                                                                          Is that really an audience full of available women? Who really want a sincere relationship? With a MAN? Are you sure? How is this possible? After, what?, some 50 YEARS of FemNazi teenybopper nagging backstabbing lies and games? And now, a whole roomful of "real classy ladies" appears out of NOWHERE all ready to eat from the hand? you'll EXCUSE me if I don' buy it.

                                                                                          • Norah Davex
                                                                                            Norah Davex  4 weeks back

                                                                                            Yes, I recently did that with a guy I was dating and he disappeared after telling me he would take me out because I asked him out on a third date and then slept with him.

                                                                                            • Lightbringer
                                                                                              Lightbringer  3 weeks back

                                                                                              he just wanted your pussy as most guys do these days since women are so trashy and repulsive due to feminism.

                                                                                          • Free Flow
                                                                                            Free Flow  4 weeks back

                                                                                            Thank you Matthwew. We Long for true intimacy yet the dating scence tells us to start looking at Woman as sexual objects. Like Barry Long said, "to know what the truth is, you have to know the false. because love is true and sex is false."

                                                                                            • Dating & Relationship Advice

                                                                                              I really enjoyed this video. This is an essential program. Very interesting and informative video. Thank you.