Everything Wrong with Dating Today (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

  • Published: 09 December 2018
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    Many times I have heard the phrases:

    “Men are just the worst today. They only value sex and nothing else.”

    “Dating is a toxic minefield where everyone is entitled and out for themselves.”

    “I give up. No one wants to invest in a serious relationship anymore.”

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  • Top Gadget Lover
    Top Gadget Lover  6 days back

    Anyone who thinks swiping left and right is an ok idea it is dangerous! And a bad idea you can’t pick a life girlfriend/wife from an image online! You need to get to know the person beforehand as friends first get to know them that way! You can’t get to know someone in 3-5dates either! Way too quick as I said friends first!

    I have morals and need to get to know someone properly first before Even considering dating them! You also need the same values and be compatible and Common ground! Any relationship and most purely go on this looks it won’t last also most relationships that go on dating apps don’t last and tend to fizzle out! As does going on looks!

    I am not looking for 10/10 women or a supermodel or a barbie doll I would date women way less than 10/10 i like women that are natural looking feminine lady like don’t wear too much makeup that are shy and not trashy.

    I also don’t sleep around and don’t do meaningless stuff whatsoever! I am looking for a woman that also takes care of herself and one that is devoted to the house and children and husband that desires to stay home!

    I am 36 I know exactly what I want and I like women that have a good personality inside don’t care how pretty they are not nice inside not interested!

    I do not care about bust size hair colour or eye colour with women I am much more realistic about women but still can’t find nobody i have always wanted something serious and yet I can’t find that I do not use online guys like me aren’t online!

    • Rush Hinton
      Rush Hinton  1 weeks back

      Online dating for men is a joke.

      • Isaiah Adams
        Isaiah Adams  3 weeks back

        Another problem with dating these days is no one wants to tell the other the other person how they feel, particularly females. Not trying to diss anyone. Just telling the truth

        • G Grind
          G Grind  3 weeks back

          What is a women's role in the relationship because reading some other platforms and forum's i see that a women's role in a relationship is too simply breathe and be present.. I see so many demands put on Men and women just sit back a reap the benefits. What is a women's role in a relationships and are they implemented goals efficiently in today'ssociety?

          • aohwife
            aohwife  3 weeks back

            Why doesn’t he just allow men to participate in one call-in session per month? Us ladies would like to hear from them!!

            • alex vasquez
              alex vasquez  3 weeks back

              Men are going MGTOW and they're not chasing women they're chasing their own Goals and Hobbies and Purposes in life they're not chasing women.Guys just Pump and Dump =)

              • Owen Luna
                Owen Luna  3 weeks back

                Thanks this video means a lot

                • GRINGAO
                  GRINGAO  3 weeks back

                  Men. So true. This is why women are the real losers in the game. Men are brought up.to acknowledge the chance to die without siblings.. women are biological wired to get a.child.. they feel miserable not having them..

                  • P G
                    P G  4 weeks back

                    I'm a guy and ive been in tons of relationships and to be honest, now I just stay single its such a simple life.

                    • nppyman76
                      nppyman76  4 weeks back

                      Are you fucking kidding me. Do you actually see a great deal of these fucking women, how they act and carry themselves?

                      • Robert Maxa
                        Robert Maxa  1 months back

                        I'm an older guy, and I would like to mention that I'm a guy that thinks less is more. There is a girl I know that normally doesn't wear makeup. She's gorgeous, and I've told her so, unfortunately I'm not her type so... Not all of us guys are that shallow.

                        • Mike Tran
                          Mike Tran  1 months back

                          I think the focus here is all wrong. Men make all the sacrifices, men take all the risk, men suffer from all of the consequences from making mistakes. Don’t try to make men perfect and the dating scene may get better again.

                          • Naes Grebner
                            Naes Grebner  1 months back

                            Yeah don't point the finger at us guys when you don't address the ladies and their issues of novelty too dude...just saying. I'm no cowboy but I guess a lot of women want that kind of guy and that's like us dudes wanting a Instagram model when in reality that isn't happening. So it goes both ways...

                            • Bradley Olmos
                              Bradley Olmos  1 months back

                              women just need to get their heads out of their ass and date equal...they are completely ruining everyone's happiness because they try to date up. then they cry the blues when they get older and cant even date equal...you really shouldn't feel sorry for an older woman...they had a precious gift and wasted it being greedy.

                              • emanuelgoldstein1984
                                emanuelgoldstein1984  2 months back

                                With an attitude like that how can she ask why she's single?

                                Even at 42 and burned from an emotionally abusive/manipulative ex I know that if I want to start meeting new women my attitude will have to change

                                • Jessica Postopoly
                                  Jessica Postopoly  2 months back

                                  What about the people who lie and say they want something real and serious but they are still logging onto dating sites after you've both agreed to be exclusive and stop doing that? Some people are good liars and it can be hard to weed them out.

                                  • Paprika Namjin
                                    Paprika Namjin  2 months back

                                    Men dont care to become "better" in relationships, they think they're fine how they since they're so unwilling to change so no point of making content for an audience who wouldnt watch.

                                    • Kasthuri Pethaperumal
                                      Kasthuri Pethaperumal  2 months back

                                      In India it is usually the parents who arrange the wedding including the choice of Partner with the consent of their child..you want a happy married life one visits a temple where a Siddhar or Saint is buried ..and the prayer is fulfilled..it is sad that the youth of today wish to select their Mate on their own limited experience which may not be successful

                                      • New Order of Alexandria
                                        New Order of Alexandria  2 months back

                                        I'm only 23 but in my early teens I felt like social media hadn't become so mainstream yet and was simply used to meet friends, etc. I remember just thinking about that one girl I always had my eyes on and no other. Now I message near enough every girl I can find trying to get to know them, only to find out there are a hundred thirsty men chasing them at the same time. It's a cold world, where if you slip up just once it's game over. Like playing a difficult game with only one life.

                                        I haven't felt love in almost decades, now it's just lust and a desperate desire to feel validation off women.

                                        I go back and forth from dating, quitting only to see friends settle down with partners male and female only for me to go back to that narcissistic world of modern day dating.

                                        I'm getting sick of texting girls all day instead of spending all day with them.

                                        • zein albasam
                                          zein albasam  3 months back

                                          Lol I give up on women and dating.theres no point of building something that will come down and crumble.

                                          • Mala Murthy
                                            Mala Murthy  3 months back

                                            I don't think this a situation that ' we are up against...' as he said.....we women are a part of this system....it only works if we choose to keep with it....IMO :)

                                            • Emerald Eyes
                                              Emerald Eyes  3 months back

                                              This is the sad and hard truth: A good 75% or more of the single people you could meet out in the “real” world all have online dating profiles. So it doesn’t matter how you meet them. The douchey person they are online is the douchey person who you will get in the flesh - sometimes not right away, but eventually yes. Most are hooked on the apps, even when exclusive with someone. It’s not the online dating apps that are the problem, it’s the quality of humans today, in general. People are brainwashed into thinking that they are more worthy and more important when getting “hit up” online. The grass isn’t always greener, though. That is the reality. Unfortunately, these players won’t find this out until they’ve messed up a good thing, by playing around on the side, on the apps. It’s almost hopeless, really. Until people wake up and stop expecting instant gratification for almost little to no effort put in, then nothing is going to change. No one is going to have anything meaningful by acting this way. I pray that I meet someone who never uses the internet and was raised to treat people with respect. I might be 90 by then and using a walker, but...lol. *sigh*

                                              • Wanda Sexton
                                                Wanda Sexton  3 months back

                                                Matthew I absolutely love your videos and I put your advice in the practice but there is something about people coming out of 20 and 30 your marriages men and women are so conditioned to behave a certain way. Everybody should go to therapy before they're released into the dating world because you have to have the clarity to see what your part was in the demise of your marriage because if you can't communicate the right way you're just going to waste time and let me tell you men in their 50s do not have it together at all. They want a Barbie. They want a woman in her 50s who has 30 year old skin and who has no brain cells between her ears they're so narcissistic and it's so frustrating for me that I just gave up...they can't hear anything.

                                                • Jace Lansing
                                                  Jace Lansing  3 months back

                                                  I love this channel. I watch almost every video he makes. Because I want to understand what's going on.

                                                  • B Real
                                                    B Real  3 months back

                                                    It may not exclusively be men, but it is predominantly them who are looking for "next."

                                                    • Christopher Matthew
                                                      Christopher Matthew  3 months back

                                                      This is really true. In BOTH genders.

                                                      • Mi Hi
                                                        Mi Hi  3 months back

                                                        I think we women also in mistake. we make them view us sexually and expect them to love and respect us innocently.
                                                        also i do believe there are good guys out there who wants love and are brave enough to be loyal and take responsibility.

                                                        • Jay Martinez
                                                          Jay Martinez  4 months back

                                                          I'm a gay male and for a long time I thought that an excessive obsession with beauty and sex was exclusive to the gay community . But nowadays I think this is applicable for all groups out there like straight men and women. Matthew's videos are definitely helping me to be more successful on dating .

                                                          • Loony Lauren
                                                            Loony Lauren  4 months back

                                                            I talk a little toooo much if my crush is in the room and I have no idea why ...

                                                            • Benjamin Gadberry
                                                              Benjamin Gadberry  4 months back

                                                              I strongly advise single ladies to NOT online date. It encourages the worst, most lazy behaviors in men.

                                                              While I know of a few success stories from it, I know many, many more failure stories. I think online dating dehumanizes us. Instead, be as social as you can in the places that make sense for you to meet the person you want to be with. If you like skiing, go skiing with groups. If you like coffee/beer/wine join a club. If you like fitness, don't just go to the gym hoping for a guy to ask you out on the gym floor, go to a gym class where you can have interactions with people. Etc, etc, etc.

                                                              As a guy, I refuse to online date because I believe in asking a woman out in person, and making those connections in person. I'm not thinking about swiping left and seeing some other chick. All I'm thinking about is YOU.

                                                              • Shruti Kashyap
                                                                Shruti Kashyap  4 months back

                                                                You're a great human matt. You understand exactly what we struggle with. Unnatural beauty to be certain. Thanks for uploading these videos. Its 3:21am here and I'm grateful to you. Much love ♥️

                                                                • hardcorn softprawn
                                                                  hardcorn softprawn  4 months back

                                                                  a person who’s been involuntarily single for years and can’t find a single fault of their own? sounds a bit delusional

                                                                  • da ne
                                                                    da ne  4 months back

                                                                    I FOUND OUT THE GIRL  I LIKE HASNT BROKEN UP WITH HER BF. I DONT WANTTO BREAK THEM UP  and I don't wanna be the guy sneaking around with her. Should I tell her if things change in the future I would like to date her? She might be getting married to him. We were talking about business together I hope she doesn't give up on that i'd still like to have her as friend and be business associate.

                                                                    • Victoria Caputo Torheim
                                                                      Victoria Caputo Torheim  4 months back

                                                                      Loved this video. It's great how you can take a seemigly negative comment and turn it around like this, so well and with so much respect. Thanks so much as always.

                                                                      • welshhibby
                                                                        welshhibby  5 months back

                                                                        Ladies...TINDER is for hooking up..... you won't find boyfriends on there for fucks sake.

                                                                        • Tommy Been
                                                                          Tommy Been  5 months back

                                                                          Falling in love takes time and patience. But it’s so worth it.

                                                                        • Karen Vlqz
                                                                          Karen Vlqz  5 months back

                                                                          Thank you. Let's get stronger Matt! 💪

                                                                          • Free Spirit
                                                                            Free Spirit  5 months back

                                                                            God bless you man

                                                                            • serena xu
                                                                              serena xu  5 months back

                                                                              @matt How about doing a co-ed retreat?

                                                                              • serena xu
                                                                                serena xu  5 months back

                                                                                My god. Matt is so wise

                                                                                • Raúl Domínguez Galbraith

                                                                                  Newsflash, we men don't have to do anything, we are not the one with the problem, it is you women. And it is you and your support of feminism to blame. Long term relationships with women in the western world have a very harsh legal and toxic consequences. Which are bigger than the supposed value of them, specially with entitle women. So we are fine with hook ups and Netflix and chill. See you on Tinder, jajajajajajajaja.

                                                                                  • MBaiton
                                                                                    MBaiton  5 months back

                                                                                    Dating nowadays is not the problem.... online dating is the problem. I tried online for 6 months then finally realized it was highly dysfunctional haha... slow learner or very naive maybe a bit of both. I agree with Matt, woman online are no different than men. I had too many options talking to 10 men at once while still looking, now that's messed up! Online is not organic nor is texting conversations, real world dating is organic but takes longer... patience grasshopper ;) Come back to reality, ditch online!

                                                                                    • Natalie Sing
                                                                                      Natalie Sing  4 months back

                                                                                      It's so true I've online dated for years and it sucks

                                                                                  • Peaceful view Background
                                                                                    Peaceful view Background  5 months back

                                                                                    Hi I am a male I subscribed my mom recommended your channel have a good day :)

                                                                                    • Milk And Honey
                                                                                      Milk And Honey  5 months back

                                                                                      So many people ruin the joys of a relationship because they live together prior to marriage. Women a man who isn’t your husband shouldn’t touch you before you’re married to him. That’s not old fashioned it wise and protects you from pain you don’t need.

                                                                                      You’re supposed to discover and enjoy each other when you get married. Women do y’all know that a man will take advantage of you for years? He’ll get you to move into his dreams even if it’s to another country and still not marry you. Then when he meets a woman whose different he’ll marry her?!

                                                                                      If a man isn’t ready with anything to offer you such as stability, House, car and job why are you adjusting your life?! If he loves you only then wait.

                                                                                      If you don’t you’ll wind up losing. It never ceases to happen. For the few that made it after dating for years... still find out what lost when he just decided to settle for you out of guilt.

                                                                                      • Asha
                                                                                        Asha  4 months back

                                                                                        Milk And Honey Some of that is true but coming from a town with a Christian college smack in the middle of it where the kids are encouraged to wait until marriage to have sex and are encouraged to find their mate at the college and marry young I have seen disaster after disaster. I've seen gay students who haven't admitted it to themselves marry a cover wife. I've seen people in general who just dont mesh sexually. I've seen people regretful that they didnt experience more and end up straying from the marriage. A woman can even be basically allergic to a certain mans semen and it causes her major problems. She or he can have sexual hangups that make the other person miserable. Pain during sex. One could have a fetish the other cant deal with. Sex can be so complicated. Things can go wrong that people couldn't have imagined before.

                                                                                        Yes you should make sure that you know the person better before you sleep with them. Yes make sure they value you and have something they are willing to offer other than just sex but it's very debatable if trying the knot before sex actually helps things last. Half of these Christian college kids end up divorced or married and miserable by the time they are 25.

                                                                                    • Sir Mizer
                                                                                      Sir Mizer  6 months back

                                                                                      Male viewer here, loving it.

                                                                                      • Zoo topie
                                                                                        Zoo topie  6 months back

                                                                                        There is a guy in my college that I like so much. We did never talk ,we don't have any common friends. What can I do to start talking to him ?

                                                                                        • Mac Hilburn
                                                                                          Mac Hilburn  6 months back

                                                                                          I’m a 25 year old male and see a lot of issues with modern dating. Online dating should solve a lot of problems, but unfortunately creates more of them. From what I see, most of the problem is with the women. They are afraid to go out and meet in person. It’s like they get cold feet. Mr. right isn’t going to break into your house.

                                                                                          I work with all Men and never see any women. I’ve been going to different churches trying to meet a good woman with no luck. I have no problem approaching women it’s just I never see any. Ladies, get out there and make yourself available. There’s more good men out there than you think.

                                                                                          • Chidi
                                                                                            Chidi  6 months back

                                                                                            Women who complain about men being obsessed with getting laid should blame themselves for availing themselves to said men who want to get laid. I don't get it. You either be sexually liberated and have sex with whoever you want and shut the fuck up about the unintended consequences you create or you actually raised your standards and stop having sex with men who don't give a fuck about you.