5 Hidden Insecurities Men Have (But Never Talk About) | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs


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  • Gail Fisher
    Gail Fisher  1 weeks back

    🌸 Women don’t care if guy isn’t a great lover, we just want good love that’s true and genuine from the heart
    Their respect and not to have them place us on a pedestal. We want their attention and not adoration
    We want them, their true self and not their fantasies. To hold their trust as we in turn trust them and not have them be fickle and stray

    We want to be life partner and not dictator, a friend and companion and not a master

    We just want to be loved and have something real and non perfect, because life isn’t without it’s ups and downs
    But when it comes, to know he has your back and stand by your side, just means the whole world to a woman
    and not someone that runs the first sign of difficulties

    • Irene Kim Kim
      Irene Kim Kim  2 weeks back

      As a woman, my father told me to do shut down my emotions. It is not the right thing to do. Then again I grew up in the military background and even at home my father would treat me and my sister like we were little soldiers. It was tough to deal with. We had to toughen up or face the wrath of my father. It can not only numb you but you will have some sort of nervous breakdown later on in life. That isn't healthy.

      • dayum fool
        dayum fool  2 weeks back

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        • D. F.
          D. F.  4 weeks back

          My father sat me down and told me that I’m ugly and boring. That there is not one single thing about me that a man could possibly love and if a man did show me any attention, he was just trying to get money. He went on to disclose that he was telling me this for my own good, so I would stop hoping and focus on accumulating enough assets to support myself in my spinsterhood. The few times when men say something friendly to me I always feel like they’re being sarcastic or making fun of me for being ugly. So even when the cook at the takeout place calls me “Chiquita” when he takes my order, I want to crawl back into my car and pretend nobody can see me. I guess my point is that you shouldn’t say stupid mean shit to your kids.

          • Sharon Greenwood
            Sharon Greenwood  1 months back

            I get rejected all day long for having a large hernia my HMO keeps saying the can't repair yet. I've had it 9 years now. So I just do my own thing and tune out the remarks.

            • Lava Yuki
              Lava Yuki  1 months back

              Ive never ever seen my dad cry, not even when his parents (my grandparents died). It's like crying is forbidden for men. I find guys are equally into their bodies as women. Even though they don't talk about dieting and weight like women do, the gym is always full of guys in the weights room and almost all my male friends and brother train and drink protein powders. My insecurity has always been my breasts, Im very flat and always get embarrassed in sex, especially if its the first time with a new partner

              • Jihan masritaraboulsi
                Jihan masritaraboulsi  1 months back

                not having enough time, to do all the things i want to do

                • Dannyelle Finch
                  Dannyelle Finch  2 months back

                  I believe I might've met this particular man. This video has helped me be compassionate and nice to him. One of my insecurities...is my skin soft enough, especially my feet...lol

                  • Ms Nobody
                    Ms Nobody  2 months back

                    My Vulnerabilities:I don't have the right type of Body, don't have gorgeous face, my skin is not flawless in fact because of my childhood rough experiences I couldn't wear a bathing suit but then when I spoken to one of my co-worker who have a knockout body, great face and flawless skin she was in tears because her BF has been cheating on her for 2 years and she does not know how to leave she kept telling me that "I am not as strong as you"...  What she meant was when I caught my Fiancé of 2 years cheating on me I dropped him like a hot potato. Why am I sharing this? Our insecurities is due to other people's opinion and because those people are bullies. At the end of the day you have something that others can never have that you can offer on the table. Don't forget the most gorgeous woman in the world according to Peoples Magazine had been cheated on. And I am not talking about 1 person.. there are multiple of them. So moving forward whoever is reading this. You may think you don't have this and that. But also remember that the person next to you is also thinking the same thing. So be happy of who you are & the  blessings you have in life and improve on your weakness and polish your strength. You might be surprise of discovering great things about you.  Peace

                    • Baby Bunny
                      Baby Bunny  2 months back

                      I always encourage my man to show his emotions. I always tell him that it doesn't make him less of a man and I love him for who he is 😘

                      • Cori Baum
                        Cori Baum  2 months back

                        Not being intelligent enough. Even though I know I am smart

                        • Nicole Young
                          Nicole Young  2 months back

                          One of my biggest insecurities is that a guy is only with me to sleep with me, as that has happened in the past.
                          Also that the guy will leave me because he's bored or he thinks im too crazy.

                          But i worked alot on my confidence last year and i know I'm already enough. I try my best and if that's not enough, then hes not the right guy for me.

                          • Ananya Sarkar
                            Ananya Sarkar  2 months back

                            I'm insecure about losing people I love 😊

                            • Chris A
                              Chris A  3 months back

                              One of the insecurities that I have I am a full figured women attractive educated intelligent loving compassionate. I recently met the man who happens to be a doctor it kinda tender-hearted man he's a small frame to man and I know he's attracted to me. And that's my insecurities why would a small frame man be with a full figured women? I talk to myself why not you're just as beautiful as anyone else inside and out

                              • iwasacloud
                                iwasacloud  3 months back

                                The biggest insecurity is feeling that I am not attractive enough. I have heard terrible things about myself and I'm genuinely scared I will hear them again..

                                • Eva Packova
                                  Eva Packova  3 months back

                                  There have been always something wrong about me that my mum would always point out in the hope she is helping me (not slim enough, showing too much teeth while smiling, as a 6 year old child not able to pronounce well one alphabet letter etc). Every time I went over an obstacle it was taking as given, expected and a new one came out. The latest one is I am too financially independent and single. I am 36 this year and I know guys enjoys my company. Yet I wont allow myself to believe a guy would like me as a woman as deep inside I believe any other girl is better than me. Seeing this video, I am considering I shall be changing my mind set to move on in my life, expose myself to a risk of success or failure, too.

                                  • Bekah L.
                                    Bekah L.  3 months back

                                    Women have performance anxiety in bed too unfortunately :(

                                    • Kaitlyn Bourassa
                                      Kaitlyn Bourassa  4 months back

                                      I truly appreciate the honesty shown throughout this video. It’s all too easy to forget that men have in securities too. We’re really not all that different when you think about it.

                                      • maria hernandez
                                        maria hernandez  4 months back

                                        Your words empower me. Great dress style you have and pleasant , charming personality.

                                        • mmp702
                                          mmp702  4 months back

                                          I used to be made fun of for my personality and for how young I think. A couple of girls back in high school use to bully me for it so I was very insecure about myself. I was also called "stupid" by one of those girls in class in front of our teacher because I misheard what he said. Another insecurity I had was that any time I had a crush on a guy I would either get teased about it or rejected. I finally stopped telling people about my crushes and just suffered by being alone. I was only ever able to tell one of my crushes how I felt about him. He rejected me, but was nice about it. It still hurt. After that I figured I would never be able to find someone who would possibly like me, so I stopped trying. It wasn't until July 4, 2018 that I was able to reach out to another crush I had and just talk to him. We'd been commenting on each others posts on facebook before that. I felt a connection that way and decided to pm him. I'm really glad I did because I saw a post he shared shortly after that stated something along the lines of "if you have a crush on me tell me. Don't be cryptic about it". As soon as I saw that I knew what I had to do. I talked to him later that night and asked him if he meant what he shared in that post. As soon as he said yes I told him how I felt about him. I told him because I felt he wasn't going to judge me. He asked me how long I'd had a crush on him and I told him since high school, which surprised him. He couldn't believe I'd liked him that long and he never knew. I'd been judged/bullied on a lot of things in my past and told him so. I also told him I'd been rejected on more than one occasion and knew my heart couldn't take it anymore so I suffered in silence and never dated. He told me he knew that feeling too well. We started dating about a month later and are still going strong!

                                          • Adela Radichetti
                                            Adela Radichetti  4 months back


                                            • Adela Radichetti
                                              Adela Radichetti  4 months back

                                              Thank you

                                              • Connie Grant
                                                Connie Grant  4 months back

                                                As a 71 yrs. of age widowed young lady, in a committed relationship?, I thank you for this revelation that I can better understand and build a more secure relationship.

                                                • Walker Arkoh
                                                  Walker Arkoh  4 months back


                                                  • Jacquelyn Langhein
                                                    Jacquelyn Langhein  4 months back

                                                    Very informative and true.

                                                    • Shannon Mayer
                                                      Shannon Mayer  4 months back

                                                      I hate everything about the way I look, almost from my hair down to my toes. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror sometimes I covered the bathroom mirror in my house oh, so I don't have to see my reflection. I shouldn't have said that it sounds pathetic, and it is pathetic! So I'm sorry.

                                                      • Beanie Green
                                                        Beanie Green  5 months back

                                                        I'm afraid of feeling too much before the guy's ready for it, and he'll leave me because of it. I'm afraid of being left by a man I love. I'm afraid of not being pretty enough, and not a nice enough body or fashionable enough, or successful enough in my career. I'm afraid of being to ready to commit to get that it offends him and he leaves, like I should talk to other men, or that I'm not committed enough, like I talk to other men and it offends him and he leaves.
                                                        I fear I'm not the right age. Funny enough. Too funny. Nice enough. Too nice. I'm afraid because I'm getting conflicting advice, but none of it had worked so far, so I don't know what to do. I was myself and still am, but I'm afraid because it hasn't worked.

                                                        • goddest jada
                                                          goddest jada  5 months back

                                                          What does it mean when a guy says "I'm looking for a girl like you" or "where do I find a girl like you" or "I want a girl like you"..... What do they mean by a girl like you????

                                                          • Shell Bell
                                                            Shell Bell  5 months back

                                                            My biggest insecurity is feeling like I’m never enough, whether that is with academic grades, work efforts, or my devotion and persistence in relationships. It’s still an on-going battle that I have within myself, but with counseling, a good support group of friends, and the motivation of self-learning and research, I am slowly making progress to realize that I am enough. I am enough to be loved. I have done the best that I can today, and that’s all that I can do. It’s just moments of the inner self-doubt or self-conscious mind that sneaks up here and there when things feel right and I finally get treated wonderfully in a relationship. I am thankful for a very wonderful partner who supports me and journeys with me through my struggles. It’s a very nice feeling, but at the end of the day, I have to realize that it all begins within me to have the strength and courage to say and feel that “I am enough.”

                                                            • lorena mares
                                                              lorena mares  5 months back

                                                              Really good. Speaks to all of us.

                                                              • A Taylor
                                                                A Taylor  5 months back

                                                                failure in life and relationships.

                                                                • Siobhan C
                                                                  Siobhan C  5 months back

                                                                  Fear being judged for my past experiences or who I truly am.

                                                                  • Kar3n
                                                                    Kar3n  5 months back

                                                                    I was insecure when I was fat an I worked at a construction site an brick layers and Carpinters laughed at me even gathered for coffee brake as a group and pointed an laughed as I was going up the ladder. At the same time I was afraid, of hights. Sometimes I was so afraid I tremble and froze in fear and cried on my own. I did this every day. Until I became who I am today that's what made me.

                                                                    • Laura Kolding
                                                                      Laura Kolding  5 months back

                                                                      This is kind of sad. :(

                                                                      • Janelle Amanda
                                                                        Janelle Amanda  5 months back

                                                                        Hi Matt, I'm a 28 single lady who never had a boyfriend. I was born with Cerebral Palsy. I function well with it. I waddle in my walk. I've been afraid that someone could love me because of my disability.

                                                                        • שושי צוקי
                                                                          שושי צוקי  5 months back

                                                                          I really loved this video of all your video's..

                                                                          • Alyse Rothenberg
                                                                            Alyse Rothenberg  5 months back

                                                                            Being too sensitive;- showing my emotions and crying, being told I'm being defensive. These are current ones in current relationship. Still working on this with my man and him understanding. another one would be being more vulnerable and sharing more of my heart bc he doesn't due too much and I know the reasons why and I'm being patient. It's hard though being together for 1.5 years.

                                                                            • Ludmila Leder Apatini
                                                                              Ludmila Leder Apatini  5 months back

                                                                              Thank you Mathew! 🙏🏻

                                                                              • Zed
                                                                                Zed  5 months back

                                                                                I cracked up at “men are scared of not being good in bed” with sad music in the background 😂

                                                                              • Rose Rudo Mawada
                                                                                Rose Rudo Mawada  5 months back

                                                                                my body 🥺

                                                                                • ANGELICA PADILLA
                                                                                  ANGELICA PADILLA  5 months back

                                                                                  This is a great video, ty for sharing, I can now understand so many things a was confused about my friend:) and now I can actually know how to help him, ty so much

                                                                                  • Alisha L
                                                                                    Alisha L  6 months back

                                                                                    Use mindfulness in the moment when you feel insecure. Usually there’s no logic behind it and the other person isn’t even noticing.

                                                                                    • TheSnowFoxParty
                                                                                      TheSnowFoxParty  6 months back

                                                                                      Depression and baggage from previous relationships is number one

                                                                                      • Deborah C
                                                                                        Deborah C  6 months back

                                                                                        Insecure about being only a “bench warmer” to a guy. Being fooled by a guy to feel I’m the one and he cares for me....yet the truth was....I was only used to pass the time until his top choice of a women comes his way.

                                                                                        • arliciawalker
                                                                                          arliciawalker  6 months back

                                                                                          Wow,....this video has truly hit a home run! open nicras always! Love it 💖

                                                                                          • M
                                                                                            M  6 months back

                                                                                            I think I'm a lucky girl... I am happy my bf talks about these because it also encourages me to open about my insecurities too.

                                                                                            • susanna lung
                                                                                              susanna lung  6 months back

                                                                                              Being led on

                                                                                              • Aleksandra Nijemcevic
                                                                                                Aleksandra Nijemcevic  6 months back

                                                                                                Hi Matt. I've had this happen to me a few times and have been wondering how to deal with it. I am 46 and have never been married. Over the years I have had an experience that when a younger guy that I also like pursues me, I am afraid of rejection when he finds out my age (even though I look younger for the number of my years) I feel I sabotage the relationship to make the rejection happen sooner rather than later. The difference in age has been from 9-18 years younger guyes. I'd appreciate if you'd make a video about this, as I believe is an issue for more women. Thanks very much.