7 Red-Flags You Should NEVER Ignore | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs


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  • Ariusa
    Ariusa  1 days back

    These are great and clear. Thank you Mathew.

    • The Drunk Cupcake
      The Drunk Cupcake  3 days back

      If they can’t give even one reason to love you then he/she probably don’t.

      • J .S
        J .S  4 days back


        • Miss Tonya c007
          Miss Tonya c007  4 days back

          A red flag for me is fake laughter. Normally women do this mess but if a man does it it makes my skin crawl! Not just once, not just twice but if he's makes a habit a fake laughing then that makes me feel a psycho has entered the chat. 😯

          • victoria bartlett
            victoria bartlett  4 days back

            If he talks a lot about himself but interrupts when you try to talk.

            • Truth Seeker
              Truth Seeker  4 days back

              Liked.."Don't hang on waiting for some down the road promise because, that's the recipe for wasting, days, weeks, months, years in a relationship." Lots of phonys out there girls, weed them out.

              • Tania Richter
                Tania Richter  5 days back

                Its really nice to be told that hes 💝 u from his own words not just by material things. If u cross SUCH a MAN never him go💝💝💝

                • Emma Loura
                  Emma Loura  1 weeks back

                  What if the guy has no exes, just a series of girls who didn't want to date him?

                  • Adam D
                    Adam D  1 weeks back

                    I'm only here because I was told that in order to meet women you have to take part in female activities.

                    • Lissa Annan
                      Lissa Annan  1 weeks back

                      Reading some of the comments relating to Red flag #1 - A mans unresolved issues/resentment/hatred of his mother, I’ve noticed quite a few misunderstanding as to why it’s a red flag.
                      I believe all Matt is pointing out is, if a man speaks often of a deep resentment or hatred of his mother, the red flag is a warning that this man clearly has UNRESOLVED emotional issues. The link between men with a deep resentment or hatred toward their mothers and; misogyny, phsycopathy/sociopathy, serial murders of women, sex offences against women, serial rapists and/or domestic violence against women has been well documented ........and even without jumping to the assumption or possibility that a man who detests his mother could possibly be dangerous, Matt’s simply warning that without properly dealing with that resentment, pain and healing from whatever the trauma was between them, such a man is likely to carry emotional baggage/damage/instability, which can and often does spill out to other areas of his life.
                      Most of us have suffered childhood trauma in vastly varying degrees, however, when we are looking for a possible life partner, I think it’s safe to say the majority of us are looking for someone who possesses emotional stability, as opposed to someone with rage and impulse control issues etc. due to a deep hatred of their mother, possibly causing a distrust or hatred of all women.
                      Women are often drawn to wounded men, attracted to glimpses of their vulnerability thinking they can fix them, heal them with just the right amount of love and nurturing - this is a delusion! I’ve found that people, men in particular are more often in denial of their own emotional issues and are therefore highly unlikely to be committed to seeking or accepting help to resolve what they may not even acknowledge as their own core pain/damage/trauma. The point is Matt’s not just blatantly having a go at men who have unresolved issues with their mother, he’s simply warning that there could be serious consequences to becoming involved with a man who has not dealt with ongoing mother issues.
                      He also clearly states - a red flag is not necessarily a deal breaker but rather a warning to be “awake and aware” of a possible current or future issue and heeding the warning could save you years of emotional pain.

                      • Kirsten Bosch
                        Kirsten Bosch  1 weeks back

                        Red flag: he was too handsome for me lol

                        • Latesha Churney
                          Latesha Churney  2 weeks back

                          I have one to add. How about if they quit their job and lots of time goes by and they don’t look for another one.

                          • Danisha Ferreira
                            Danisha Ferreira  2 weeks back

                            When a 50 yr old man says he had a 5 yr relationship w a 19 yr old 5 yrs ago which means he was 45 at the time, meanwhile I have 3 daughters ages 21,16&14.👀

                            • Kat Parks
                              Kat Parks  2 weeks back

                              Another big red flag is he is a mommas boy. He always takes her side even if she is wrong and he doesn't care that it upsets you!

                              • Cathy Wilson
                                Cathy Wilson  2 weeks back

                                I don't trust the following statements from guys: I swear, I promise, I've never felt like this before, I love you with flowers & you've never met, can you puck up something for me, can you loan me money & I promise I'll pay you back, you are a God sent, I've loomed for you all my life. These are also red flags in my book & deal breakers.

                                • Derrick McAdoo
                                  Derrick McAdoo  2 weeks back

                                  Straight guy here. Sneaking in to see how many 'flags' I got, lol. Great video. Dude seems legit.

                                  • Ginger Tillson
                                    Ginger Tillson  3 weeks back

                                    No transportation, a criminal record

                                    • Art Craft
                                      Art Craft  3 weeks back

                                      Red flag that I've noticed is when they lie and name it a joke! Like they say something, if you liked it fine, but if you were offended that's when they say that was just a joke! It showes their low self-esteem and lack of self confidence!

                                      • Art Craft
                                        Art Craft  3 weeks back

                                        Thank you!💗

                                        • J B
                                          J B  3 weeks back

                                          When he insults your country that he has been living in for a long time.

                                          • mars hutch
                                            mars hutch  4 weeks back

                                            Dirty house

                                            • Hayjalene2011
                                              Hayjalene2011  4 weeks back

                                              when he ask if you interested in finding someone else to meet your needs

                                              • Lhyn Nasole
                                                Lhyn Nasole  1 months back

                                                what does it mean by the #1? can u explain it to me pls. tnx!

                                                • elizabeth servant
                                                  elizabeth servant  1 months back

                                                  Another red flag, you can never talk is only text, and weekends is ghost! He ppears back again on Monday or Tuesday always late night. Chances are for sure he is married or has another woman, for sure his girlfriend. Another red flag HUUGE! HE does not want you to call, the one time you call he makes you hang up and says ( I call you). You don't call, I call. 😥😡

                                                  • Heather Mooney
                                                    Heather Mooney  1 months back

                                                    #3 is BANG ON! *ALWAYS* trust your gut! He’s either hiding something, insincere, or a narcissist, etc...

                                                    • rainbowsOnmyeyeballs
                                                      rainbowsOnmyeyeballs  1 months back

                                                      So grateful that my ex and broke up. It was really for the best for both of us.

                                                      • Belinda Melvaine
                                                        Belinda Melvaine  1 months back

                                                        God, I wish you had done this video years ago! Would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain. My ex is all but one red flag!

                                                        • Jennifer Gerard JG
                                                          Jennifer Gerard JG  1 months back

                                                          The 2nd red flag made me LOL 🤣🤣🤣🤣

                                                          • Eryka P.
                                                            Eryka P.  1 months back

                                                            notes from the video:
                                                            1- he is resentful towards his mom
                                                            2- he speaks poorly about his ex’s
                                                            3- your intuition is telling you something is off
                                                            4- he is continuously canceling / rescheduling dates
                                                            5- treating people differently than you!!!!!!
                                                            6- mood swings
                                                            7- being obsessed about work

                                                            • laurajeancat
                                                              laurajeancat  1 months back

                                                              When he talks only about himself. You ask questions and he answers, but rarely asks questions back.
                                                              Seems to me he's not really interested in knowing me.

                                                              • Ji Li
                                                                Ji Li  1 months back

                                                                Should really see things from a man's point of view to understand better

                                                                • Will Perry
                                                                  Will Perry  2 months back

                                                                  Flag=American woman.

                                                                  • Tudocongbinh
                                                                    Tudocongbinh  2 months back

                                                                    On our 1st date, I am 10 minutes late. I told him ahead of time but when I am on my way, he said let's cancel and meet next week. What is that mean? Should I give him another chance?

                                                                    • SpaceMaze
                                                                      SpaceMaze  2 months back

                                                                      Being cruel to animals! Major red flag🚩

                                                                      • Linda Alexander
                                                                        Linda Alexander  2 months back

                                                                        talks about his kids too much and compares you to them

                                                                      • peacelife
                                                                        peacelife  2 months back

                                                                        Great advice

                                                                        • Dulce Vargas
                                                                          Dulce Vargas  2 months back

                                                                          A red flag is a Mama's boy

                                                                          • Learn It With Aya
                                                                            Learn It With Aya  2 months back

                                                                            Lies about stupid stuff
                                                                            Doesn’t support you instead tries to influence you to stop doing things that make you happy
                                                                            His family doesn’t like you or you them... you feel really uncomfortable around them
                                                                            He undermines your opinion but if a friend tells him the same thing you did he would respond positively towards his friend and pretend you never mentioned it first
                                                                            Doesn’t have your back when you really need him
                                                                            Ignores you or doesn’t soothe you when you are vulnerable and need him
                                                                            Doesn’t respect your boundaries and dislikes
                                                                            Doesn’t like the activities and things you like to do
                                                                            Tries to control you to benefit himself
                                                                            It’s all about him, if he wants to go out he’ll make the effort but if it’s you who wants to go out, order in, go on vacation etc then it’s always a problem unless it’s his idea
                                                                            Very negative attitude towards-life in general
                                                                            Lacks empathy towards those in need
                                                                            Has porn addiction....... all red flags 🚩 I ignored and lost 13 years in an unhappy marriage.... it’s all about the lessons, pay attention sisters and own you self worth, you are amazing 🥰🤗

                                                                            • Bonnie Parker
                                                                              Bonnie Parker  2 months back

                                                                              If he doesn't seem to have any friends, he's obviously not a well liked person no matter what front he is putting on for you.
                                                                              If he's always around you and doesn't seem to have his own life & interests.

                                                                              • Christina Moon
                                                                                Christina Moon  2 months back

                                                                                One red flag is a guy criticizing your body/looks like how you made as an example in another video that the message was women should just be super understanding to rude/mean boyfriends and find "what they really mean" instead of running as far as possible from emotional abusers...?

                                                                                • Lava Yuki
                                                                                  Lava Yuki  2 months back

                                                                                  I remember I was involved with someone where my intuition told me that it was bad, but looked great on paper in terms of jobs, gets along well with family/friends, interesting conversation and really nice etc. Of course it ended in disaster in the end. Speaking about mood swings, that seems to be an issue with women more than men i think

                                                                                  • Katrina Lee
                                                                                    Katrina Lee  2 months back

                                                                                    What if he is so good that I know I’m not good enough for him? I’m from an abusive marriage and feel too damaged for such a good person

                                                                                    • Fiona Gregory
                                                                                      Fiona Gregory  2 months back

                                                                                      men are just sex objects.

                                                                                      • Fiona Gregory
                                                                                        Fiona Gregory  2 months back

                                                                                        easier to remain single or just use him for sex.

                                                                                        • Mel K
                                                                                          Mel K  2 months back

                                                                                          It appears that I've learned or been shown that the men act the same or "copy" the men from the West coast to the East coast. I have a tough time believing that it has to be that way, but this is what I'm shown. I need some suggestions in this area from anyone. Maybe I'm just attracting the same type? I'm not sure....but it's very strange to me. It's almost like a copy cat type of thing. I just find it hard to believe that it has to be that way.

                                                                                          • Prianca shah
                                                                                            Prianca shah  2 months back

                                                                                            On my 1st date wid a guy he asked me for kiss ... I was not comfortable so i said no . He asked 2 times n i denied. Nw i m afraid wat he must be thinking about me. Is he still interested in me or not 😒. And why did he asked me for Kiss ? 😐😌

                                                                                            • Dew Drop
                                                                                              Dew Drop  2 months back

                                                                                              ....if he mentions other women too frequently....if he’s never had a long term relationship....if he always wants sex first before doing anything else...if he doesn’t enjoy sharing his bed for sleeping with you.

                                                                                              • Sarah Wimmer
                                                                                                Sarah Wimmer  2 months back

                                                                                                Hey Mat, I am curious if you could create a video on how to talk with a man so that he asks questions. In my marriage, my husband never asked about me or followed up with a question abouts comments I had made. I have sense learned this is common. I asked a man about this one time and his answer was, "I know you are a good person, so I don't need to ask a question". As if guys miss the idea that questions lead to an opportunity to share deeper. I am the type that if someone shows lack of interest (which I thought meant ask follow up questions), I just stop talking. Any tips for us???