Why Ms. Independent Can't Find Mr. Right | Annie White | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

  • Published: 16 December 2017
  • Dating Coach Annie White coaches women to marriage, by teaching them how to be as intentional, proactive and resilient in their love life as they are in every other area of their life.

    In a wise and witty way, her talk teaches women how to pick and get the man they want using her rejection proof flirting formula 'You Choose, He Chases.' This is a talk every single woman in the dating world must see. Annie White is a Top 25 Dating Coach and Relationship Expert in the country due to her successes in coaching dozens of women to marriage, engagement and relationships. She is an expert contributor on FOX News where she provides skillful dating and relationship advice. She’s been featured in The Philadelphia Daily News for her expertise in helping women find the perfect partner. And she’s on a national tour teaching women how to get the partner and relationship they’ve always wanted. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • Michael Borek
    Michael Borek  3 hours back

    Finding Alimony, Child Custody, your house, your kids, your pets, 401 k etc. I’m 41 never married and putting money into retirement. I’ve traveled all around the world. Western women offer nothing. All my married male friends have thought about suicide.

    • CharmCityCowboy
      CharmCityCowboy  5 hours back

      Really? W0W

      • Justin Potts
        Justin Potts  6 hours back

        To be fair, for guys anyway, it's a numbers game.

        • Justin Cady
          Justin Cady  7 hours back

          I have a happy marriage because I have a wife who is strong enough to be submissive to me... if that makes any sense. She is strong & can get things done on her own & can make her own decisions, but she loves me enough & is confident enough in her own skin to be submissive to me because she knows I need that. Men need that. It’s in our DNA.. but I got lucky, not many women like her left in the world.

          • Justin Cady
            Justin Cady  7 hours back

            You tell a man that he is not “needed” ... he’s gone. Bye bye

            • Candidate_ Glass
              Candidate_ Glass  10 hours back

              Larry or... Chad?💁‍♂️💁‍♂️💁‍♂️💁‍♂️🎅🎅

              • Klandalf Matters
                Klandalf Matters  15 hours back

                While there’s nothing wrong with not needing a man, you may find it difficult finding a man, aside of love and affection, they have a desire and need to provide and take care of a women so that their hard work is appreciated. If your independent you may verbally say it is, but a man will not see or feel any fruit from that. He will never truly know if he is appreciated and it never really works out for the women cause if their independent they eventually gotta let the world know and it becomes a repeated phrase around family, coworkers, and their partner, upon each time he hears that he feels reduced. It’s never been about a strong independent woman “scaring” a man, it’s forever been about his masculinity being robbed from him to the point where he feels useless. And I’m not going to argue about feminism cause it is what it is and it’s not what it’s not and that’s that, but in my opinion all the women’s movements and their strive for their construct definition of independence has created mgtow because all these legal quest opened more doors for women than they intended in the beginning and the end result was that they are now superior to men instead of equal. Look at the population decline and birth rate of the United States, we are trending off of a cliff because it’s just not fair play anymore and men are opting out because that’s what they inadvertently asked for, I would nearly guarantee that if your a single woman over ehh let’s say 34 or older, your chances of finding a “good man” have just took a dump. So much so that I would stand amazed to see that, especially if she has kids by another man. Now folks will say oh bull mr matters it happens everyday, well you would be right, but 2 women out of 20 are bad odds when it use to be maby 18 of 20 or 20 of 20 finding a good man to still have them at that age.

                • Doug Collins
                  Doug Collins  16 hours back

                  It's a trap

                  • Jan Kvapil
                    Jan Kvapil  16 hours back

                    MGTOW, don't get married in the USA.

                    • Fatima Taiwo
                      Fatima Taiwo  17 hours back

                      U know what I just noticed most men joining MGTOW are the lowest in the barrel. Compared to real men they re nothing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. In the end Wen they re old they will be asking God y they are so alone and will regret men re funny 😂😂😂😂

                      • dante sparda
                        dante sparda  3 hours back

                        +Fatima Taiwo haha the only pathetic person here is you. I answered you politely and you respond as one of those bitches the mgtow men are criticizing. the kind of answer losers give, I can explain it but you want anderstand, You are pityfull , real men do not want you either.

                      • Fatima Taiwo
                        Fatima Taiwo  4 hours back

                        +dante sparda if I define a real man for u, u wont still get it so instead of me wasting data on explaining it to someone as pathetic as u why don't u ask google what a real man is😊😊

                      • dante sparda
                        dante sparda  4 hours back

                        and how did you notice that they are the lowest in the barrel. And please define real men

                    • Ron Mendoza
                      Ron Mendoza  17 hours back

                      Us guys chase women? Why? All we have to do is wait for the women to hit "The Wall" and they're going to chase us. How do I know? It happened to me.

                      • patluvsvettes
                        patluvsvettes  19 hours back

                        If a woman is too independent, then it makes me think that she doesn't need or want a man! A man wants to be needed by a woman. If she's too independent, it makes me wonder where I will fit in to her life.

                        • areoblast1
                          areoblast1  20 hours back

                          women spend there entire life for something better.

                          • Jack Scumbo
                            Jack Scumbo  21 hours back

                            Lol. I have been MGTOW Monk since my last relationship ended in the late 90's. 20+ years of peace and happiness. I would rather storm the beaches of Normandy on June 6th, 1944 armed with a rubber chicken than EVER get involved with a modern so-called "woman" again. They are delusional, damaged and downright dangerous.

                            • Seanjohn John
                              Seanjohn John  1 days back

                              Larry went mgtow

                              • Robert D
                                Robert D  1 days back

                                We should reverse roles in society. Women should do the asking, pay for the date, make the first move . . . all of it. Works for me.

                              • Pino Santilli
                                Pino Santilli  1 days back

                                Great talk! Ladies all it takes is some eye contact and smiles and maybe a Hi I'm Sally!

                                • Michael Regis
                                  Michael Regis  1 days back

                                  What about Mr. Struggle?

                                  • Ihab HATIM
                                    Ihab HATIM  1 days back

                                    It's "ask" not "axe"

                                    • john loza
                                      john loza  1 days back

                                      they cant find mr right because they only five a f about themselves

                                      • Gerhard Symons
                                        Gerhard Symons  1 days back

                                        Nobody cares.

                                        • thrilla72
                                          thrilla72  2 days back

                                          What is wrong with a man approaching the women he finds attractive!?

                                          • Norbert Watkins
                                            Norbert Watkins  2 days back

                                            Lame talk

                                            • Killatrucka
                                              Killatrucka  2 days back

                                              MGTOW..I think you ate the wall.

                                              • Mafaman
                                                Mafaman  2 days back

                                                Women have to swallow (pun intended) the bitter fact that Feminism sold them a lie that they're a biological equivalent of a man. Women can't afford to waste away their youth sleeping around and partying, but should instead use it to secure a decent, respectable and hardworking man.

                                                • Mafaman
                                                  Mafaman  14 hours back

                                                  +Fatima Taiwo Thank you?...

                                                • Fatima Taiwo
                                                  Fatima Taiwo  16 hours back

                                                  U re not one of them

                                                • Mafaman
                                                  Mafaman  16 hours back

                                                  +Fatima Taiwo What are you trying to say?

                                                • Fatima Taiwo
                                                  Fatima Taiwo  17 hours back

                                                  I thank God u know u re not one of them

                                              • MadDilla ATCQstarr
                                                MadDilla ATCQstarr  2 days back

                                                The best thing that can come out of this video is that women start approaching & flirting with Red Pill MGTOW's (without the women knowing the men are MGTOW's) and these women learn from first hand experience what it's like to feel the sting of rejection right back at them during their desperation to get a man.

                                                The Ultimate payback. 😂

                                                • choid2614
                                                  choid2614  22 hours back

                                                  But then suicide rates will increase... Oh... never mind. I'll get the popcorn.

                                              • Mafaman
                                                Mafaman  2 days back

                                                An "indehpandent" person who's happiness is dependent on finding someone?..... I guess they don't know the meaning of the word independent.

                                                • Ross Meldrum
                                                  Ross Meldrum  2 days back

                                                  Ms. Independent can't find Mr. Right, because she has a say in the matter. And most times they say the wrong thing and drive good men away, thinking they can do better than they really can.

                                                  • Fatima Taiwo
                                                    Fatima Taiwo  17 hours back

                                                    Thank goodness u know u re not one of them

                                                • Dandrius
                                                  Dandrius  2 days back

                                                  A whole generation of women who have lost all options and opportunities to live with men at normal healthy standards.

                                                  From this point, it's only downhill.

                                                  Men should learn to live alone with themselves. Until the "people" have gotten used to the modern world and no longer set fancy demands.

                                                  R.I.P. Modern dating

                                                  • Ward mccants III
                                                    Ward mccants III  2 days back

                                                    MEN do not chase women.....you are the prize!!!

                                                    • One World Yoga
                                                      One World Yoga  2 days back

                                                      “Men are life Partners not life savers”
                                                      If only men were looked at as partners.

                                                      • One World Yoga
                                                        One World Yoga  2 days back

                                                        For all the women who said,
                                                        Grow up, man up,
                                                        Buy me this,
                                                        We’re just friends,
                                                        You’re just like him...
                                                        If only...
                                                        He’s just a friend,
                                                        You’re insecure,
                                                        You should trust me,
                                                        We’re just talking, what I can’t have guy friends,
                                                        You shouldn’t talk to her,
                                                        Why do you flirt with everyone,
                                                        Do you even love me,

                                                        Not anymore.

                                                        • freak777power
                                                          freak777power  2 days back

                                                          Independent women are not attractive to man. Man objectifies women based on their look and the promise they can make when it comes to children, raising them, cooking, cleaning and putting the foot on dinner table. That's all man really wants. Dear Tedx Talks -> you are clueless.

                                                          • usher luck
                                                            usher luck  1 days back

                                                            I would love a women who works & contributes with the expenses though, I really don't want kids so yeah I can cook,clean then go to work & take care of kids I adopt too so just need a women who can contribute a little by working & also working women can live easily even when we divorce

                                                        • Martin Meier
                                                          Martin Meier  2 days back

                                                          This is all broken on so many levels. :(

                                                          • Manfred Man
                                                            Manfred Man  2 days back

                                                            Red flag. "To all my independent Women" when you hear this , or seeing such a selfish attitude , Run to the nearest exit .

                                                            • yossarius
                                                              yossarius  2 days back

                                                              "You are my own personal trainer, and I don't even know your name. I'm Annie."

                                                              Instant turn off. This “introduction” is built to establish her as the dominant personality in the partnership. She describes him in a subservient role, and then doesn’t ask his name. She instead suggests he is less than her, and subtly challenges him to “step up.”

                                                              This is the kind of tactic I would expect from a PickUp Artist. Most likely, I would be polite but distant, then never call her.

                                                              • Evan
                                                                Evan  3 days back

                                                                If she don't need no man, then that's fine, get lost.

                                                                • Mike D
                                                                  Mike D  3 days back

                                                                  Ahah What? This talk is so ridiculously untrue! "Men approach less because women are less approachable"--What does that even mean? The truth is simple: if you are a woman, you work on your social and intellectual skills, you are smart, you keep yourself healthy and in shape, you have healthy relationships with friends and family (as much as possible) and in general like the company of men, you have most likely already found mr. right. Because we (men) have a special radar to detect unhealthy women and stay away from them. That's why we don't approach (some) women...not because you are unapproachable, but because we want to stay away from you.

                                                                  • robert bright
                                                                    robert bright  3 days back

                                                                    I really believe it's because some women have unrealistic expectations and standards this even goes for the ones that nobody wants and MEN like some WOMEN are just looking for a good time with NO STRINGS ATTACHED.

                                                                    • Steven Larson
                                                                      Steven Larson  3 days back

                                                                      Men Don't Need women like this! Bashes men! OUT!!!!

                                                                      • Leslie Porter
                                                                        Leslie Porter  3 days back

                                                                        This Woman is honest, and is talking sense. Hope you Ladies are listening. Great commentary.

                                                                        • Scout Dog
                                                                          Scout Dog  3 days back

                                                                          Ignore this woman. Here is better advice form and old guy who has seen a lot of life. This advice applies equally to men and women. The world is full of people who are more than happy to separate you from you money, your freedom and your children. And the laws of the United States support them in doing so. 50+ % of you will become divorced and none of you will find your "soulmate". When you divorce, your ex will take half of what you own and your 50% will be go to paying attorneys & bankers. It makes marriage something like playing Russian rullet.

                                                                          • Jonathan Phillips
                                                                            Jonathan Phillips  3 days back

                                                                            Is it just me are all these Independent Women are overweight and unattractive

                                                                            • Kenyan MGTOW
                                                                              Kenyan MGTOW  3 days back

                                                                              Marriage is for women and fools

                                                                              • Kenyan MGTOW
                                                                                Kenyan MGTOW  3 days back


                                                                                • Chris Moore
                                                                                  Chris Moore  3 days back

                                                                                  @1:19 - "The reason you can not find Mr. Right is not because your not beautiful and not that you don't bring value to the table." It's because 100% of women think they are entitled to the top 20% of men and the math just doesn't work. Most women bring very little to the table, they spend more than they earn, are heavily in debt, zero savings and want you to raise their standard of living. All of this while they try to control every aspect of your life and when you say no, divorce happens and they want half of all the money the you have earned/saved, because they gave you the best years of there life. :-(

                                                                                  I read and article the tittle was 90% of married women's depression was caused by their husbands, that may be, but 100% of their husband's depression was caused by their wife.

                                                                                  • radio ron santos
                                                                                    radio ron santos  3 days back

                                                                                    This is good stuff you people are to critical

                                                                                    • Will Woodfall
                                                                                      Will Woodfall  3 days back