What a time to be alone! Releasing the fear of being alone. | Chidera Eggerue| TEDxMauerPark

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  • Published: 19 July 2018
  • Chidera Eggerue ‘The Slumflower’ is a young author, style blogger and creative director of Inclusive​- a travel property company without racial bias. She has amassed a large following of women through opening up important dialogues that women often struggle to have, including topics like body image, dealing with emotions that scare us, the journey to success, and feeling out of place in society. Due to her extremely high social media engagement and exciting content at theslumflower.com, this following has quickly turned into a small community full of like-minded people who want to change the world around them. Being a woman of colour who deals with a lot of subtle friction in her industry, she’s managed to find the balance between speaking up and calling out inequality in the industry whilst maintaining a relatable, fun and infectious attitude.​ Chidera Eggerue ‘The Slumflower’ is a young author, style blogger and creative director of Innclusive- a travel property company without racial bias. She has amassed a large following of women through opening up important dialogues that women often struggle to have, including topics like body image, dealing with emotions that scare us, the journey to success, and feeling out of place in society. Due to her extremely high social media engagement and exciting content at theslumflower.com, this following has quickly turned into a small community full of like-minded people who want to change the world around them. Being a woman of colour who deals with a lot of subtle friction in her industry, she’s managed to find the balance between speaking up and calling out inequality in the industry whilst maintaining a relatable, fun and infectious attitude. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 344

  • TheKayleeanna
    TheKayleeanna  1 days back

    Really liked this! The audio was VERY LOW though. But definitely worth watching!

    • Lily Rose
      Lily Rose  4 days back

      Omg I love her!!!!😩❤️❤️❤️

      • Caitlin Baard
        Caitlin Baard  1 weeks back

        This was like a beautiful vomit of wisdom

        • Dee Bee
          Dee Bee  1 weeks back

          • Ruby Parga
            Ruby Parga  2 weeks back

            This is by far one of the best TEDx or TED talks I've ever watched. This woman is so inspirational, wise, and beautiful <3

            • Niccoló Burrasca Siricio

              Constructive criticism:
              Great talk but she’s a bit obnoxious tbh

              • So K
                So K  2 weeks back

                she didnt use the word heterocentric correctly.

                • Rashid EightTwo
                  Rashid EightTwo  2 weeks back

                  Choose yourself 🙏

                  • Bubbly Lovesalot
                    Bubbly Lovesalot  3 weeks back

                    Damn this girl is so cute! 💜

                    • shannonlilia
                      shannonlilia  3 weeks back

                      Chidera, I love you. You're my little cousin in my head lol. Oh and my boobs have always been a wee saggy, too but they are loved all the same haha! I'm going to check out your book and blog now. I've been following a while. Blessings, beauty and continued joy to you! Muwaah!

                      • Spirit Quests
                        Spirit Quests  3 weeks back

                        Well, fortunately Feminism is taking away the option of relationships.

                        I predict millions of lonely old women, who "don't need no man" realizing that also means she won't get no man either.

                        • CraigVader
                          CraigVader  3 weeks back

                          Do NOT get Married...Ever!!!...
                          Do NOT Live with a Woman!!!...
                          Do NOT Impregnate a Woman!!!...
                          FOCUS on your Health, Hobbies & Career/Business/Investments....
                          This is the PATH to becoming a Jedi MGTOW!!!...

                          • Ferociousswagg Gaming
                            Ferociousswagg Gaming  3 weeks back

                            Man I want to be alone with her.

                            • Ana Letícia Lima
                              Ana Letícia Lima  3 weeks back

                              Amazing TED Talk! This video could never end.

                              • Vaaanesser
                                Vaaanesser  4 weeks back

                                wow this was good and much needed

                                • Nqobile Mdima
                                  Nqobile Mdima  4 weeks back

                                  💕

                                  • Shea Butter
                                    Shea Butter  4 weeks back

                                    I need to hear this ❤️.

                                    • Jasmine Desiree
                                      Jasmine Desiree  1 months back

                                      LOVE

                                      • boxiness
                                        boxiness  1 months back

                                        so inspiring. and she's only 23???? love it love it love it

                                        • DesignbyChesa
                                          DesignbyChesa  1 months back

                                          I'm doing an internship at NYC all alone. I've been enjoying it! Learning much about myself but sometimes I really wish I got someone to talk to

                                          • Tar Rii
                                            Tar Rii  1 months back

                                            SMH I just want to meet her. She helped me alot in what I should and shouldn't accept from people. Love her ❤️

                                            • agbor bechem
                                              agbor bechem  1 months back

                                              Her conclusion is everything

                                              • Folasewa Idowu
                                                Folasewa Idowu  1 months back

                                                This video has saved my life. ❤️

                                                • Annabel
                                                  Annabel  1 months back

                                                  This girl is amazing...

                                                  • Nash _
                                                    Nash _  2 months back

                                                    Where is her dress from

                                                    • Nura Hm
                                                      Nura Hm  2 months back

                                                      i met her today she was amazinggg

                                                      • Nikki Abbott
                                                        Nikki Abbott  2 months back

                                                        needed this :)

                                                        • Ryder Bach
                                                          Ryder Bach  2 months back

                                                          thank you

                                                          • ishotthemoon30
                                                            ishotthemoon30  2 months back

                                                            yasss at this Nigerian beauty!! love that Nigerian millennials are bring about such powerful change

                                                            • Rick Wallace PhD, PsyD
                                                              Rick Wallace PhD, PsyD  2 months back

                                                              The almost inherent need to seek validation is one of the most destructive forces on the planet.

                                                              • Malgorzata Jakubowska-Chaaban

                                                                There is a lot of truth here but be careful with advising people not to bother with relationships etc. When a woman hits certain age majority of us women will want a baby, whether we like it or not. This will come onto majority of women And then if it's late you're looking into ivf etc, you are perhaps alone to do a very difficult task of bringing a new person into the world and then bringing them up. It's just a description of reality btw not that I say most women should want this or that.

                                                                • Malgorzata Jakubowska-Chaaban

                                                                  Does anyone actually ask about Oprah why she is not married?

                                                                  • daniel hoy
                                                                    daniel hoy  1 months back

                                                                    Malgorzata Jakubowska-Chaaban isn’t it obvious?

                                                                • mide Black
                                                                  mide Black  2 months back

                                                                  I had to watch this now, I needed it now... Thank you. ❤

                                                                  • N Alegre
                                                                    N Alegre  2 months back

                                                                    even if u are aware of this is still not cool To get towards death alone

                                                                    • 6EKYUME
                                                                      6EKYUME  2 months back

                                                                      I went from saying “lemme watch a minute of this” to watching the whole video. Love it ✨

                                                                      • Harry Pot
                                                                        Harry Pot  2 months back

                                                                        Wooow.... This is brilliant... This taco i'm eating right now is amazing.
                                                                        So is the video

                                                                        • Kortney F
                                                                          Kortney F  2 months back

                                                                          This is my favourite ted talk, I’ve watched so many and I just LOVE this !!!

                                                                          • Harapriya Nanda
                                                                            Harapriya Nanda  2 months back

                                                                            I am really really struggling in my life now. I am so much depressed that I cannot even concentrate on this ted talk

                                                                            • do br
                                                                              do br  2 months back

                                                                              PLEASE WONT SUM ONE REPLY 2 ME?

                                                                              • Donnell Pool
                                                                                Donnell Pool  2 months back

                                                                                Oh yeah your sagging boobs in your teens you just to lazy to workout . In the 70s & 80s it was your lifestyle to get up and do pushups and sit ups before you go to bed and when you get up in the morning. She just plan lazy . I think she have a problem with herself now she haven't learned nothing she just talking.

                                                                                • Donnell Pool
                                                                                  Donnell Pool  2 months back

                                                                                  All you need to do is believe in yourself and go for what works for you . She just talking and ain't scratching up nothing ...she can go ahead and tell them girls how to be a victim.

                                                                                  • not here to be ur friend
                                                                                    not here to be ur friend  2 months back

                                                                                    I wish this was something we talked about more. I was so mortified of being alone, I spent most of the time I’ve been alive trying to find people, hoping and even begging God that they’d like me then a while ago I decided that I wanted to be alone (I already was but I was deciding finally to embrace it) and it was so so so hard in the beginning, I was still fighting it a bit I suppose but the longer I stay on this path the more I realize that I’m the best friend I’ve been looking for all this time, I just needed to give myself a chance.

                                                                                    • Milani Inalim
                                                                                      Milani Inalim  2 months back

                                                                                      Thank you Slumflower 😍❤️👌🏾👏🏾

                                                                                      • blandine jonzo
                                                                                        blandine jonzo  2 months back

                                                                                        My goodness me. Just a treat to watch and listen. To watch again when I lose myself . Very deserving young woman. Wish her the best.

                                                                                        • Bandana Sharma
                                                                                          Bandana Sharma  2 months back

                                                                                          I'm just reflecting on the things women of colour were doing when I was 23 in 2003.. :/ things have changed a lot. Thank goddess.

                                                                                          • Flora Oh
                                                                                            Flora Oh  2 months back

                                                                                            YESSS QUEEN!

                                                                                            • Thaddeus Reed
                                                                                              Thaddeus Reed  2 months back

                                                                                              Wow, I ran into this powerful and gorgeous young lady on YouTube on the talk show about her talking about her "saggy" boobs and how she loves them! I thought she was so gorgeous and I had to search her and damn I am glad that I did! I want the book now. I had never heard of her!

                                                                                              • Ester Viana
                                                                                                Ester Viana  2 months back

                                                                                                Yes queen!!!!