He's Not Ready for a Relationship - Do This and Make Him Commit Now


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  • Antonio Borrello
    Antonio Borrello   3 months back

    Hi Everyone.. Please share some ideas or topics that you would like to see me cover in a future video. Also, if you have relationship questions, you can email them to me at [email protected]

    • soul sessions tv Bdhrh
      soul sessions tv Bdhrh  1 weeks back

      Dump him!!! after a week of that convo! Don't waste your youth on Selfish men!

    • Reshma Jadhav
      Reshma Jadhav  1 weeks back

      @Antonio Borrello Hie , iv watched a few of ur vedios and they are really amazing. But my question here is that we are in a relationship, earlier he was like all into me and now he suddenly started to flake off slowy. The other day he said that I'm not confident now that I can marry you. And that really struck me. I was like then why waste my time. We did break off twice but we ended up being back together. He does gets jealous when I my ex likes my Instagram post. He saw that took my phone unfollowed him and blocked him as well. He does call me everyday when we not together. But still I feel that the spark which he had in the start is gone somewhere and when I talk to him about it he denies says no I'm the same way just thinking about future next. When I asked him a straight question he said that he needs a year and if everything is fine then he think about marriage. But now he is just a acting a bit weird. I do get doubts that he is seeing someone else but I'm very sure that he isn't , coz we work together and his time is spent right infront of my eyes. But I'm just worried that I don't want him to hang me like this for a year without a proper commitment for future. Like if he says after a year if everything goes good he will think about marriage. That didn't sound good to me. I don't know what to do next and how to handle this situation. Please help.
      Thank you!!

    • Alina Lopez Camara
      Alina Lopez Camara  2 weeks back

      @Laura Chivune and I have the same issue. I would like a video about long distance relationships where there has been a deep involvement (like everyday presence, trips to see each other, every day messages, photos, sex online, etc, etc), but the commitment has not been clear enough. What should one do to get that person miss you and really commit??

    • Ayolandra Harvey Sharp
      Ayolandra Harvey Sharp  3 weeks back



      Plz do topics on how to keep ourselves engaged and happy and easy going... to maintain a healthy distance from the counter part...
      Or how to be emotionally independent...
      Some tips and trials at least to try upon...

  • Kelly Blair
    Kelly Blair  11 hours back

    Great point of view!!! Wish someone would have spoken these words to me years ago! All women need to listen to this video. Very smart!!!

    • Glee Star
      Glee Star  1 days back

      Ok I followed this video and guess what? He just said He wants me back just like that. So now what? I don’t know what to say or what to do. He says I should lower down my expectations... because the more I expect the more disappointed I could end up. I love him but He’s still in question. I’m not sure he’s the one.

      • Aries xx92
        Aries xx92  2 days back

        Love the content! Thank you this is very helpful. Please cover tips on how to avoid falling in love with my crush.

        • Adriana Cabrera
          Adriana Cabrera  2 days back

          How to overcome break ups! I am hurt by a guy right now. I decided to break up with him bc I think he likes but still feel so weak and drained.

          • Laiheng Yee
            Laiheng Yee  2 days back

            i just met this guy, and from the start he already mentioned he is not in for a relationship as he is already very happy with his bachelorhood

            • The Better You Talk Show

              Love this talk. Thank you Antonio

              • Julie Kostas
                Julie Kostas  2 days back

                Video suggestion: updated discussion on how to see if you're stuck in the friend zone or is there hope for something more.

                • Julie Kostas
                  Julie Kostas  2 days back

                  Great quality material and such an important reminder! Thank you for these gems, Dr. Borrello. Wishing you continued success and happiness.

                  • old Timers Haven
                    old Timers Haven  2 days back

                    What does he need to do or say to show commitment? Thanks

                    • Sabrina Kemp
                      Sabrina Kemp  3 days back

                      Hey Antonio how can I do what u say in video when I have a child from him

                      • Divyani Dutt
                        Divyani Dutt  3 days back

                        It feels so freaking good when you’re in the exact same situation but guess what, you’re already doing all this without thinking too much about it.
                        He’s so right, ladies gotta raise their standards! 😍👌

                        • tina ingente
                          tina ingente  5 days back

                          @Antonioborello this is painful if he is not committing his self into a relationship.

                          • Cristy DeShazo
                            Cristy DeShazo  6 days back

                            Meeting and satisfying a mans Hero complex would be a great topic considering how important it is for him

                            • candy
                              candy  7 days back

                              Please do a video about dealing with men that pressure you for sex so early. They give me the excuse of they've went months dating someone only to find out the sex is horrible. That's still not a reason for me to jump right in bed with you 😒

                              • Geogria Peach
                                Geogria Peach  1 weeks back

                                Dating someone famous or a public figure. As females are always after them.

                                • KreizieAngel
                                  KreizieAngel  2 weeks back

                                  Thank you for inspiring me, now i know what to do, 🤗🤗🤗

                                  • Ave Sushi
                                    Ave Sushi  2 weeks back

                                    Ahaha oh ghad I've been in this situation for years. 😂

                                    • fati hussaini
                                      fati hussaini  2 weeks back

                                      I really love ur ideas ... But what if we follow the same things and he Gonna think that she's showing me an attitude or ignoring .. So like this he gonna lose the interest that he has in ? He will stop talking .. And thinks that it was her fault

                                      • Suz
                                        Suz  2 weeks back

                                        This is a great video. I love the advice you give. I have been seeing a man that up until 2 years ago was only my platonic friend for 22 years. After our first date we made out one night. Over the last two years we have been on a few dates and we spend time together once a month because he lives an hr and 30 minutes away. He always makes the effort to come to my area to spend time with me as more than friends while still maintaining our friendship all these years. We get along great. I'm not sure if he feels anything serious about wanting to commit to me but I've never brought it up either.

                                        • Hannah Daniel
                                          Hannah Daniel  2 weeks back

                                          Can I write to him instead of talking?

                                          • Megan94824
                                            Megan94824  2 weeks back

                                            what people never talk about are the woman's sexual needs. Maybe we "give it up" too fast because we are actually in heat at the moment and really like the guy and want to sleep with him! So I'm supposed to be able to control my hormones and my sexual desire more than him? That's not fair. Men should learn how to say no to sex too. They should say I want to but I want us to get to know one another first so we can possibly build a relationship before being intimate. Men need to control their desires too it's not fair to say that only women should have to learn to control themselves. That's unnatural.

                                            • Lin
                                              Lin  2 weeks back

                                              I know guys who are saying no. Emotions are what make life interesting and exciting ....the physical stuff gets boring fast with nothing to keep it going so wait and find a deeper support group to help stay strong.

                                          • Lin
                                            Lin  2 weeks back

                                            Fastest way to find out a persons intentions....just say no to sex! Eastern cultures have this and keep it simple. Why make things complicated and waste your valuable time? We live in a time of spoiled and immature people who are bored with themselves.

                                            • Aasaan hai
                                              Aasaan hai  2 weeks back

                                              Sir I HV lost 8 years... But still he didn't commit .... M fed up.. but really love him... Will this work now?!

                                              • Christine B
                                                Christine B  2 weeks back

                                                I’ve been seeing someone (not exclusive) for almost 6months now, and We both know what we want and it’s something serious and we are both just seeing each other and no one else, what should I do?? ....talk to him about taking the next step?

                                                • blackwidow 81
                                                  blackwidow 81  2 weeks back

                                                  Ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months.....started off strong and now....well for the past 4 months.....he fell back.....wayyyy back. I dont know when he will committ. Im currently doing what your tips are. Im stepping out and dating others. And as hard as it is, i will move on.

                                                  • Holly Camping
                                                    Holly Camping  2 weeks back

                                                    Topic: what to do when he says he doesn't trust you, even when you've done nothing wrong. He doubts everything you say, even though you're telling the truth.

                                                    • Megan94824
                                                      Megan94824  2 weeks back

                                                      I agree alot of men are like this. They are brainwashed not to trust women or had a bad experience or previous marriage so now they're unwilling to ever trust or committ again. It's very sad that men just close their hearts off like this.

                                                  • Nadia Nubian
                                                    Nadia Nubian  2 weeks back

                                                    Antonio, thanks so much for awesome content as always. A topic I would like to know more about is how to set boundaries and communicate them properly, especially when having to cut down on his easy access to intimacy 😉

                                                    • Alison Ames
                                                      Alison Ames  3 weeks back

                                                      How do you really get a guy to open up

                                                      • Leeann Stanbrook
                                                        Leeann Stanbrook  3 weeks back

                                                        I needed this right now

                                                        • Maura Tmr
                                                          Maura Tmr  3 weeks back

                                                          Dear dr.Antonio....
                                                          Your advice about this has already 100% worked for me.
                                                          Tq so much for this.... greatfull... 👍👍👍💕

                                                          • Kajol Bhattacharya
                                                            Kajol Bhattacharya  3 weeks back

                                                            Hey. Can you please discuss that if we have already made mistakes at the beginning by giving everything and giving them more value and they know you there for them.. but how to build our value up because old things are irreversible. And how to make him not take you granted henceforth

                                                            • Veronica Wells
                                                              Veronica Wells  3 weeks back

                                                              How do we letting him know that your dating other men without trying to make him jealous but to make him aware?

                                                              • Veronica Wells
                                                                Veronica Wells  3 weeks back

                                                                This is very helpful. Keeping option open. Love it. Never thought about it like this. Thanks for opening my eyes!

                                                                • Alka Bagoria
                                                                  Alka Bagoria  3 weeks back

                                                                  after being in four years long relationship, he break up with me and got married to someone else that made me shattered, its been 4,5 months , i'm trying to forget him, but still anything comes up in my mind that ruin my whole situation. i want to forget him but how? please tell something about it.

                                                                  • Monique Perez
                                                                    Monique Perez  3 weeks back

                                                                    Hey hi I'm not with this guy were friends he said he doesn't want a relationship with me he just wants friends with benefits nothing else. Can you make video about After you been chasing him and he doesn't want you, versus your not chasing him anymore and he want's you now. Now that's mind games.

                                                                    • Tanyapat Khajhondecha
                                                                      Tanyapat Khajhondecha  3 weeks back

                                                                      The further topic I would like you to talk about the guy who's confusing him self. How to know what's his thinking? If he said he can't give me a commitment but his behaviors like he really like me and he always said he cares me a lot but never say anything sweeter than that. He said he doesn't know himself too and that's bcs we're far away and he worries about distant 😞

                                                                    • Li Jie
                                                                      Li Jie  3 weeks back

                                                                      Everyone is dating with multiple people, having backups. Enjoy the freedom!

                                                                      • P. A
                                                                        P. A  3 weeks back

                                                                        what to do when long distant relationship was very good but after one year , I don't feel the connection any longer.

                                                                        • Alenbertila Gangmei
                                                                          Alenbertila Gangmei  3 weeks back

                                                                          One question....me & my bf we broke up coz he is not interested in relationship but my frens & sister has being disturbing him...so what do u say about this???

                                                                          • jordanna skandarsky
                                                                            jordanna skandarsky  4 weeks back

                                                                            how about a FWB situation? what to do if you like him

                                                                            • Akanksha George
                                                                              Akanksha George  4 weeks back

                                                                              Topic is... Is it right to make him jealous by talking about another guy just for attracting him and to make him want me more.

                                                                              • nina ocanas
                                                                                nina ocanas  4 weeks back

                                                                                So I shouldn’t sleep with him still and date other people and tell him no always. He knows I want him bad. But these steps will get me there? We’re not exactly dating but this will make the one I love want me back?

                                                                                • darkraiisgod
                                                                                  darkraiisgod  4 weeks back

                                                                                  Top 4 priorities
                                                                                  1) Myself
                                                                                  2) Money
                                                                                  3) Parents
                                                                                  4) Hobbies/Pastimes

                                                                                  So I'm good, and I'm 19.

                                                                                  • Sejal Gupta
                                                                                    Sejal Gupta  4 weeks back

                                                                                    He is my bestfrnd n not ready for relationship

                                                                                    • Angelie Mae Bonaobra
                                                                                      Angelie Mae Bonaobra  4 weeks back

                                                                                      Thank you for those very good points. Here is a topic I want to suggest. On your point- make yourself not as available as you are to him. I get that. However, what if he's your bestfriend? Maybe more on Friendships turning into Relationships. Thank you!

                                                                                      • Jolie Chi
                                                                                        Jolie Chi  4 weeks back

                                                                                        You’re awesome!! Thank you for all your videos, they’re so helpful!!

                                                                                        • tulips bloom
                                                                                          tulips bloom  4 weeks back

                                                                                          Thank you SO much Antonio!