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  • Published: 17 October 2017
  • Karen Dolva

    Title: CEO and co-founder of No Isolation

    Dolva is the CEO and co-founder of No Isolation. Her background is in UX/interaction design and informatics and she has previously co-founded the consultancy company UX Lab. With her co-founders, Marius Aabel and Matias Doyle, she has taken No Isolation to 36 employees, build AV1 for children with long-term illness, expanded sales 5 countries and started development of a senior product in less than two years. No Isolation’s goal is to help as many people as possible out of social isolation and loneliness by making technology available for those who can not just use generic solutions to stay connected.

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    Lisens Standard YouTube-lisens Karen Dolva is the CEO and co-founder of No Isolation. Her background is in UX/interaction design and informatics and she has previously co-founded the consultancy company UX Lab.

    With her co-founders, Marius Aabel and Matias Doyle, she has taken No Isolation to 36 employees, build AV1 for children with long-term illness, expanded sales 5 countries and started development of a senior product in less than two years. No Isolation’s goal is to help as many people as possible out of social isolation and loneliness by making technology available for those who can not just use generic solutions to stay connected. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 3 243

  • Dean Is My Husband
    Dean Is My Husband  3 hours back

    ik people tell you things will change and you will get real friends and all that.. But still I wonder why I don’t have all that now

    • Esiom 00
      Esiom 00  8 hours back

      I feel really bad right now and I've been feeling this way for a long time, it comes and goes, I don't know what to do anymore, sometime I even start to have suicidal thoughts even though I know I don't really want to die neither. I think I'm broken inside, I will always feel this way somehow and I don't want to.

      • joaquin Rago
        joaquin Rago  8 hours back

        I feel alone lead to I feel sad

        • Emery Santos
          Emery Santos  2 days back

          Thank you Karen dolva

          • Lupita Maria Rafaela Acosta Millán

            I used to be lonely, but then I realized that making friends was just saying hello to someone and not giving up on the friendship.

            • ivan arciniegas
              ivan arciniegas  2 days back

              Ugh come on, they live in perfect places but still complain.... I can't feel emphatic to this

              • jobje Rabbeljee
                jobje Rabbeljee  2 days back

                You have food, house, matter.
                What do you need?

                • jobje Rabbeljee
                  jobje Rabbeljee  2 days back

                  Studies have shown...
                  Numbers?
                  Wow.

                  • jobje Rabbeljee
                    jobje Rabbeljee  2 days back

                    Solitude is dangerous?
                    Really? Go all the way. Including the device you are holding
                    Right now.
                    I do not care.

                    • Sabecius
                      Sabecius  2 days back

                      Well at least I don't have to kill myself because I'm alone. My body is doing that for me.

                      • Tris Prior
                        Tris Prior  3 days back

                        read self compassion by kristin neff you are never alone you are a part of something much greater than you you are not separate

                        • Purple Turtle
                          Purple Turtle  3 days back

                          PLEASE LIKE AND SHARE AND TAKE A SCREENSHOT SO EVERYONE CAN BENEFIT FROM THIS:

                          For everyone who suffer from connection problem in their life, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I am a doctor 33 and lonely, but here is the suggestion of few books for everyone to seek true connection in life, ( do them in the same order):
                          1. The gift of imperfection,(Brené Brown).
                          2. The Power of Vulnerability,( Brené Brown),( audiobook only ).
                          3. Daring Greatly,(Brené Brown).
                          4. Rising strong,(Brené Brown).
                          5. Braving the wilderness,(Brené Brown).
                          6. The Human Magnet Syndrom,(Ross Rosenberg).

                          • The WolfMan932
                            The WolfMan932  3 days back

                            This girl is putting me to sleep.

                            • Luke Wilson
                              Luke Wilson  3 days back

                              Go onto her website - no info about overcoming loneliness or support for lonely people. Just trying to push a couple of products....thumbs down

                              • windjamrr
                                windjamrr  4 days back

                                Norway?

                                Girl. You need an expressive Italian or something. You are very beautiful. Maybe travel more. ?

                                You are brave and exceptional.

                                • Human Being of Planet Earth

                                  Sometimes it's loneliness and sometimes it's solitude, learn the difference

                                  • Mafaman
                                    Mafaman  4 days back

                                    At least there's a silver lining. We'll all die sooner than others. 😉

                                    • Manos Seferidis
                                      Manos Seferidis  4 days back

                                      At least we have internet. Imagine living in an era without mobiles and computers. I wonder how those people coped

                                      • VashXTrigun
                                        VashXTrigun  4 days back

                                        Loneliness is more than a feeling. Why do you think 'being exhiled' from a community or tribe is/was considered a punishment for most.

                                        • Adam Forrest
                                          Adam Forrest  4 days back

                                          Wow she made sense, and i feel how she felt, love her

                                          • Mgtow-M3 Modern Masculine Men

                                            My problem is that I don't trust in in woman nature. Even when sometimes I would like to have female friends they are too possessive. Women don't know limits.

                                            • Adam Kunzun
                                              Adam Kunzun  4 days back

                                              Some loneliness are adaptive for some people & Some are due to socially Discarded & due to failure in life of a person.

                                              • Eric Dawson
                                                Eric Dawson  5 days back

                                                800,000 people kill themselves every year

                                                • Reece Alexandrian
                                                  Reece Alexandrian  5 days back

                                                  In my view, open communication is paramount. The reason my most sequestered people is to be able to feel listened but if one party acted only to received without giving (listening) it wont happened (listened)

                                                  • neal tran
                                                    neal tran  5 days back

                                                    people who are born and grew up in the city has this fear. The fear of loneliness.The fear to face your self, the fear to be with your self, and the fear to be your self.

                                                    • Eric Jensen
                                                      Eric Jensen  5 days back

                                                      this is the most depressing tedtalk I've ever seen

                                                      • Marie
                                                        Marie  5 days back

                                                        Toxic relationship vs loneliness no difference. Both are bad to live.

                                                        Left my crazy ex and now lonely for 11 years and still feel miserable. Sometimes I wish I could have stayed!

                                                        • Dead Shot
                                                          Dead Shot  5 days back

                                                          Loneliness and depression will make loose your mind

                                                          • Simon Ben Natan
                                                            Simon Ben Natan  5 days back

                                                            Once your parents die if you haven't gotten married nor have kids it's really scary. I work from home. I can have several days without speaking to anyone. I'm almost 40 and I sometimes brush off suicidal thoughts with comedy shows from my phone. I try not to think of my situation because it scares me even more.

                                                            • Alan C.
                                                              Alan C.  5 days back

                                                              "Loneliness is good, whenever you have somebody to talk about it"... interesting words

                                                              • YUXCAT
                                                                YUXCAT  5 days back

                                                                shutup karen

                                                                • Full Iton
                                                                  Full Iton  6 days back

                                                                  Why to look for reasons like technology etc. The destruction of the family and feminism, has motiviated alienation and selfishness.. Are there any more significant reasons?

                                                                  • Yulian Coronado
                                                                    Yulian Coronado  6 days back

                                                                    Loneliness the quiet enemy

                                                                    • darlen peña ponceano
                                                                      darlen peña ponceano  6 days back

                                                                      Sometimes it's better to be alone than to be sorround of people.

                                                                      • Fri3nd's
                                                                        Fri3nd's  6 days back

                                                                        What to do if you have no friend nor can get any?

                                                                        • Pernell Moore
                                                                          Pernell Moore  6 days back

                                                                          This is a result of Western culture. We work all the time to pay an ever-increasing list of bills. So we have less time to grow organic relationships. Plus, everyone creates their own bubble of beliefs, status symbols, religions, politics, worldview, etc. If someone doesn't fit perfectly into our little bubble we don't even care to associate with them.

                                                                          • Gautam Kumar
                                                                            Gautam Kumar  6 days back

                                                                            I am lonely u are lonely
                                                                            Let's be friends and get bored together 🤗

                                                                            • Charlos
                                                                              Charlos  7 days back

                                                                              I wake up most days thinking “yep, this is my last day”. Only thing that stops me is the mess that would be left behind. If I could go full Thanos and snap myself out of existence with no trace, I would do it in a heartbeat.

                                                                              • Riaz Ahmed
                                                                                Riaz Ahmed  7 days back

                                                                                It's the system that made us lonely that's how they want us we are driven

                                                                                • john smith
                                                                                  john smith  7 days back

                                                                                  The way she looks how can she be lonely

                                                                                  • Reloaded2111
                                                                                    Reloaded2111  4 days back

                                                                                    If she never talks to anyone, she is never going to get into relationship.

                                                                                • Martha S.
                                                                                  Martha S.  1 weeks back

                                                                                  People usually consider me as an aloof and outsider. Actually I live in a very good relationship and also have a good friend, I don't need more. TBH because some of my experiences I'm so fed up of people, I don't feel a need to belong to any crowd.

                                                                                  • ubuntuber
                                                                                    ubuntuber  1 weeks back

                                                                                    People who find themselves lonely even after no matter what they do to socialize or find they lack confidence to mingle..dont realize that its a premeditated plan of forces of nature... i.e they have been chosen due to their dormant wiseness to invest all that time to develop some skill. Playing instruments, learning new languages etc.
                                                                                    Failing to use this opportunity they meet with harsh results such as depression or suicide etc.
                                                                                    All the lonely people, you dont know how lucky you are, that your time is not invested in mundane people with a mundane life.
                                                                                    There are the ones who do and then there are who teach. The doers will be always lonely and teachers are always surrounded. Cuz doing takes practice which takes time. This is why very few walk the talk.

                                                                                    • Travis Burns
                                                                                      Travis Burns  1 weeks back

                                                                                      It is all about collective lack of agreeableness, skill and empathy. We are too busy raising ourselves as strong and independent adults. Being human is detrimental for career growth. We have become as fast as our internet connections when seeking for success. Loneliness and social anxiety has been a necessary tradeoff.

                                                                                      • Travis Burns
                                                                                        Travis Burns  1 weeks back

                                                                                        The more I work, the more I get paid. As a collateral, every night I go to bed thinking of suicide and self-harm. This is the plague of our generation.

                                                                                    • lorin haco
                                                                                      lorin haco  1 weeks back

                                                                                      We are all speacial thats why we are alone but at the and alone together. Im sending you all lonely people digital love!

                                                                                      • Arash Kheshtkar
                                                                                        Arash Kheshtkar  1 weeks back

                                                                                        It's the fear of rejection and being rejected in the past that drive us into isolation and loneliness. Thinking that you're not good enough, or worthy.
                                                                                        Letting people in have never worked for me, I end up feeling guilty for inconveniencing a friend.
                                                                                        So, I stopped trying. I know that won't fix anything, but at least it hurts less now. It is possible to die of broken heart.

                                                                                        • Risky Gaming
                                                                                          Risky Gaming  1 weeks back

                                                                                          Naa ,i never had a girlfriend and i am 26, i made friends with lonelyness.

                                                                                          • BLACK JACKET MAN
                                                                                            BLACK JACKET MAN  7 days back

                                                                                            26 here. Lives in solitude. But not sad about it. I'm a firm believer that life is more than just being in a relationship

                                                                                        • WarMask
                                                                                          WarMask  1 weeks back

                                                                                          What's wrong with people? Loneliness? REALLY?
                                                                                          How weak and fragile are you?

                                                                                          • Jason Nosaj
                                                                                            Jason Nosaj  1 weeks back

                                                                                            Lonely people: depressed

                                                                                            Lonely me: driving my Harley 😂

                                                                                            • Reloaded2111
                                                                                              Reloaded2111  4 days back

                                                                                              It's nice to be a sociopath like me in this lonely world.

                                                                                            • BLACK JACKET MAN
                                                                                              BLACK JACKET MAN  7 days back

                                                                                              You are the kind of person I deeply respect