The Beautiful Truth About Online Dating | Arum Kang & Dawoon Kang | TEDxUCDavisSF

  • Published: 27 July 2015
  • Arum & Dawoon Kang teach us about the truth about online dating. No longer are we looking for significant others in the traditional avenue. We need to understand the fine points about the other venues we are using, online dating.

    Arum loves being in the consumer space. She has experience working at Avon Products as well as Amazon, leading efforts to understand consumer needs and behavior to deliver superior product experiences. After graduating from Harvard Business School, Arum is excited to start a business that leverages technology to bring something truly valuable to consumers.

    After wandering around for years trying to find her passion, Dawoon is happy to be finally working on a matter close to her heart, with & for people she loves! Prior to CMB, she lived & worked in Korea, Japan, New York, India & Hong Kong, in a variety of roles that spanned from strategy & business development, marketing, research to investing/finance. She is a proud graduate of Stanford Graduate School of Business.

    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Comments • 640

  • Ceco Elvisa
    Ceco Elvisa  1 days back

    Dating is superficial in general , not just online dating . People are vain

    • Derrick Zorns
      Derrick Zorns  5 days back

      I did what she said it didn’t work 😂

      • Apaphis
        Apaphis  6 days back

        Online dating overall is a scam and a great waste of time for men.

        • trevor h
          trevor h  1 weeks back

          Great talk. Do they have it in English?

          • JASON KALANI
            JASON KALANI  2 weeks back

            Men going after young women is creepy? Haha

            • steve smith
              steve smith  2 weeks back

              Dating websites are just a damaged goods convention

              • iicei
                iicei  2 weeks back

                On line dating sites are hunting grounds for Cluster B mentally ill Narcissists leading to abuse and emotional manipulation.

                • Ken Locke,@
                  Ken Locke,@  2 weeks back

                  Hahaha funny the conclusion, when women are allowed endless space. But men don't have space to finish a single thought! Hahaha yes men even online dating sites are configured for woman to win!!

                  • Terry Howard
                    Terry Howard  2 weeks back

                    Amazing video!!!

                    • Jamie A
                      Jamie A  2 weeks back

                      No. 1 criteria is actually RACE and LOOKS

                      • Declan Hill
                        Declan Hill  3 weeks back

                        I stopped watching at threshold of creepiness, I don't think it's right to shame men like that.

                        • Value Venture Investing

                          How do the two groups have the same average age and height if the two groups are those who are single and those who are not single. Is that not the same as just saying the average of the sample population? lol.

                          • Bradley Schubert
                            Bradley Schubert  4 weeks back

                            Sell sell sell....
                            Get that membership money...

                            Its just a cash machine.

                            • bob23456 bob
                              bob23456 bob  4 weeks back

                              Men looks
                              Women height and money

                              • hunpo1
                                hunpo1  2 weeks back

                                Women looks, height, money, social status...the list grows longer every year. Don't play their game.

                            • Melissa Jamma
                              Melissa Jamma  4 weeks back

                              Great talk!! I like how they gave us workable solutions and left us feeling hopeful and inspired. Great job!

                              • Tom Ciaccio
                                Tom Ciaccio  4 weeks back

                                So much for the strong silent type?

                                • I ROAM ALONE
                                  I ROAM ALONE  1 months back

                                  I wanna 3 way these two 😍

                                  • Chlarie Peace
                                    Chlarie Peace  1 months back

                                    There is nothing beatuiful about on line dating all horrible man it was banning

                                    • rocky76dude
                                      rocky76dude  1 months back

                                      I am not going through online rating and requesting older than 25 to 35 my bio age

                                      • Dima Medved
                                        Dima Medved  1 months back

                                        This comment section is an incel incubator. We all float down here, if you scroll down, you'll float too.

                                        • Mana Man
                                          Mana Man  2 months back

                                          If you can find a 58 year old that can pop out 6 kids...

                                          • Ruth Fanfan
                                            Ruth Fanfan  2 months back

                                            Threshold of creepiness, lol that's so funny.

                                            • Tom Ciaccio
                                              Tom Ciaccio  2 months back

                                              Thanks- good input 😺

                                              • Aron Bechiom
                                                Aron Bechiom  2 months back

                                                I've mixed and matched, in depth profiles, blank with pic, likes/dislikes, ALL of it... Turns out, it boils down to SMV and the Chad/Tyrone factor.

                                                • Aron Bechiom
                                                  Aron Bechiom  2 months back

                                                  Hmmm...and the range only goes to 40 years age.

                                                  • Aron Bechiom
                                                    Aron Bechiom  2 months back

                                                    The issue is that women are vain, and hypergamous. Chad and Tyrone are the only guys these validation whores are seeking. Go MGTOW and become Red Pill aware.

                                                    • Ravi Peiris
                                                      Ravi Peiris  2 months back

                                                      Nice discussion. Gives me ideas on writing a more in-depth profile. Still, I wouldn't mind dating one of the presenters here.

                                                      • Robert Gity
                                                        Robert Gity  2 months back

                                                        Threshold of creepiness? How about we are biologically attracted to what happen to be what younger women have in spades: firm tits smooth skin and a tight figure

                                                        • awardwin
                                                          awardwin  2 months back

                                                          The dating game is completely rigged against men. Unless you are a rich man and you wanna date old women of course.

                                                          • Brandon Hung
                                                            Brandon Hung  2 months back

                                                            In summary, length is the deciding factor.

                                                            • Hermann Russian
                                                              Hermann Russian  2 months back

                                                              Threshold of creepiness? Women at 20-22 are much much more fertile than at 30-40 - take and eat it, dummy!

                                                              • Frito Bandito
                                                                Frito Bandito  2 months back


                                                                • john loza
                                                                  john loza  2 months back

                                                                  the dating game is 90% racial. ive done my own studies

                                                                  • Carrie Sun
                                                                    Carrie Sun  3 months back

                                                                    Too much advertising too out of touch.

                                                                    • Ken Boon
                                                                      Ken Boon  3 months back

                                                                      all the couples at the end all looked like they had professional jobs all good looking ,not your average couple..

                                                                      • Mulatre Star
                                                                        Mulatre Star  3 months back

                                                                        Age appropriate to date and marry according to Psychology Today:
                                                                        Divide your age by 1/2 and then add 7.
                                                                        Men by nature will always prefer younger women. Less mileage, not stuck in their ways and look fresher in the face!

                                                                        • Brenda B
                                                                          Brenda B  3 months back

                                                                          That formula has been proved wrong many times over.

                                                                      • Brian Hill
                                                                        Brian Hill  3 months back

                                                                        The second speaker suggests that going to great lengths describing yourself makes you more attractive and likely to get responses. Writing has always been one of my strengths but I use it to no effect on online dating sites. For writing skills to be effective on online dating, there must be a receptive and appreciative woman reading what you write. In most cases, such a woman does not exist.

                                                                        • Mulatre Star
                                                                          Mulatre Star  3 months back

                                                                          Same experience. Most wont read it. They look at your job status first so they can boast. Even if u r blue collar and make a good living, you are overlooked unless you look like a model.

                                                                      • Oscar Gutierrez
                                                                        Oscar Gutierrez  3 months back

                                                                        Okay so after 12 minutes and 12 seconds of this video my phone is finally charged enough to allow me turn the other way on my bed

                                                                        • Plan C
                                                                          Plan C  3 months back

                                                                          online dating is comprised in majority of single moms looking for their ideal man on hook up dating sites. Married men fantasizing. Serial daters scamming on each other all with long list of lies.

                                                                          • hunpo1
                                                                            hunpo1  2 weeks back

                                                                            Whole thing's just single moms whoring around with the same guys who knocked 'em up in high school. Pathetic.

                                                                        • Tim Saunders
                                                                          Tim Saunders  3 months back

                                                                          Men are attracted to younger, beautiful women, and women are attracted to money/status. Who could have possibly thought that would be the outcome?

                                                                          • shane hester
                                                                            shane hester  3 months back

                                                                            when dating sites first came out it was a very nice way to get to meet people.because of womens hypergamy and intitlment thinking it has turned into just another way to get layed and not take it serious.

                                                                            • NewYear
                                                                              NewYear  3 months back

                                                                              Online dating apps are joke. You sign up and pay and still don't get to message the accounts.

                                                                              • saramations
                                                                                saramations  3 months back

                                                                                The other thing about online dating is that there a lot of fake profiles too. Over the seas people trying to rip you off- be careful. 😩

                                                                                • Pavement Pounder
                                                                                  Pavement Pounder  3 months back

                                                                                  Why does she pronounce women as 'woman?'

                                                                                  • Alex Moon
                                                                                    Alex Moon  3 months back

                                                                                    I guess I'm the exception to the rule because for 8 years trying online dating, my profiles were always detailed and yet my profiles always seemed to get ignored, so yes I myself think online dating sucks. It really is just about wallet depth and looks.

                                                                                    • gigihonee
                                                                                      gigihonee  3 months back

                                                                                      My thought is that people are lazy and don't want to read. Before I saw this video my idea was to write a detailed profile. Not sure why women are only interested in money. I can understand why men steer towards looks. As for financial status, it is more attractive when a man is frugal and manages his money, whatever the amount, responsibly. Men with money can be terrible with their finances. My financial criteria is that a man should have no debt - unless it's a house or student loans. If he has significant debt, which happens, then no marriage, or he has to sign a prenup.

                                                                                  • Dave
                                                                                    Dave  3 months back

                                                                                    Nothing to see, here, folks. Move on. What a waste of time.

                                                                                    • Jennifer Silves
                                                                                      Jennifer Silves  4 months back

                                                                                      I’m 44 and most of the men who hit me up are in their twenties.

                                                                                      • Pool-Aid
                                                                                        Pool-Aid  4 months back

                                                                                        Jump to 6:00 for the actual data lol