6 Signs He Doesn't Want A Relationship With You | Dating Advice For Women by Mat Boggs


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  • MiiSsMiiNa
    MiiSsMiiNa  2 days back

    1.He didnt put a label on it..but he does hold my hand all the times with sweet hugs and kisses (including pda) and always cares if I am okay..but no label stated.

    2. He never does last minute we both plan and he never cancels or is late..he usually he picks me up after work or we just stay at his place the whole weeknd, watching movies or cuddle or have deep conversations or listening to music. Yes, we get intimate as well but that is just when it happens natural, if not staying at his place (e.g if the weather is nice) we go out for a walk or go to our fave restaurant or other restaurants for lunch or dinner..he is always paying (I sometries try to pay but he refuses😮.
    We meet a few times per week either daytime or over then whole weekend.

    3.he is definelty caring and respectful..he always makes sure I feel good or tries to makes me feel comfortable

    4.oh that one is tricky..we text everyday and sometimes call but its taking him someti.es hours to reply..he said he really hates phones (when we are together, he never ever has his phone with him So I actually believe him. He used to text more but we are both busy with work these days. So I really dont mind as we talk about our days daily so we are always up to date

    5. He doesnt cancel plans He once rescheduled but apologized it will be bit later due to work. but never as a pattern.

    6. He doesnt twist around but of kind of
    ...beat around the bush? we only dated for a month so I dont worry by now because I am also uncertain what do I want from him. Yesterday I was a bit tipsy and kept questioning him stuff like did he ever cheat or is he seeing other women or why his ex texted him (they used to live togethet so there is some money issues)...he answered both with no, and I do feel we have really good vibes and he actually treats me good (well so do I) so basically I am a heavy overthinker and we are both exclusive ...so guys,should I just wait and let thibgs progress? I cant say I love him and i certainly dont except him to say it after a month..but does someone has a magical spell that allows me just to relax and not to overanalyze everything. He hasnt mentioned anything regardi g exclusivity or bf/gf stuff. But we make jokes about dating and he once told me hewas very surprised as (quote:" i'm so surprised our friendship turned into a love story"
    Once he kissed me and I asked what for him a kiss one the lips mean?he said it means 'care' now,it didnt sound like he dodged the L-word but certainly i need to cool down and just not be pushy (i wont start it,I promise)
    What does it sound to you guys?

    • Betty Cooper
      Betty Cooper  5 days back

      You're Awesuuuuume Dude,,, Wow,,, Wish I could carry you in my back pocket 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

      • Ms Nobody
        Ms Nobody  1 weeks back

        1. No Title is expected from Him // 2. Rarely See him // 3. Very Unkind towards your time, effort and feelings // 4. Don't care if he heard from you or vice versa // 5. No Future Plans

        • I M A QYN
          I M A QYN  2 weeks back

          Men sweat for 3 hours in a gym, that's a hard work, and he cannot text you a message that takes a few seconds of his time? DROP HIM!

          • Sonia Verma
            Sonia Verma  2 weeks back

            Nice video

            • Deborah TruthSeeker
              Deborah TruthSeeker  3 weeks back

              He only wants sex. I am uncommon, and refuse to do that unless I am married. I do not care how much I think I love him, and want him. I will DIE first, and that too will happen all too soon.

              • Kim V
                Kim V  3 weeks back

                You very good.

                • Jacki DeZell
                  Jacki DeZell  3 weeks back

                  What about when a man won’t even see you, and canceled multiple plans bc of their newfound sobriety? Yet says they have strong romantic feelings for you. Then what? Do I wait? Do I even believe him?

                  • LucianAmpersandDerpy
                    LucianAmpersandDerpy  4 weeks back

                    I have a somewhat sad but mostly dumb story for you:
                    when I was in my teens, I met a guy who fell for my looks right on the spot. we met again and right on the next date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I accepted, but I wanted to let things settle in slowly--we had just met a few days ago and I was very young (he was eighteen). but the end of the story is: he didn't want a real girlfriend. what he wanted was someone to distract him from his ex-girlfriend and someone to have some fun in bed with. but I only realised that after he had taken my virginity against my will and broken up with me for his ex. that was years ago and I still don't have a clue if he knew what he wanted when he asked me for it.

                    • Diana21692
                      Diana21692  4 weeks back

                      Guys with a kid and living ex wife is a red flag. The ex wife would get so jealous trust me it's better to back off to preserve yours and her feelings

                      • BKLNHobo
                        BKLNHobo  4 weeks back

                        I'm dealing with someone who is signaling that he is not ready for a relationship but also sending very strong signals of interest. We run in the same circles so I see him all the time. My approach is to be friendly but casual, avoid being physical, and keep my options open.

                        • SassyJazzyLady Jae
                          SassyJazzyLady Jae  1 months back

                          The greatest issue i had with understanding him was, he wasn't fugal with his time, we were spending whole weekends together and going out on dates , doing things together as if we were a couple, that was what threw me off a bit. .... But everything else Mat said is Dead on Point .... He was fine until i asked "where is this going" he tried to shame me, make me feel bad for asking, he flipped it and try to make me feel as if I'd done smethg wrong by asking him a legitimate question ..... WHY can't dudes Just Be Honest?? it would make Dating & relationships so much easier.

                          • Madi Kat
                            Madi Kat  1 months back

                            Well damn

                            • Dannyelle Finch
                              Dannyelle Finch  1 months back

                              Lol...my ex husband

                              • TheBlackhawk385
                                TheBlackhawk385  1 months back

                                Are there chances if a person is not serious becomes serious to build relationship?

                                • mandybrian025
                                  mandybrian025  2 months back

                                  A guy doesn't want a relationship with you, he shuns you totally. You are never a priority to him. Never answers your texts as early as possible. Neither does he initiate anything with you. No EFFORT whatsoever.

                                  • Kat Parks
                                    Kat Parks  2 months back

                                    He never calls, and when he does, he calls like 6 months later and he says he was busy.

                                    • plussizebarbie2012
                                      plussizebarbie2012  2 months back

                                      YepI’m dating a guy now he is always online dating website he says it’s just for entertainment. I recently went out of town he really didn’t even call to check on me. As I’m writing this message I realize that I really don’t for sticking around for him to be sarcastic to me and not even at like you want a relationship. I think I’m out

                                      • Lori Le May
                                        Lori Le May  2 months back

                                        I rather be alone and happy, then be in a bad relationship and miserable...😌

                                        • Sherlana Pollonais
                                          Sherlana Pollonais  2 months back

                                          I dated a guys that says he loves me.... but if there’s a misunderstanding he gives me the silent treatment 😓

                                          • jothriny
                                            jothriny  2 months back

                                            I really like how you put things is a very new, fresh and creative way, no at all the common explanations..great videos :)

                                            • Sweet Thing
                                              Sweet Thing  2 months back

                                              You know how you know .. you never question it ..once your not sure .. boom there’s your answer 😜..

                                              • Jhana Harris
                                                Jhana Harris  2 months back

                                                I keep replaying 'R'......when you said "kids", I felt my breath leave my body...... I understand the importance of being there for your child... I have a son but I dont make so many excuses. Wow!

                                                • Eunice Park
                                                  Eunice Park  2 months back

                                                  I suppose being ghosted is an indicator haha

                                                  • KellyAnne Tynan
                                                    KellyAnne Tynan  2 months back

                                                    "Let's just be like water and go with the flow"

                                                    • Pauline Hamilton
                                                      Pauline Hamilton  2 months back

                                                      The ending one he makes me feel like I'm crazy

                                                      • April B Ahammer
                                                        April B Ahammer  2 months back

                                                        Wow!!! I have to really take a step back. Twenty years ago I had a working professional platonic relationship with a wonderful man. I was coming out of a bad marriage. We went on a few dates and yet, I was not aware he was perusing me until he called me a week after he ended his fifteen year marriage. Now he is pursuing me again. Now he is seventy and I am 61. He shared his affection for me and now we are in a relationship. He has put so much effort in perusing me and backing his words up with actions consistently, I can’t say no. Yeah! We like one another so much!

                                                        • Mayela Tmr
                                                          Mayela Tmr  3 months back

                                                          He swears he wants a relationship even marriage , but he never writes or tell me things about his days or asks me about anything ... no messages or calls.
                                                          When we are together we are ok . But I feel something is missing ...
                                                          All the letters of this acrostic where accurate except the last one .

                                                          • Mia Segovia
                                                            Mia Segovia  3 months back

                                                            This is so HIM...he checked all the boxes...guess i should start walking away from him

                                                            • Jhana Harris
                                                              Jhana Harris  2 months back


                                                          • Annamaria Palanza
                                                            Annamaria Palanza  3 months back

                                                            So. True. No EFFORT, no relationship.

                                                            • Ishbabe79 Bryant
                                                              Ishbabe79 Bryant  3 months back

                                                              Were good friends and we hang out often or at least talk. Neither one of us are in the place for anything serious but we are becoming close friends and always have so much fun together. I’m fine w not being serious but I don’t want him going out w other girls either. I just don’t do left overs.

                                                              • Victoria Reynolds
                                                                Victoria Reynolds  3 months back

                                                                had one who introduced me to friends and family, spent every minute with me, but he introduced me as a "friend"

                                                                • Therese Kelsy Cunningham
                                                                  Therese Kelsy Cunningham  3 months back

                                                                  He was doing ALL of the things that indicated he wanted a relationship with me, when I met him he seemed healthy from past relationships…actually what drew me to him.....and thennnnn after a few months the ex-girlfriend reached out and he has been in total confusion ever since. She is clear to him that she does not want a relationship again with him....and he continues to reach out to me almost every day, keep tabs on what I am up to. He has acknowledged his confusion very openly and also that he basically keeps his a distance because he does not want to drag me into his baggage until he figures it out. We have gone back and forth with cutting off connecting totally….but after about a week or 2 at the most he reaches back out. He shares that he misses me and its challenged to keep distance from me and gets angry that he is where he is in the situation. I keep keeping on with my life but, know if he were to reach out and be clear I would want the relationships and what it offers. We have great communication as painfully honest as it can be at times. I feel he is as honest as his conscious heart can be…frustrating…
                                                                  I feel a connection but that there is a thorn in it.

                                                                  • X Peaceful girl X /best girl

                                                                    He did not text for some time and when I asked him why? He said its me who did not text

                                                                    • Sandy Howell
                                                                      Sandy Howell  3 months back

                                                                      You are so right.

                                                                      • Lisa H.
                                                                        Lisa H.  3 months back

                                                                        Thank you Matt. This opened my eyes.! Great video.

                                                                        • Seajnt
                                                                          Seajnt  3 months back

                                                                          Things didn't add up from what he told me about his life on the first date. So I started sleuthing and discovered he's married to a very wealthy woman old enough to be his mother. I look back now and laugh remembering when he told me on that first date that he's found a lot of women to be too needy. WTF? Of course they're all *too needy* because you can't give them more than just a booty call which is about all you you really want. Shoot, he could afford a high-class hooker! Why deceive a nice local gal? I guess they have their reasons.

                                                                          • rea00000
                                                                            rea00000  3 months back

                                                                            met this man in app (not dating app), talked with him almost 3 months now, he is consistent talk to me every day, sometimes 3 times a day (morning, afternoon & night) despite of his tight schedule, flirting around, BUT....he wont tell me his real age, only said he is older than me, his profile pic not his face, and never make plan to meet up or at least give me his real face, so it's obvious signs that he doesnt want a relationship with me, right?!

                                                                            • rea00000
                                                                              rea00000  3 months back

                                                                              @Sandy G. He suddenly offline 2 days without prior notice, well a clear sign for me to move on. Thanks anyway!

                                                                            • Sandy G.
                                                                              Sandy G.  3 months back

                                                                              Oh no no no! If he won't tell/show you the simplest of things it's not you. He is for sure hiding thing(s). Walk away while you can.

                                                                          • Ayana J
                                                                            Ayana J  3 months back

                                                                            Effort...so true, Mat! Exclusitivity is so key. Thanks for this video!

                                                                            • Tsega Kassa
                                                                              Tsega Kassa  3 months back

                                                                              I am in this situation naw so it’s better to stop the relationship or I am confused .

                                                                              • Norie Queral
                                                                                Norie Queral  3 months back

                                                                                I've seen all these sign not from him but from me. Does this mean i don't want a relationship? OMG! Big revelation...

                                                                                • Madi Kat
                                                                                  Madi Kat  1 months back

                                                                                  Norie Queral saaame girl same

                                                                              • Iam Silvie
                                                                                Iam Silvie  3 months back

                                                                                Yew to all of it

                                                                                • Ana Ale
                                                                                  Ana Ale  3 months back

                                                                                  He prioritizes everything BUT you (i.e. family, friends, and work and you'll maybe fit in the cracks in his time, maybe). Also, he ignores you and doesn't talk to you for days on end. Huge red flags, dump him! I had to learn the hard way :/

                                                                                  • Alethea Ferrell
                                                                                    Alethea Ferrell  4 months back

                                                                                    My boyfriend said I should stop listening to These vidoes!!! He got me fucked up!!! Everything I've been watching is telling me to get rid of his ass!! Signs he's not into you...he does nothing for you! My birthday was 2/18 and he was broke! He got paid the next day and still has done nothing to redeem himself!!! Mind you, I went all out for HIS! I got nothing!! I'm still salty AF about this!!!

                                                                                    • Alethea Ferrell
                                                                                      Alethea Ferrell  4 months back

                                                                                      Men put in EFFORT when they want you!!! Otherwise he's just not that into you!!!

                                                                                      • Julie Oliphant
                                                                                        Julie Oliphant  4 months back

                                                                                        Why can't he just break up with me?

                                                                                        • Julie Oliphant
                                                                                          Julie Oliphant  4 months back

                                                                                          Why does he bother to text if he's not interested?

                                                                                          • Mish Mello
                                                                                            Mish Mello  4 months back

                                                                                            Julie Oliphant it’s a boost to his ego

                                                                                        • Chi L.
                                                                                          Chi L.  4 months back

                                                                                          thank Matthew, all the reasons are found in my case. I think I know what to do next :)