Why you should fall recklessly in love | Adam Casey | TEDxMU

  • Published: 02 June 2016
  • Adam Casey, once an Officer with the Navy, and then USMC Infantry Officer, a former BIG 12 Student-Athlete at Mizzou, and a cancer survivor discusses the power of falling in love.

    Founder of "I Do It For Her", a 501(c)3 non-profit charity, that dares individuals to be courageous enough to become something better than they ever thought possible. I am a fighter through and through. I truly know how hard the ground feels when knocked down, but more importantly, I know how to get back up time and time again to take just one more shot.

    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 697

  • Santosh Thakur
    Santosh Thakur  13 hours back

    This guy is toxic. I wouldn't pass by him even accidentally... He is scary.

    • Sarah Schaefer Rivilla
      Sarah Schaefer Rivilla  2 months back

      Howwww is this still uploaded. He’s scary.

      • Memory Rinehart
        Memory Rinehart  2 months back

        "Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man were to give all the substance of his house for love, it would be utterly contemned." --S.of Solomon

        • Memory Rinehart
          Memory Rinehart  2 months back

          Rod Serling coming through @ the end...

          • Memory Rinehart
            Memory Rinehart  2 months back

            Who is this guy? Power of purpose in motion...To Rhiannon below it's about determination in whatever he does inspired by his undying love for "her."
            A reminder of my Walt...who I hope to God is now with God.

            • The Intellectual Jihadist

              No thanks. I'd rather remain happily single than go through all this dramatic self-torturing obsession with someone that probably isn't worth it.

              • Nick Weinling
                Nick Weinling  4 months back

                He seems in love with his own ego, from the way he talks and the way his sentences are structured, the breathing is off and dramatic and it makes you disengage because there feels like there isn’t much genuineness like it’s all an act. Hope he’s doing well these days he doesn’t seem a bad sort though.

                • Minnie Not a Mouse
                  Minnie Not a Mouse  4 months back

                  He is trying really hard to be a better person, with no guidance and a heart a big as Texas, and been driven by the energy that love creates. His heartbreak created even more energy and that "love" energy got transformed and came out in other ways. You cant kill energy. you cant kill emotions - He has felt the pain that love can create and he understands its power to drive someone to rearrange the stars ... I hope he finds someone because he has a lot of love to give ...

                  • PL46U3
                    PL46U3  5 months back

                    Love is for the weak minded

                    • Hannah A. Gehrels
                      Hannah A. Gehrels  5 months back

                      Those who needed to hear this will be receptive.

                      God bless you, Lieutenant.

                      • Aidan Patterson
                        Aidan Patterson  6 months back

                        This isn't a talk about love. This is a talk about overcoming adversity. He searches for purpose in life and ran into many insane obstacles, yet overcomes them all.

                        I admire his ability to persevere, he uses this woman as an idea not as an object. She represents the anti thesis to him giving up.

                        • Stjarnljus
                          Stjarnljus  2 months back

                          I'm so relieved some people see further than reacting with "He is obsessed" and then just stop thinking about what he is really trying to say. It's not about her. It never was.

                      • Kenan
                        Kenan  6 months back

                        this poor man has been brainwashed by hollywood

                        • Allie
                          Allie  6 months back

                          I bet they ended the video so curtly because no one clapped

                          • Dinesh Ravi
                            Dinesh Ravi  6 months back

                            I empathize with this gentleman, cause I kind of understand what he feels, at least some of it. He feels indestructible, almost God-like when he does things for her, he talks about rearranging stars for her and doing the impossible for the unconditional Love that he had for her which is commendable as not everyone can or will do that for their lover. But the part that he missed, something I realized only recently after the Girl I was madly in love with dumped me, is that not everyone wants to be worshipped and treated that way because people are not perfect and being imperfect is what drives most of us to live by giving us a purpose. Especially the better girls are the ones who don't want to be treated that way, as they want someone who can identify their flaws and make them work for it and make them a better person, someone they can look up to. That's where your self-identity, self-worth and what some people apparently call self-love comes in. It's something that's very hard to grasp once you're madly in love with a girl as you tend to lose yourself in her love and desperate enough to do crazy things and the last place you would look is within yourself and stand up for yourself even if it meant losing her. If only he kept his dignity, self-respect, and pride when he did all of those unbelievable things he might have got her back or at least given all that love to someone who deserved it.

                            • Celina Persaud
                              Celina Persaud  7 months back

                              Did he ever end up telling her?

                              • JRInTroy
                                JRInTroy  7 months back

                                Well that was weird. This makes me think i shouldn't be watching "independent" Ted talks.

                                • These Truths
                                  These Truths  7 months back

                                  Hmm...this story is like a true overarching surrealism that is misinterpreted by a genuine guy who tells his life like a tragic poem that's disordered and leaves the reader hanging to resolve, but only by themselves. Alone. A lack of true community fosters desperate internal isolationism that sounds like this guy's story but is played out a million different but similar ways. This guy would be an excellent actor. He'd live and become the part. As a fictional but based on true life spiritual/sci-fi/fantasy genre writer, I can appreciate that. Rock on man. Just don't hurt anyone else in your mission and you'll be ok.

                                  PS...there are other fish in the pond if you can't reel that ancient girl onto the shore dude. And this advice is assuming all of the story is accurate. You must shelve her in your mind to move on. peace...

                                  • Lee Green
                                    Lee Green  7 months back

                                    I see an overwhelming amount of comments making this man out to be a bad guy, but I read one that I resonate with. And as it's a full moon in Taurus tonight, I was moved to tears by his passage. He wanted to be a worthy person, and that came about from meeting that girl. He fought himself to feel worthy, and wanted to give up, but he didn't. He always held and remembered how strongly he felt he needed to propel himself upwards and reach his happiness. Yes the girl was where it awoke, but in himself is where it resides.

                                    • Lely Larasati
                                      Lely Larasati  7 months back

                                      I thouhgt it was Tom Cruise pm tgr thumbnail.

                                      • Nikki Sainte-Marie
                                        Nikki Sainte-Marie  7 months back

                                        he is not getting to the point

                                        • Liz R
                                          Liz R  7 months back

                                          Thank you for sharing your story, very brave...I will wonder if he n she will ever really be :)

                                          • Autumn McKay
                                            Autumn McKay  7 months back

                                            He is a good storyteller. Very poetic and descriptive. But his story and tone are quite unsettling and left me with a lot of questions. He needs to know what love really is. I am curious about his organization, though. I never comment on videos, but this one compelled me. Also, the title is misleading.

                                            • Sarah Smiles
                                              Sarah Smiles  7 months back

                                              This guy should be in a drama club.

                                              • li shiyu
                                                li shiyu  7 months back

                                                He looks like Tom Cruise ?? Agree with me?

                                                • Christy Sanford
                                                  Christy Sanford  8 months back

                                                  I wonder what her story is. If he's as rigorous in his expectations of others as he is of himself, outcome looks guarded. Felt I was watching a tragedy with a heroic figure, Keats maybe. His quest to make himself worthy, well, that seems past mastery and into cruelty. Writing might help. I wish for his continued health with or without extreme sports. I've imagined a lot of stories about what a man must want from me when things weren't going well, but this reminds me of "The Jet-propelled Couch" by Lindner. A complete build out.

                                                  • ROBERT ANDERSON
                                                    ROBERT ANDERSON  8 months back

                                                    It's called Sado-Machochism

                                                    • Akira Nakamura
                                                      Akira Nakamura  8 months back

                                                      Fun Fact: Low self worth = success.

                                                      • Steve Thomas
                                                        Steve Thomas  8 months back

                                                        Man. Tom Cruise hit me right in the feels there.
                                                        And I think a lot of people underneath are somewhat missing / needlessly confusing the point of this TED talk?

                                                        • Emma Louise
                                                          Emma Louise  8 months back

                                                          Awful and sad first of all... But hugely irritating to watch and listen to! such dramatic self inflicted distress and self destruction. Showing mental illness with no positive outcome. Why on earth is this a Tedx talk?!

                                                          • menetworq
                                                            menetworq  8 months back

                                                            The force of love in the form of his first love has been powerful and motivating to reach one's highest achievements. Most young hearts may fall into depression and despair after loving and losing one's first love; but he overcame the rejection to accept nothing but the best for himself: a true soldier in the defense of our rights and freedoms, to include falling in love like crazy and to be ultimately fine with it.

                                                            • Billy Merrigold
                                                              Billy Merrigold  8 months back

                                                              I'm 15 minutes in and still not seeing any pros of falling in love.....

                                                              • Margaux Sadoun - ƠՏЦȠƊί

                                                                It must be extremely hard for other women who might be interested in him to stand a slight chance of getting an interest from him... Because of the memory of this wonderful person he fell in love with once 10 years ago, there's not so much space for anyone else in his life, really...

                                                                • jonwiley
                                                                  jonwiley  8 months back

                                                                  Another example of a man who should be content to look good. Handsome thing, he is -- but i have to tune out what he is babbling about because it doesn't make a lot of sense.

                                                                  • Patricio Cordova
                                                                    Patricio Cordova  8 months back

                                                                    Ohh young man, you need red pills.

                                                                    • Charbel Piliae
                                                                      Charbel Piliae  8 months back

                                                                      Despite a lot of judgmental comments, thank you for being vulnerable, authentic and courageously sharing your story, imperfections and your unique process of developing towards your own true self.

                                                                      • ftranchi
                                                                        ftranchi  8 months back

                                                                        He is passionate..I'll give him that. Honestly, it's truly hard to find people with that kind of fight, especially after that amount of remorse, grief and unhappiness. Fighting is what can keep some of us alive and breathing through hard times. We all have hard times, that's what life is. What you make of the happy times is what is important. Although they can be few and far between. I truly hope he, and many others in our crazy world, can find some happiness. Even with the little things.

                                                                        • T. G
                                                                          T. G  9 months back

                                                                          Did he ever see her again at least?... Geez what a sad story. He's fine though 😍 He could be an actor.

                                                                          • billy persistent
                                                                            billy persistent  9 months back

                                                                            This is sad batman.

                                                                            • Dorothea Chia
                                                                              Dorothea Chia  9 months back

                                                                              Just goes to show, you don't know how you will influence another's life all the time. This man went through tough times and if that idea of 'her' was keeping him sane, well that is certainly a positive. How many of us can say we could have done half of what he did?

                                                                              • Aabbish Duaa
                                                                                Aabbish Duaa  9 months back

                                                                                Wow... I thought stuff like this only existed in movies and novels. But I suppose that although we might call his behaviour obsessive, there is something good in it still.
                                                                                He never went after that girl and tried to drag her down with him, he just tried to make himself better, granted he went a little too far, but his intentions are worth appreciating, and what's more, he is worth being recognised and loved.

                                                                                • l.m. Getz
                                                                                  l.m. Getz  9 months back

                                                                                  Tom Cruise could play him in a bio about his life

                                                                                  • IloveRyanGreasley
                                                                                    IloveRyanGreasley  9 months back

                                                                                    Damn, he's good looking.

                                                                                    • Sayer Slayer
                                                                                      Sayer Slayer  9 months back

                                                                                      This guy is super cringey OMG

                                                                                      • Amina Ahutu
                                                                                        Amina Ahutu  9 months back

                                                                                        i am very inspired

                                                                                        • Amina Ahutu
                                                                                          Amina Ahutu  9 months back

                                                                                          he seems very passionate and persistent. thank you for sharing how powerful the force of love is...and to other commentors here who didn't "get", this is not relationship talk, so why are we looking for romantic happy endings..???

                                                                                          • Rob Hernandez
                                                                                            Rob Hernandez  10 months back

                                                                                            Dude: Your accomplishments are for you and you only..
                                                                                            If others acknowledge them then it should only be seen as a side effect not the main objective.

                                                                                            • Rosie Hathaway
                                                                                              Rosie Hathaway  10 months back

                                                                                              Counselling would have proved an easier, more affective option.

                                                                                              • Cora Reedy
                                                                                                Cora Reedy  10 months back

                                                                                                So dramatic.