Why he acts interested, then disappears... (The inside answer most don't know)


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  • ROZES lihn
    ROZES lihn  14 hours back

    This is exactly the situation I’m in right now.

    • emstmerant
      emstmerant  2 days back

      What kind of guy makes excuses or claims to be too busy to make plans. But will text you the day of to go to the movies. Like I was sitting await for your ads. No I'm busy matter since we both are busy this is not going to work. Please let me know you thought.

      • Felicity Aurora
        Felicity Aurora  2 days back

        Do not put too much expectation on the first phase of your friendship.

        • Alicia Zubiri
          Alicia Zubiri  3 days back

          if he disappears, it means he's not meant for you..Move on even if it hurts..The best is yet to come..We deserve someone better ladies..

          • Diva 504
            Diva 504  3 days back

            I'm just tired of seeing love everywhere I look. but the only men who'll talk to me are either morbidly obese, married, or looking for some type of financial help. If I like him, he ghosts or does this cold crap. If I don't like him, he gets under my skin like a parasite and blows up my cell phone 24-7. It's a catch 22 trying to obtain what is at the core of our humanity. Why are all humans hardwired to desire something that's harder than rocket science to actually have.

            • Sofia Rodriguez
              Sofia Rodriguez  4 days back

              He invited me to some salchipapas in the corner.. it was clear to me in the first 5sec on your video Thanks. Mic drop🎤

              • Susie Que
                Susie Que  4 days back

                Here’s how I look at it, instead of me taking the trash out, the trash took itself out 😉

                • C B
                  C B  5 days back

                  I recently met a guy who did this. He went from 100 tot 0 all at once. He said nice things after our first date. There were really no red flags for me to spot, other than that in the beginning when we first met he acted really interested, then all of a sudden he was quiet for two weeks and then he asked me out on a date. But then all of a sudden after our date he didn’t show any interest no more. Like why is he telling me sweet romantic things after our date and then just ghosts me. I couldn’t let it go without any explanation. I needed closure so I couldmove on. When I asked if he still wanted to meet me he straight up lied to me and said “ofcourse, I want to get to know you”. (This was exactly a week later). But ofcourse I didn’t hear from him after the conversation died real quick because he didn’t show much interest. I knew I wasn’t going to hear from him again (oh well, who knows it’s been 5 days now and now it’s weekend. I was free from work this week). I felt very fucked up. But hey, I’ve learnt my lesson. I really shouldn’t throw my whole heart into the dating fase too soon.

                  But the stupid thing is, he is my coworker. So it’s not like I can just forget and ignore him. I don’t really know how to deal with that. I also don’t wanna run from my ‘problems’ by asking to work in the other shift. But I guess I’ll figure it out

                  Edit: I continued watching your video and damn looks like my “date” is the perfect example of someone who doesn’t wanna close the door just in case..

                  • Briana Mullins
                    Briana Mullins  5 days back

                    So how long do you wait before letting him go?

                    • Lai Lai
                      Lai Lai  5 days back

                      I was ghosted a month ago and a while ago someone ghosted me again. Lol. I'm so sick having a conversation with someone whom at first will show me that they are interested to me and then later on will ghost me.

                      • TK Angel
                        TK Angel  5 days back

                        😭😭😭I'm tired of love.This always happend to me!

                        • Farzana Islam
                          Farzana Islam  7 days back

                          You are like a big brother who gives advice to his sisters. Thanks bro

                          • MultifandomStruggles
                            MultifandomStruggles  1 weeks back

                            I told him that I was afraid of losing him cause I have lost everyone else. And now he’s doing it. I haven’t made a big deal out of it, to him. But I am very sad about it. He’s pulling away from me, losing interest. I don’t like it.

                            • football68541
                              football68541  1 weeks back

                              I sorta vanished because she rejected me. Fucking hate it. I still talked to her because I was sure she liked me and stuff, and it was the case. After i came back it was good and all till she got bitchy and i left once more because shit was going nowhere. I tried to apologize and talk shit out, but it didnt work out. I had no idea ig she was annoyed by me or she tried to make me try harder, so i had to leave for the last time. Weeks later she missed me and nearly cried in front of me-WTF?

                              • football68541
                                football68541  1 weeks back

                                I guess no one should take blame but im still confused as to where we were heading and it fucking sucks.

                            • VerdisQuo999
                              VerdisQuo999  1 weeks back

                              Truest thing ever said is the part about being a disappointment to women.

                              • ANNE
                                ANNE  2 weeks back

                                Fuckin bipolar. But he’s correct about the negative energy and the positive energy.

                                • SMD 014
                                  SMD 014  2 weeks back

                                  I never heard the reason of why he disappears? Even though it's pretty obvious...he is immature.

                                  • Cess p.
                                    Cess p.  2 weeks back

                                    The only thing that can save you is don't take anyone seriously, I learned it the hard way.

                                    • risma Baidjoe
                                      risma Baidjoe  2 weeks back


                                      • Victoria Lsaint
                                        Victoria Lsaint  2 weeks back

                                        Maybe he's bipolar
                                        Cant stand guy don't know what he want 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

                                        • SchoolProject
                                          SchoolProject  2 weeks back

                                          I’ve had this happen but it was the other way around. A girl did this to me. Guys should dtop chasing. I did. When I stopped chasing after girls or caring, they started to chase after me. Pretty cool, huh. Nope... I can’t get over that one girl who lead me on. It’s been 5 months and I still think about her. I don’t know how to get over her. She flirted with me, complimented my looks ect. She gave me false hope, so when I told her I liked her, I was shocked that she was like ”eh I dont know, I don’t feel the same way”. Then why the fuck did she flirt with me and send me sexual pics of herself. Turns out she flirts with every person she talks to, and has most likely sent nudes to multiple guys. Such a terrible thing to do, to lead someone on and pretending to like them, making them fall for you, and then just break the other persons heart. Legit have trust issues because of it. We have been talking for 3 years. And her behaviour got more and more sexual during that time. Once I found out she lead me on I stopped contacting her, completely dropped her out of my life. After 2 months she came crawling back and texting me. I thought maybe I could give her another chance. She AGAIN started flirting with me so I told her to fuck off and blocked her on all social media.

                                          • Britt BC
                                            Britt BC  2 weeks back

                                            Great advice...

                                            • Tiziana Maniezzo
                                              Tiziana Maniezzo  2 weeks back

                                              You described the 99% male population on Tinder. So easy to go “next” 🙄

                                              • Leah Justyce
                                                Leah Justyce  2 weeks back

                                                It comes down to we are no longer a challenge. Unfortunately when we women love someone we give them all of us. Men want this on the outside but in their biological make up they want a challenge. Unfortunately relationships are a huge game because it then comes down to individuals as some men give respect back when you give it. Others like to be disrespectful and be that dominant alpha like a caveman. Others never truly want to be in a relationship so they never want that woman so no matter what you do does not work. It's not a one size fits all.

                                                • Para Sakti
                                                  Para Sakti  2 weeks back

                                                  Yeah...so...what if it's your HUSBAND that does this to you? Mr. Yo yo. Into me for a week or two...then emotionally distant for a week or two...then close again. I can't handle it. It's so hard on me and breaks my heart everytime. I'd leave to avoid the roller coasterm..But I'm MARRIED to him!! Ahhh!

                                                  • Mister Man
                                                    Mister Man  2 weeks back

                                                    Your attitudes and values are overly-conventional, naïve, and antiquated.

                                                    • Mister Man
                                                      Mister Man  2 weeks back

                                                      Men whose sense of self-worth comes from what they can do or provide for a woman are foolishly misguided and fundamentally emasculated. Society may tell men that they should edify their value as a person by making a display of their ability to support parasites, but like all the bullshit that it shoves down women’s throats about their own self-work (in reality: value in the scheme of the status quo), this stunts personal potential and ultimate happiness with one’s own life.

                                                      • Juhi Goyal
                                                        Juhi Goyal  2 weeks back

                                                        Thanks Mathew! :)

                                                        • Fitnessence
                                                          Fitnessence  2 weeks back

                                                          Also If a men disappears for no reason.. delete all pictures of him from your phone , block or delete his number . Delete old text. ( so you're not tempted to text or call). Delete from all social medias . That helps me move on . Hope it helps you too

                                                          • Urselhouse oh
                                                            Urselhouse oh  2 weeks back


                                                            • Market Makers
                                                              Market Makers  2 weeks back

                                                              My mentor's business partner leaves her car running when she meets a guy for a date 🤣🤣🤣hi, nice to meet you, bye, dueces ✌✌✌

                                                              • Market Makers
                                                                Market Makers  2 weeks back

                                                                Good reminders

                                                                • Dvenchy
                                                                  Dvenchy  3 weeks back

                                                                  Women do this shyt to men all the time. If a guy ghost you, its cause youre not putting in any effort. A real man is not going to chase your ass. He has other options. Mainly, he is going with the woman who is also making an effort. Dating in real life is nothing like in the movies.

                                                                  • Khadija qureshi
                                                                    Khadija qureshi  3 weeks back

                                                                    The best way to stay happy is not to make that person a priority and to love yourself and everything related to you. So he'll know that he can't treat you like shit and even if he does he knows u will walk out.

                                                                    • Alexandra Riddle
                                                                      Alexandra Riddle  3 weeks back

                                                                      Lol I broke up with my ex a week ago cause he was acting so distant. He’s excuse was always that he’s so busy or too tired because of work. So, I told him that I didn’t really want to invest my time on someone who doesn’t have time for me. Let them go, ladies. Don’t waste your time on people who clearly don’t have time for you.

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                                                                        • dboom1218
                                                                          dboom1218  3 weeks back

                                                                          You should make a podcast

                                                                          • Tania Jones
                                                                            Tania Jones  3 weeks back

                                                                            He was really interested in me, moreso than I was into him. We were talking for over 6 mths. Then I eventually fell for him on the 3rd date, he maintained his interest, I then txted if he saw me as a friend or something a bit more. He then stopped responding as if I asked him for money. Wtf!? I never slept with him.😩 so, I don't get it.

                                                                            • C B
                                                                              C B  5 days back

                                                                              Tania Jones have you heard from him yet?

                                                                          • kadeen calliste
                                                                            kadeen calliste  3 weeks back

                                                                            why do men want to know what your thinking all the time

                                                                            • Eryka P.
                                                                              Eryka P.  3 weeks back

                                                                              attitude of gratitude, great advice 👍🏻

                                                                              • Crystal Williams
                                                                                Crystal Williams  4 weeks back

                                                                                MEN think there ALL THAT & a bag of chips!!😂

                                                                                • E GIBSON
                                                                                  E GIBSON  3 weeks back

                                                                                  It's cute how so many women want to blame an ENTIRE GENDER of people and the opposite sex for who they CHOSE to develop feelings for or have a relationship with. Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions.

                                                                              • Crystal Williams
                                                                                Crystal Williams  4 weeks back

                                                                                Honestly true

                                                                                • ruby lafferty
                                                                                  ruby lafferty  4 weeks back

                                                                                  my theory is that they are partnered. and when their girlfriends start acting suspicious thats when they do the disappearing trick, sometimes to emerge later once the heat is off...creeps

                                                                                  • S Stan
                                                                                    S Stan  4 weeks back

                                                                                    The message makes sense in theory, but difficult to apply in the heat of the moment or just after realizing you’ve been ghosted. I’m going through that experience right now, and let me tell you something, the last thing I feel is gratitude. I can take myself out on great dates and show myself a good time, but when I decide to share my time with a guy and he decides to ghost me when my day is brightest, well, that’s just the ultimate disrespectful and cruel thing a person can do to another. All I think thereafter is “thank you for wasting my time,” not to mention nobody gives me back this wasted time, and the additional time wasted on coping with the confusion and mixed feelings after being ghosted. So ok, time to buckle up, erase all traces of his existence and shift into 6th gear. I’m out...peace!

                                                                                    • Mya Choice
                                                                                      Mya Choice  4 weeks back

                                                                                      The most annoying thing is when they come back, so crazy 🙄

                                                                                      • earth angel
                                                                                        earth angel  4 weeks back

                                                                                        He’s working and you were annoying while he was working so he left

                                                                                        • UrbanRomance
                                                                                          UrbanRomance  4 weeks back

                                                                                          If a guy goes a week without contacting me and then hits me with a “hey” text, he’s blocked. Period.

                                                                                          • Cat Lady
                                                                                            Cat Lady  4 weeks back

                                                                                            But he was making me feel happy and he was showing me a fun time and I told him I appreciate all of this but he still vanished… So what’s his problem?

                                                                                            • Aly Bilello
                                                                                              Aly Bilello  4 weeks back

                                                                                              Cat Lady He's an asshole, that's the problem.