How Men Test Women featuring 3 Male Dating Coaches


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  • Annemarie Bryrup
    Annemarie Bryrup  12 hours back

    Hi guys
    Are there other ways you test women? And how do you get more aware of your own values. I am from Scandinavia and here it is normal to first let him pay for for example dinner and then she pays for drinks same evening. That means you take turns.
    I have a test that we will talk about personal development and some funny stories. 🤗

    • Chantel Brown
      Chantel Brown  13 hours back

      I'm almost 19 and I still haven't had a first date or first kiss. And I'm talking to this boy that I was aquainted with for a year and he said he's going to treat me right and take me on the best first date ever! But as it is courteous, I asked if I needed to bring money even though he is planning our whole date. He said no but its still good to ask.

      • Andrea Collinsworth
        Andrea Collinsworth  19 hours back

        On the initial date whoever invites should pay

        • kimberly a mallett
          kimberly a mallett  20 hours back

          Mark mentioned looking for equality in the "pay the cheque" conversation: a woman whose income lags behind a man's is a commonplace unfortunately. she may have a great job, a job she loves, that doesn't pay. she may be a single mom raising a child or more on a single income. her offer to pay or share the pay would be exemplary given what she must sacrifice. but: is her non-ability to pay a sign of non-equality? ... when money becomes a sign of what's equal, we are definitely in dark times...

          • Mary Russell
            Mary Russell  22 hours back

            so much man-spreading going on!

            • Bushra S
              Bushra S  1 days back

              I love that Dr. Antonio said about paying all the time. And let me add this. As a woman, I would looooooooooooooooove my man to have that kinda mindset, and hey gentlemen, this has nothing to do with 'not being willing to contribute'...its just the way I am as a woman naturally being loooooooooooved to be paid for...its the feeling of receiving, and taken care of. It also shows the naturally providing masculine side of a man. Soon after Jason jumped in with the change in the expectation based on the current society, I naturally felt that no matter how much we go modern or everything-smart, our natural instincts take over in these mostly unconscious happening romantic for me, even offering to pay (since Jason and Mark talks about that as a quality) by learning that wouldn't feel authentic...if you know what I mean.

              • Teti Fleur
                Teti Fleur  1 days back

                no, please Do Not Do this againe.!!! its the worst video i saw on this chanell!!! When you invite a woman on a date it's your responsibility to take care of her. She will never truly respect you as a man and always think of you as weaker than her. So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date. After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you. Showing that you can handle treating her, shows that you can offer protection in the modern world and in future you are able to take care of family. That is all a woman truly wants from her partner . Be confident . Remember that dating her is an investment in your future . Investments cost money. Hope this bad example of yours do not go too far

                • Priscilla Pie
                  Priscilla Pie  2 days back

                  I’ll offer to pay... but I’m not really gonna pay... 😂

                  • Wendy Fee
                    Wendy Fee  2 days back

                    I actually use some of these on my dates. Especially social situations.

                    • Stardust
                      Stardust  2 days back

                      Dr. Antonio has the expectations as if he were a lady lol. Edit: look at all the comments where women will offer to pay and then dump a guy if he agrees. What kind of authenticity is that lol. The same as Dr Antonio wanting the woman to offer to pay but not authentically wanting her to do so. So there are currently thousands of possibilities for a date of two inauthentic people just here in the comment section. I wish people would be sincere with themselves enough not talk about some kind of fake unspoken protocol and authenticity in the same sentence. I don't offer to pay because authentically I want the guy to pay for the date he invited me to. How is it authentic to lie about it to him? Also, friends and dates are two completely different things. Friendship is what it is and my friends will never expect me to sleep with them, cook and clean for them at any point in our relationship.

                      • ilana green
                        ilana green  2 days back

                        Thank you. I understand how you feel. God bless

                        • SATYA MISHRA
                          SATYA MISHRA  2 days back

                          Why should women not pay? That's no rule! Its perfectly fine for a man to expect that. We talk about equality all the time and when the time comes to deal with a man who treats us like equals, being this judgemental and cliche will not work in 2019. If you want to be treated like an equal, behave like one. Period.

                          • Relationship Horror Stories

                            Thanks guys

                            • Iamsam 1969
                              Iamsam 1969  2 days back

                              They just wanna know you can take care of yourself. Of course we can! But you need to define who you consider your “equal”. Woman aren’t men. What qualities make a man and woman an equal? Masculine and feminine energy will NEVER be equal.

                              • WIGAHOLIC 14
                                WIGAHOLIC 14  2 days back

                                I am not offering to pay on the first date maybe the third if we continue to date. Also we are not equal no matter HOW MUCH people try to make it seem that way. There are things a MAN can do that woman can not and never will and things that a WOMAN can do that a Man can not and never will

                                • Stephania Romaniuk
                                  Stephania Romaniuk  2 days back

                                  Woah, woah, woah - $500/dinner on the first date? No way. First, I'd be turned off by this over-the-top spending. Is he insecure? Why is he trying to "impress" just with his wealth? But second, I would wonder if he's using it to pressure me into something physical "just because he paid for this very expensive meal?" I mean, maybe there are different standards where this one coach is from, but for me, it would be an immediate turn-off.

                                  • Anita Plotka
                                    Anita Plotka  2 days back

                                    If a woman wants to show value to the new possible boyfriend... instead of offering to pay the bill... maybe she can cook you dinner sometime? Maybe she can bake you some cookies and drop them off to your house or work? That gesture takes MORE effort to show she cares. Don't you agree experts?? I do not like how you 3 gentlemen do not think with a broader mind or think of the fact that there are other ways a woman can show appreciation for the man without opening up her wallet.

                                    • Anita Plotka
                                      Anita Plotka  2 days back

                                      A woman should never offer to pay on the first date..EVER! I am an old fashion woman and the man should take the woman out and pay for her. and if he's into her and wants more ... then he would be happy to pay for whatever that date entails. You mentioned "equableness??" That's not gentlemanly at all. A true gentleman will always pay. I've been married for many years and when my husband and I were dating he NEVER let me pay. You come off as cheap and that's not attractive at all.

                                      • Tessa Williamson
                                        Tessa Williamson  3 days back

                                        On the first date, I won't offer to pay because that is me testing him. If the second date comes then I will offer, even that is me testing him. I want a man who wants to provide and is happy to do so. I'm willing to pay but if this is my husband then I need to know if he is going to, and be happy to, take care of me.

                                        • Stormy Firelight
                                          Stormy Firelight  3 days back

                                          Yes! do this again, I really enjoyed this one.

                                          • Nora Abreu
                                            Nora Abreu  3 days back

                                            I'd pay for  my meal  if the man is just my friend, but out on a date where he asked me out  I expect him to be a gentleman and pay. this is what is wrong with society now adays men love their money more than the woman. this test is all about men wanting a woman that is willing to contribute to the bills so he can hold on to as much money as possible. these coaches are morons. I only date gentleman and Alpha males non of them expect me to pay for a date ....least on a first date. if he wants you to pay for a first date flag ladies, head the warning he is freaking cheap and will expect you to keep on paying. find a man that honors you and treats you like the goddess you are.

                                            • Cynthia Behr
                                              Cynthia Behr  3 days back

                                              I think I made a mistake by paying for a dinner to treat him because it was Christmas time. He bought dinner. I bought breakfast. He is still reminding me that I like to pay because I'm a feminist which I'm honestly not but I truly wanted to treat him. Another occasion I invited him to a movie. He paid. I bought popcorn and drinks but that somehow makes me an independent feminist. I think he has a chip on his shoulder. I'm really baffled by this man. We've been dating or exclusive for 7 months now and he still says we don't really know each other. I don't know where it's going any more.

                                              • SoundingTheRedAlarm
                                                SoundingTheRedAlarm  3 days back

                                                Here is a bright idea- men:
                                                QUIT TESTING WOMEN!!!
                                                We're NOT YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL TEST GAME!!!
                                                We're HUMAN!!!
                                                And here's the thing, we're completely open about what and who we value.
                                                You don't encourage a psychological "test game",
                                                and then freely decide to NOT call that domestic abuse.

                                                • Princess May
                                                  Princess May  3 days back

                                                  It’s funny
                                                  All these women want men to be traditional when dating but they don’t want to act like traditional women 🤷‍♀️

                                                  • Noushin Madani
                                                    Noushin Madani  3 days back

                                                    Yes, please do this kind of videos again. These are very helpful and attractive. Good job!

                                                    • Murida Khan
                                                      Murida Khan  3 days back

                                                      I never expect a man to pay for me on a dinner date. No obligations. All I am looking for is a good meal in a decent place and a person who enjoys being with me for a moment in time.

                                                      • Brandy Franklin
                                                        Brandy Franklin  3 days back

                                                        This is a very interesting video. I had no idea this was a test men do. I usually offer to pay for at least half of the bill. If the person I'm on a date with isn't acting pushy or giving off vibes of wanting something in return then I will allow them to pay for the bill on the first date. But since half the bill is mine, it's polite to at least offer to pay for half. If there is more than one date I let them pay for dates that are their idea and I pay for dates that are my idea.

                                                        • N. Cofresi
                                                          N. Cofresi  3 days back

                                                          First date a woman should not pay... But she should say thank you.

                                                          • Dilara ÇINAREL
                                                            Dilara ÇINAREL  3 days back

                                                            oh i came for the title of this video and my response is if they test me they can go and funk themselves! :Di may watch later at a later time by now guys haha :D

                                                            • Sportybutterfly 831
                                                              Sportybutterfly 831  3 days back


                                                              Really took yourselves down 100 notches in my eyes. I won’t be seeking our the advice of either of these coaches.

                                                              • Tisha Bendra
                                                                Tisha Bendra  3 days back

                                                                Very funny.

                                                                • Niki Pagnotta
                                                                  Niki Pagnotta  4 days back

                                                                  OMG, I date amazing men, they always pay. We test too.

                                                                  • Joy Marie
                                                                    Joy Marie  4 days back

                                                                    Do not ever marry a women that doesn’t try or offer to pay. Also if you end up paying and she’s doesn’t ask you to text her what you got home safe or sent you a thank you text. That women is trash and has no upbringing or values.

                                                                    • DARK M00N
                                                                      DARK M00N  4 days back

                                                                      I'm shocked at how many women expect the man to pay. For me that's the most awkward part of a date. I feel like he tries to "buy" me, I feel obligated and kind of humiliated and like I owe him something. I want to pay my portion.

                                                                      • Marb Rod
                                                                        Marb Rod  7 hours back

                                                                        You need to come out on dates with your female energy and leave the masculine energy for the work environment and other moments where it might be needed.
                                                                        If the man invites you on a date, and you like him, let him pay. He's the Host not you, let him have his moment!

                                                                        You can have your moment when you take him out or invite him for dinner or a picnic.
                                                                        Offering to pay when he invites you to a dinner date is like if you invited him to your home for dinner and you expected him to offer to pay you for the groceries, drinks, decorations and the time it took you to cook the meal. It's ridiculous!

                                                                    • Helen Peck
                                                                      Helen Peck  4 days back

                                                                      hey guys paying men needs to do that saying thank you is important i dont date when i was young i didnt date but married the man i dated for a year i never paid it seems today woman pay or men go that not right treat your woman with respect thank you

                                                                      • Inas Sh
                                                                        Inas Sh  4 days back

                                                                        Three gentlemen having a pleasant and important conversation.. I was really watching with a smile on my face..
                                                                        Well done ! and thank you all.

                                                                        • Cheryl Good
                                                                          Cheryl Good  4 days back

                                                                          I think that both parties involved should be themselves because that's going to reveal how comfortable they are with themselves how much they like themselves and if they do that you're probably going to have a good time because there's not going to be any false expectations and because you don't own each other you don't have to force the situation don't try and make something happen when there's no spark there or you honestly don't have you no don't get along or which is not to say that's a bad thing you just don't share the same values you know what what you guys have been talking about and then just concentrate on having a good time this may or may not work out take the pressure off

                                                                          • Asim Tahir
                                                                            Asim Tahir  4 days back

                                                                            now girls know the tests...create some new

                                                                            • tiara
                                                                              tiara  4 days back

                                                                              Most of the men giving advice and "testing women" aren't married. Don't think that's a coincidence. They don't know what they are talking about and women don't want anything to do with them. Making her pay? You're a joke. Only a stupid woman with no confidence would do that.

                                                                              • MsGlamourcat
                                                                                MsGlamourcat  4 days back

                                                                                First date or third, it's still a mans world and women are still the only person in a relationship that can have the baby / offspring. Men are attracted to attractive women for a biological reason - to reproduce. If the long-term goal is eventually enter a long-term commitment and create a family, only the woman can do that. If he can't pay for dinner, he can't pay for kids, it's as simple as that. And besides, if I'm going on a date I spend a motza on presenting the best version of myself so that will mean my hair will be done, perfect makeup and grooming, nice clothing, accessories, etc - it's not high maintenance or superficial, it's self-care and self-respect - and it's costly... and no, I don't drop the ball once I'm in a relationship, I maintain myself. If I'm going to that time, effort and expense, then he can at least do his part. If people need to "test" one another, they need to go back and hangout in the playground, it's juvenile and it's just a "Collective Consciousness" program. You guys all brainwash each other "i'll pay for the first 2 dates then if she doesn't offer to pay for the third, she's out!" - did you pick up the tab on her hair, outfit, lingerie, waxing, nails. No, I didn't think so, so shut-up with the stupidity and put things into perspective.

                                                                                • Kristine Willems
                                                                                  Kristine Willems  4 days back

                                                                                  You are three Sweet guys. Well done, good vibes ❣️

                                                                                  • pegacorni
                                                                                    pegacorni  5 days back

                                                                                    I've had a few disagreements with people on the money thing. But like Mark said, it's a matter of values and tastes. There are lots of variables to each situation. I have been on a terrible date before and my thought was "Well, I'm getting something out of this date, cuz I'm not letting this joker waste my time AND my money". I guess I could have gotten up and left, but then I would have just gone home pissed without a good bad date story to tell. 😂
                                                                                    If I (me personally) want a man who treats me differently than his friends or buddies, then I would hope he would want to be generous and treat me every once in a while. In my experience, men who have let me pay on the first date, were not serious about getting to know me or giving effort. But ladies -- please, please, please show gratitude!! Also, I don't think this is just a straight couple thing, so to me, it's not about gender equality...correct me if I'm wrong

                                                                                    • Tanya Katherine
                                                                                      Tanya Katherine  5 days back

                                                                                      Love this video and amazing points from all three of you! What Mark said about equality though... I disagree with that. I feel like the scales should be slightly tipped in either direction in a balanced way. The man having a bit more of a pedestal at times and the woman having a bit of a pedestal at times. What this does is create sexual tension and excitement/adventure and more of a chance for the man and woman to go out of their comfort zones and feel "the chase" which is so magnetic! I am saying this because I am in a committed relationship with a man who is my "equal" and it does get boring at times passionately, to have someone who is exactly on the same level. Although, when the scales tip just by 15% on each side at times, it can be exciting and thrilling. The power shifts make everything so much more alive - "who's court is the ball in now?" kind-of-thing. Its not necessary but definitely more fun for the more emotionally-intelligent. I find girls like me who are attracted to intelligence enjoy that chase and game a little - to stimulate our minds and make our souls flutter! So equal with a *sprinkle* of power imbalance! ;)

                                                                                      • CiCi Chambers
                                                                                        CiCi Chambers  5 days back

                                                                                        PPS- there’s no saber tooth tigers out there....if you’re not protecting (and protecting today is lessening the stress of life), and we pay rent and half of everything....what ARE you providing? If I have to worry about working overtime to pay for our interactions unless i want to always sit in a house or in a park ....then I certainly feel no security around ya, and thus no attraction. Good Women raise men up...if you’re not showing you’re wanting to be the guy who lifts the weight of the world, then you are a man child dependent and no one wants that.

                                                                                        • CiCi Chambers
                                                                                          CiCi Chambers  5 days back

                                                                                          “Why pay for it that’s not today’s expectation?” Wow. What a degradation. When you have kids and get stretch marks and pay with your body...literally, then tell me how much more valuable your dollars are than women with .79 cents on the dollar pay.

                                                                                          And ps- I always offer and men EXPECT it. Not sexy.

                                                                                          • Majestic Dark Horse
                                                                                            Majestic Dark Horse  5 days back

                                                                                            My time is precious, it's "awarded" in private not rewarded in public. I'm still the Prize, female you're the Surprise with it's my turn recycled dingy white bow. Say to her... " Let's toast to peace, Independence & inner happiness. Watch her cringe.

                                                                                            • LOVE Living Peach
                                                                                              LOVE Living Peach  5 days back

                                                                                              Do it again and way longer! 1.5 hours at least ;) <3

                                                                                              • K T
                                                                                                K T  5 days back

                                                                                                A man has to feel he's your knight in shining armor. I you go around and pay for the date, he has nothing to contribute and you actually immaculate him. I don't agree with Mark who said, just be you. I think someone needs to tell this sweet, generous woman to hold back and tell her why.